Porn addiction

Any practical and emotional ways to curb porn addiction is good... for all concerned. For subs and slaves specifically, there is clear evidence to show that constant masturbation and pornography greatly affects their ability to lead a productive life.

 

I have had problem with porn consumption... what helped me the most is the parental control that my Mistress had me installed on my computer and phone.
Twitter, Reddit and this website are not blocked but I am only allowed to access them once a day.

 

We used chastity to stop me from masturbating. It was becoming a real problem. It was a long road of re-programming my brain but successful. I was a 1-2 sometimes 3 times a day guy.

That re-programming was years ago. Now, as a submissive who's wife controls my sexual releases (along with my belt removal) I'm instructed of how she wants me to have my orgasm which are few and far between.. She's a fan of the males consuming their loads as it shortens the submissive recovering time from days to just hours. I'm not a fan of eating it but. Now when she instructs me to masturbate and shoot my load on her body (where she wants it) so she can watch me lick it up, I can't preform the masturbation act without her help. Boy how things have changed for you Mr. Speedy Rabbit as she laughs. She gets me started and I'm able to finish and do the deed..

In my wildest dreams, I never thought I would get to this point.

Say what you want but that is a 100% true statement. It's not an overnight thing but took a long time. I would also point out I thought at times I would lose my mind if I could not cum. By taking all my sexual frustrations and focusing on her and her needs was the trick. Of course having a sub hubby willing to lick and lick his wife is never a bad thing. My wife loved it and still does today.

Fell free to PM me if you would like more details.

JB

 

The secret to success “ Focus on Her not on Her Property “

 

I'm locked up because of my addiction to masturbation. Being locked has greatly affected me in so many ways. The best would be that not being able to perform that act has turned my attention and my affection to my wife. It saved my marriage. Which is the most important thing to me. My wife controls any kind of release I might get. Which is none right now, but it might change later. She has decided that she likes me being locked, so it's permanent. Not crazy about it being permanent but it has helped me to focus on her. She will be the one to decide if it ever comes off again. Love her too much to argue about it, her happiness is now my priority.

 

Taking things into your own hands because your partner has trained you through years of rejection to not bring your sexual needs to her does not mean you're addicted to porn or masturbation. That one way of helping alleviate the issue is to prevent the man from masturbating does not mean that he is at fault. It is just one of the better choices until a cheap and effective drug to bridge the gap in terms of sexual desires between the sexes can be developed.

Actual porn addiction is a serious thing like any addiction and requires treatment through therapy. Chastity is not a solution or an alternative.

 

My wife and I agreed to trying chastity after she caught me masturbating to porn. My bringing up chastity was sadly an attempt to make things better. I admitted it was out of control. Chastity has worked, does work, but I am not changed or somehow trained. Chastity works, it is my brain that is disobedient lol! That, and I am not really ever under strict authority. If she wanted to keep me on permanent lockdown I can see how I might be over all affected positively by that.

 

I believe you are right in a way because I am addicted to reading erotic stories and have carried on even tho I'm now locked. So I probably need therapy to solve the 'problem' . But as I occasionally 'knocked one out' ...and am now not able to, it is definitely solving the problem of not being ready for her... if and when she wants it. This is obviously apart from all the other benefits.

 

I would not say that I have ever been "addicted to porn", but I am glad that in chastity, porn is less attractive to me. I do still go through periods where I am interested, but that comes and goes with a long period (weeks or longer). It often starts again if I have been released and then locked back up, but with time being locked it becomes less and less of an interest again.

 

im more aggressive and driven at work since i have been unable to masturbate.

not even counting the number of hours per week WASTED masturbating, you also sap your energy, drive, and focus when being content post orgasm. when you are pent up and energetic due to being horny but unable to orgasm as your locked in a cage, its easy to find yourself allocating that energy someplace productive. if not swooning on your KH/wife, then at work doing a damn good job at what you do.

atleast thats the case for me

 

false. chastity is like AA. it is the addict admitting they have a problem and are seeking help.
i wouldnt say i had a masturbation problem,, but i was doing it frequently enough to have a negative impact on my marriage. now that im caged, not only is my love life more kinky, energetic and passionate, but i also dont masturbate and focus all that energy somewhere productive.

how is that not solving the problem?
so long as im caged the problem remains solved. and i believe after being caged long enough, i will not even want to masturbate as im so used to "the good life" so as to not disrupt it

 

Am I the only one that watches MORE porn (well, technically I read stories more than watch videos) when locked then when I'm not? At least it feels like I do!

 

i look for stories and other content my wife may enjoy reading.. but she is interested in some of that but mostly just tolerates it. i am finding my time to be better used to do things like help her around the house, start her coffee in the morning and a breakfast on weekdays, nets MUCH better results for us.

 

I wouldn’t say I was addicted to porn and/or masturbating, but I was watching/doing quite a lot of it.

Since Mistress Lux ordered me into chastity almost 6 weeks ago, I’ve almost completely stopped watching porn and, of course, haven’t masturbated at all. In fact, the only porn I watched was in the first week.

All of this is true, and I am the holder of my own key. I could remove my cage at any time and go at it but as Mistress has effectively put me into chastity, it’s for Her to remove it (hopefully this afternoon during our session).

For me, it’s not merely the device that is preventing masturbation, but chastity as a process.

 

More energy to put into more positive things... a good thing.

 

I'm not sure if I watch more porn when in chastity, but I definitely do watch it and read stories and so on. I also do participate more in forums such as this. Chastity keeps me aroused and keeps me searching for that feeling that comes from being so horny and yet so frustrated.

 

I don’t watch half as much porn as I used to, but I was never into normal porn, just fetish porn, bdsm, femdom, ect. Madam and I will watch porn together still, but I won’t spend 3 hours plus surfing forums and masturbating anymore! Well, I Carnt!

 

I brought up chastity to my wife after she said that my masturbating to porn was the same as cheating on her and she could not trust me. I came across male chastity when doing a search for ways to stop masturbating. I brought up the idea to her and we agreed to give it a try. After getting a cage and the fit right, we tried our first 30 day lock up. During that 30 days I redirected my time and energy to doing things to make life better for us both. More help around the house, more quality time spent together with her not worrying about it going further than she wanted and i started to regain her trust.

After a year of getting use to this new life together she asked me to make my last decision, which was to make this a permanent way of life with her in charge. Chastity was just the start, i redirected my addiction to porn for an addiction to being more in love with a higher level of desire for her like when we were dating.

Chastity is just a tool you can use it is not a cure all by just locking a guy up. For us it started us talking more and gave her more confidence in being in control. Now she is addicted to the power she has and I am addicted to making her happy. This relationship is not one sided now, with one partner (me) spending a lot of time and energy on self pleasure.

 

Another thread pushing the evils of porn. Look, admit it, none of us found chastity nor The Mansion in our Sunday school lessons. We discovered them through porn, many directly from what were excellent sources of free porn such as Tumblr. I think of porn like a baker's cookbook. Both provide basic directions to a variety of treats. Overindulgence in any of the entries in the cookbook lead one to being a fat, disgusting, unhealthy & unattractive slob. Porn, too, can be used to excess which has negative effects on some people. But when used moderately and appropriately, both the baked goods of the cookbook and the sexual experiences learned through porn, can be pleasurable additions to a well rounded life. The contents of neither are inherently bad.

 

Speak for yourself
I discovered modern chastity at a ladies tea party where one of the guys was wearing a CB2000.

Prior to that the I had seen pics of full belts claiming to be from history.

So yes most probably discovered chastity via porn, don’t assume nor speak for all of us.

 

Hi all, I am in chastity lifestyle because of my addiction to porn and masturbation. I masturbate 3-4 times a week when my GF is not around. I have even masturbated and cum in the shower when my GF came for a stayover.

Problem:
One of the main reason why I masturbate to porn so frequently is that we have not been having PIV sex since last November (last I recalled). Naturally, I have a higher sex drive than my GF and I crave for sexual pleasure all the time. Often, she will always felt tired after work and didn't have the mood for sex. She is always postponing or says tomorrow whenever I bring up the fact that we have not been having sex. Hence to ease my pleasure, I frequently channel my time and energy on porn just to have a quick orgasm.

Background:
My first cage was a China-made cb6000s, followed by a China-made Holytrainer V2. Funny to say, I was the one who introduced chastity to our relationship last year after watching a few BDSM porn and ruined orgasm videos. From there, I was curious and wanted to know the feeling of having ruined orgasm and how being locked in a cage felt like. Initially, it was pure vanilla and fun to try and see how long I can stay locked. She was also curious about such fetish since it was her first time learning about chastity. We weren't serious about it and eventually, we stopped using the chastity cage.

Our relationship:
We have been dating for 3.5years and a few days back on 1st July, it was our 3rd Anniversary as a couple. I wanted to bring her out for a fancy dinner and a romantic night as usual. But I have been thinking a lot more than a fancy dinner. I thought about how we are gonna get married in 2 years time (i intend to propose next year), us living together and having kids in the future. I told myself that this addiction to porn and masturbation gotta stop now, if not when. And for a second, I felt that I have been disrespecting her all this time because I lost the desire of wanting to have sex with her every after I have my orgasm. Furthermore, I felt lazy, tired and unproductive the very next days which I realised really affect my gym routine that I am trying to be consistent about.

Another reason why I stopped using a chastity cage was due to the discomfort and the smell even after I have rinse through the cage when I showered. So I searched and found a cage that has small holes around for air ventilate and also to dry out the water inside after shower.

The plan:
We had our Anniversary dinner on 5th July and I wanted to surprise her on our anniversary sex being in the cage. I wore the new cage since 1st July, as I writing this post, I have been caged for 1 week. I had my struggle to stay focus this week, but I kept telling myself what's the point if I give up now.

Fast forward to our sex night, my GF did not expect this at all. She actually wanted to call it off/postpone (This happened very often which leads to my porn addiction). But I told her that it will be a fast session. She has no idea that I wasn't having any intention for PIV sex but only to serve her to show that for this to get better, I am willing to be submissive. I told her "let's have this intimate moment first, and I will explain everything after".

I confessed to her about my porn addiction and how often I have been masturbating. She wasn't really mad but more of disappointed that I was disrespecting her. I immediately told her that I didn't intend to have sex tonight but only to please, finger and lick you to orgasm.

Response:
In my surprise, after I told her that, she responded with " I will punish you, tonight you are not allowed you to touch my pussy because you weren't being honest with me'. For a second, it kinda turns me on with what she said. But I felt really relieved when she said that because I was afraid of her reaction as I wanted to chastity lifestyle to be serious this time.

She then started teasing me with her vibrator and we ended our intimacy with me dry humping her for 2 minutes. I asked her to use a timer, allowing me to dry hump for 2mins in missionary position. After which, once time up, push me away if I didn't stop. She got serious after 2 mins and say" No, times up". We cuddled for a while and I thought I could continue touching her boobs and kissing but she responded with " No means No, it's over. You are gonna be locked for another 3 months".

Conclude
After our intimate moment, I told her that I wanted this chastity lifestyle to be serious, and she should take it seriously too. To rewire and kill off this addiction, I told her that I felt bad about doing this behind her back and I wanted to make it right, So let's try this for 2 years, fitting chastity lifestyle to our relationship and see how it goes. I also told her that I wanted this to be permanent but I needed to first survive being caged for 3 months, 6 months and eventually 1 year without sex. To achieve that, I cannot be in and out of the cage frequently. Hence, I have decided to stay locked for 3 months, unlocked for a night, and then 6 months staying lock and eventually 1 year. We also agreed that apart from family planning, as part of the punishment, I am never getting any chance to cum, not to mention having ruined orgasm. She said that my cum is never "cumming" out of my penis, dont expect any in the future.

I told her that she is the keyholder from now on, I am not allowed to consume any form of sexual excitement material including self-pleasure. I am not allowed to cum or unlocked without her permission (the key is kept on her necklace) at any point in time. I know that the chastity lifestyle has changed many, which I intend to slowly prove it to her that I can change too.

As for PIV Sex, we agreed to have PIV sex 3 times a year with no chance of orgasm, on my Birthday (Feb), her birthday(May) and anniversary Night (July). Well as least surviving from now til the 1-year mark, I get to have 3 PIV with her so I am quite satisfied.

In time to come, I intend to propose a chastity vow/contract on our wedding night.

 

Masturbation, sort of.
Porn, no.


Masturbation.
I wouldn't call it an addiction - more me giving in to temptation. I would masturbate to completion maybe 8-10 times per year - and never really saw that 'little bit' as much of a problem.

When we talked about it, I saw her side: she was waiting for me while, unbeknownst to her, I was taking matters into my own hands. There is no other way to look at it: it wasn't fair to her in multiple ways. That was why we bought the Lori's.


Porn.
Both of us detest the idea of exploiting anyone, especially women.
Hard - not interested in that sort of detail. Thanks, no.
Soft - mild nudity can be tasteful but we prefer to have something left to our imagination.

We actually like to look at tastefully sexy pictures (of both sexes) - like bathing suits or suggestive clothing (occasional topless) - and come up with our own captions. Its part of our tease & denial routine.


Tease & Denial.
I fell in love with this during college & introduced my wife my lifestyle preference. She is not a domme by choice but has incorporated this into our routine.
She knows that I love pitting my discipline against her temptations - she just doesnt like when my discipline fails. Neither do I.

 

True. I first read a story about a guy being locked up in a device by his girlfriend. I found it while reading the alt.sex.bondage newsgroup back in the late 80s.