My wife enjoys being talked back to or challenged. We talked last night and she said it turns her on more when we have some friction and I'm not just mindlessly doing everything she wants. BUT not all the time. So I need to navigate when I can challenge her, making an already muddy dynamic even less clear. Any other key holders enjoy that type of friction in their dynamic and how are you applying it day to day?
It really depends on the wife, doesn't it? Maybe it has something to do with her need to maintain some balance, keeping you "manly", in an old-fashioned way. Maybe she feels more empowered taming a stallion. As long as it works for you, enjoy it.
I think if there is some resistance and she can break you, that can add to the dynamic. I would think KH appreciate a sub obeying most of the time, but having to enforce her will on to you, might give her confirmation that she does indeed have all the control. That has to help her confidence about the direction the relationship is going and that she is doing a good job. If you back talk her, but she is able to smack you down (figurately), then it could really shows her dominance. Good luck and enjoy.
My wife likes a bit of a brat. She's borderline sadist (in a fun way) and she enjoys having a lion to tame every now and again. Even the most experienced cat needs to chase a mouse to keep the skills up.
I like to "challenge" Mrs Chaste now and again. She seems to enjoy it when I do so. Ultimately she gets her way! I'd hate for her not to do so! Good game though! Although it's not quite a game. The wish to control my orgasms and keep me chaste is a real part of our relationship!
Rarely will I argue with mistress anymore, I’m generally her good slave doing what I’m asked. I have been finding though that she’ll create some of that friction to spice things up. It catches me off guard sometimes and I get a little defensive. She hard to read sometimes and she’ll remind me she’s just giving me shit because of my position but sometimes it’s really hard to tell if she’s being serious or intentionally being over the top. She definitely enjoys ruffling my feathers a bit because she knows she can.
For sure my GF likes it when I push back once in a while or try to escape. It reminds us both who is in control.
Yes, that's a dynamic that's probably quite common. The trouble, as you suggest, is how to know when she's not in the mood for sassiness and only wants obedience. Perhaps you could think of a trigger phrase, so when you hear it you know she means business. "You're trying my patience, boy," or something similar. Good luck
I've had a very strict Mistress who will take no arguement or backchat and others who are softer and like a bit of banter,but it's important to be careful not to push it to far or there are consequences I won't like. It depends on the Mistresses personality I guess, they are all differant.