Beginning of my story

I originally posted this in “Introductions” but I think it’s a bit long and “Journals” is probably more appropriate.


I just joined the site and am looking forward to being part of the community and maybe learning a thing or two.

What brings me here?
Well, I’ve always been a very sexual person and have always been attracted to dominant females even from an early age. Things like spanking and pegging have always turned me on.
Even before I was married I spent tons of time looking for sex adventures.
In hindsight, I did some stupidly dangerous things looking for the next fix, whether that was looking for a prostitute or meeting up with two guys I met online to bottom for them, etc.
You get the point, sex,sex,sex; all the time, any way, with anyone willing.
I definitely lost track a long time ago but I’ve probably had roughly 50 female partners and just a few male partners.
Other than 6 or 7 these were all “one night stands”.

Thankfully, I married an incredible woman. She is amazing in so many ways.
She is however, not as “kinky” as me generally speaking.
She’d be very content with PIV and oral and nothing else.
Me, I like to add in a little role play, BDSM (on the lighter side, I think), anal, and I’m pretty open to anything else really, as well.
Wife is a good sport and I’m very lucky that she will participate in some of these things with me from time to time.
We’ve had stretches when she’d be pegging me a few times a week and other stretches where she’ll just let me fuck her for my pleasure a few times a week (really not even concerned about her pleasure but just bending over so I could use her to cum)
As I said, she’s a good sport.
We have two kids and that makes our sex lives a bit less than what I’d like. She doesn’t like to do it when they are in the house.
I don’t think I ever really understood chastity or cock cages until a couple of weeks ago. I’m not sure how that is possible as I’ve gotten into so many different kinds of toys and fetishes over the years, but it is safe to say that just 2 weeks ago, I didn’t get it.
We had a weekend to ourselves and as I always do, I set it up for her to dominate me. This probably works 1 out of 5 times lately, the other four will end up with me licking her to climax and then bending her over to finish. I go into it with a plan for me to get pegged and dominated but it usually goes in a different direction and I don’t mind in the moment.
So I thought, let me try one of these cage devices and see if I can’t get her to peg me while I’m in it.
I purchased a good quality cage before doing much research and then decided to read reviews (stupid). Apparently, the site I ordered from has a lot of unsatisfied customers due to long shipping times or products never even arriving.
I couldn’t take that chance as the weekend was quickly approaching so I ordered another cage and express shipping.
I got the thing and it was confusing at first. There were 5 plastic U-shaped rings and a bunch of other little cylinder-type things (which I now know can make the gap bigger and the tube a little longer. It was black, plastic, an inexpensive device.
However, even the largest ring, I could not fit on me.
Disappointing that there would be no cage for the sex weekend.
Wife knew my plan “caged and pegged”, and was down to play as she usually is if the kids are not home.
So we went to an adult store and the one device they had looked like a smaller base ring anyway.
By this point, I’ve done a little research and I understand the components of a cage and the lingo that goes with it.
But as a guy with a relatively small penis, I could not understand why I couldn’t fit in any of these devices that seem to be common sizes. I’m wondering, “are my balls that big?”
But I was determined.
So, after the weekend the first cage I ordered does arrive. I can see immediately that the ring is small and I’m not going to be able to wear it. I played with it anyway just to see but I wasn’t really that close to being able to close it (this one is hinged at the bottom).
But I realized that if I could get as close as I was that maybe the biggest one on the other plastic set might work.
After much struggle and a lot of lubricant I did get it on.
It was plastic, rigid, pretty uncomfortable I would say but I was determined to get used to it.
Wife knows I’m trying to wear it and get used to it.
Part of wanting to wear it at this point, is the submission, but after all the reading I’ve done now, I realize that if wear a cage I will be way more productive in life.
When I started to really think of it, I realized that most of my days off revolves around jerking off, pegging myself and trying to get a nap (all while kids are at school and Wife is at work).
I have so much time that could be used in far better ways that would make my life, and everyone around me better. But I don’t do it, I selfishly use the time to pleasure myself.
I decided that I need to fix this and that a cage might be just the tool I need to help me make some good changes.
So, to continue, Wife knows I’m trying to wear this thing and after I made some remark about it, she says “we need to have a meeting”.
So I’m thinking, is she possibly on board with this?
So right there I decide that I am committed to trying to keep this thing on until the “meeting”, which has now been set for 4 days from then, when the kids will be out.
I wore it, somewhat successfully for the whole 4 days, no orgasms, and I even refrained from anal stimulation just for good measure. I kept myself clean but no penetration. Wore it at work, wore it at night, it’s off now but I still have a red chafing ring and even some small scabbing going on around the skin where the ring was.
It was, at times, quite uncomfortable. But with lots of lube and re-applying lube a few times a day there were times where I didn’t even know it was there. Other times when the chaffing was pretty bad and it was not great. It was digging into me and leaving a mark/bad chafing, but I was determined.
Throughout the four days I was very productive around the house and very focused on helping Wife with kids, laundry, cooking, etc.
She got a foot rub one night, a back rub a different night. I got up to make her coffee in the mornings, kept the house clean, etc.
I asked my wife to read the Chastity Perkins Medium Post, “The Reluctant Wife”.
She did, and we had the meeting. I also read Melissa Rudder’s book “Chastity” and have since given it to her to read.
So, basically, the “meeting”went well.
Wife thinks that I might be onto something. She says that she didn’t realize masturbation was an issue and possibly holding me back from being my best self (and better to her). And, if I’m going to keep being the guy I was for the last 4 days then she would definitely like that. We do have a great and very strong relationship already, but I’m not really holding the door for her at this point, not really serving her in the way she deserves. But she would say that I am already a good husband and father. I just think she saw how much better it could be if we just take away my freedom of sexual release.
She says for me to get a new cage, one that doesn’t hurt me and that when I do, she will be my Keyholder!
I am really excited now. I know it isn’t supposed to translate to more sex or her suddenly being a dominatrix dressed in leather every day, but still.
I think it doesn’t really have to be about that, I think I’m just going to be happy with her controlling my orgasms and helping me to be my best self, for me and for her.
So I am looking at the Cobra cages, going to order today I think as I can’t wait to hand her the keys.
If anyone has any suggestions on other cages I should consider, please drop a line.
Thanks for reading, I’m excited to be here!

 

So I got the knock-off versions of HTV4 and the cobra.
The 50mm base rings fit but the cobra gets uncomfortable while driving and sometimes it stays uncomfortable.
So now I’ve been in the HTV4 for 6 days.
Wife and I had another meeting last night. We signed a contract and I gave her the keys. Contract says 1 orgasm per week but there are many ways I could lose the privilege so it could be far longer
She let me make her cum by rubbing her with her wand rolled over and went to sleep (2nd time this week she did that.)
This morning I mentioned it had been 6 days and asked if she would let me out for the weekly.
She said maybe. A few minutes later she gave me the keys.
She offered me her pussy which I desperately wanted but my cock was so hard I could not get the base ring off. Because of the way this thing is shaped at the top, where the tube connects, I was afraid that might hurt her (or me) if I was thrusting.
I wrestled to get it off but after about a minute she said I had lost my chance and I’d just have to masturbate.
She put her hand on my thigh and rubbed a little while I did and it took about 30 seconds before I shot a huge load, probably more than I’ve ever seen come out of me. I locked back up and she took the key back.

felt kinda bad after the O though.
I feel better now but still not as good as before I came.

im wondering if prostate orgasms are the same or if I’d stay super horny and attentive and not feel down after. I think I’ll be hoping for anal for the weekly O but it is going to be whatever she says and historically she has never initiated pegging much. She will play, but it’s alway my idea and she’s just done it to pleasure me.
If anyone has any opinions on the after effects of different kinds of O’s I’d love to hear.

Also thinking I should get a real HTV4 and retire the knock off. Anyone think that’s worth it, or is the knock-off pretty much the same?

 

wow, I just realized that I am not recording my journey, which is one of the best features of the site.
I guess I just got wrapped up in everyone else’s weird kinks and fetishes and forgot.
It’s been 14 months since I posted.
I’ve probably been to the mansion every day.
So it worked, I can’t get into the whole story right now. But chastity has really brought our relationship to the next level. We are both so happy.
Always showing love for each other, lots of sexy playtime, lots of orgasms for her, very few for me.
She has become quite comfortable dominating me. Whether that is pegging, spanking, golden showers, dressing me in girl clothes….
She seems comfortable with all of it. Dare I say, She likes these things.
I think She will even cuck me at some point, which I realized was something I was really into along the way.
She says She is not ready yet, but It might be in the cards somewhere down the line.
I have dropped 40lbs, She has lost weight as well.
I have not drank any alcohol in about 7 weeks.
We both look and feel better than ever as we approach our mid 40’s. Our sex life is better than ever and we almost never do PIV. I am locked pretty much 24/7 with an odd few days out right after a release sometimes.
We have also successfully transitioned to a 100% FLR outside of the bedroom as well.
I try to serve her needs in any way I can.
There were some bumps along the way for sure.
But we are both happy, excelling at work and at life.
So Chastity changed our lives and has become our lifestyle. I don’t think we would ever go back to the old way.

 

Just for the record, my Wife KH spanks me to help keep me in a more submissive mind-set. She has some vicious implements that get Her message across.
She has also punished me for bad behavior with these implements, though I don’t seem to misbehave too much these days.
These spankings, weather typical maintenance or punishment are hard to take but I’m always very grateful after it.
But the worst and most effective punishment happened about a month ago.
Here ya go…..
She had let me cum after a long lock-up. I can’t remember how, I think it was a ruined after 60 days or so, by Her hand.
It was definitely not with Her Pussy as I haven’t been allowed to fuck Her with my dick in a very long time now. If She wants penetration She will have me wear a strap-on with a Vixskin dildo that is a good bit bigger than me. She loves how it can get to the spots I never could and She is not shy about letting me know about that anymore.
Anyway, I figured the long streak was over so maybe I could sneak something in before we really ramped it up again.
Feeling super horny one day while She was out, I grabbed Her magic wand and brought myself to a caged orgasm with it.
Later, feeling guilty, I confesssed what I’d done and She was less than thrilled.
She installed the four “disciplinary spikes” onto “Her cage” (a Red Chili device).
I wore them for the day and it was quite uncomfortable but I never really got aroused so it wasn’t too bad.
As of late She likes to keep 2 of the spikes in just to add security (as long as I’m not aroused, the spikes don’t really hurt). With the spikes in, I am not inclined to look at porn or pull-out or do/think about anything sexual, as attempted erections are painful and pulling out would break the skin.
Back to the story.
After my confession, and wearing all 4 spikes all day, I had asked Her before bed if we could remove them.
She had just cum with Her wand and I was attempting a weak erection from being allowed to view the spectacle (my god, it is fucking amazing to witness this Woman orgasm) so I was feeling the spikes a good bit. And, a scene like that before bed, it always leads to a serious nocturnal erection attempt about 3-4 hours into the sleep.
I didn’t want to wake up to that as it is extremely uncomfortable even with just 2 spikes in.
This was the only time She has ever used all 4 at once.
So when I requested removal She said, “but I haven’t even teased you yet”.
She told me to lay back on the bed and grabbed Her wand again and put it to my balls. I started to get a little harder and the spikes dug in a little deeper.
Then She started licking the cage and massaging my balls with the wand.
She said, “is this what you wanted? did you want to use my toy without permission?”
“Did you think that was okay”?
I was getting so hard in the cage
She went on “did you want to get your little dick off by using my toy without asking me”?
I begged her to stop but She was relentless with the wand.
“But this is what you wanted I thought, isn’t it”?
“Didn’t you want to put my wand on your cage to try and make that little dick cum”?
“I thought you liked this”
“What is wrong, it doesn’t sound like you like it now”
I pleaded and apologized up and down.
The pain was so unbearable.

This is how Mistress taught me that I am not to touch Her toys without permission.
She doesn’t have to hide it or lock it up like She does with the dildos and prostate toys.
It just sits there, right in the drawer. I see it every time I go to put Her freshly laundered bras away.
I also see it a few times a week while She uses it to bring Herself to orgasm.
It’s right there, all the time.
And I will never touch it again

 

There is so much happening and it is all very exciting. I am learning and becoming an excellent service sub for my Queen, if I do say so myself.
It has become addicting to do things that please Her, make Her happy, and make her life easier.
It is getting easier and easier to do these things that please Her without any expectations.
Can I be satisfied with so much less attention and pleasure for myself?
I questioned that for so long and only recently have I realized that, yes, I can.
I am getting immense satisfaction from pleasuring Her in non-sexual ways.
Ironically, She usually does want an orgasm every day.
The advice I read and heard all over the internet, “do you want your Woman to dominate you? Then BE submissive”
It works, I tried it, it’s like watching grass grow, but you wake up one day and your Woman owns you and She knows it and treats you accordingly.
When you treat Her like a Queen day in and day out, She eventually realizes that She IS a Queen.
I think it’s a hard place for most Women to get to, where they genuinely believe that they deserve to be pampered. That they deserve to be served, a chastity boy striving to meet their needs and desires.
Society raises Women to not be selfish, to sacrifice their needs and wants for others. It’s hard to break that mold.
I broke it for my Wife by being submissive. She wasn’t demanding my compliance (well not on too many things).
She didn’t snap Her fingers and point and expect me to move.
I just did it, I started living that way. I gave Her what She has always deserved without Her even asking for it.
And then once She had it, and had it consistently, She started to see, She started to realize that I’ve been the one shortchanging Her all these years, and that time is over now.
I set the bar high, and I strive to reach it every day, for Her. She is all that matters.
I’m so sorry it took me so long. It had to come from me though, She couldn’t have gotten me to make the turn, I had to make the turn on my own, it had to be my idea for it to work. Now that I’m on the right road, She can drive the bus, She can increase the speed, She can decrease the speed.
The ride will be whatever kind of ride She wants it to be.
She truly believes that, She has confidence in that idea, in Herself; as my leader, my dominant, my Queen.
Only now, can I be happy.

 

So I’m here again to record this journey. It is so crazy. What a way to live!
My Wife, let’s call her Mistress, followed through on the soft cuckolding (I believe is the term).
Told me a great story about a guy She fucked on the night that She was away last week. It’s been brought up again and She has still not broken character.
I think we are just trying to get as close as possible to the real thing to see what my true reaction might be.
Of course that doesn’t work, there is no way to know how I’ll feel if it were to really happen. But I think I’d still like it.
Even days later, we were talking about positions in a text for some reason (maybe I sent a caption that brought it up lol).
And she responds about one particular position, “that being said, it is my current favorite position with my new Bull.”
So fucking hot.
Anyway, locked for 3 weeks now and I’m out of my mind horny.
Yesterday She sent me a text that said, “I have something for you to clean when I get home”
She came home from work, and then the gym, and had me lick her sweaty pussy and then finish Her with a wand on Her clit and a finger or 2 rubbing Her G-spot. She came so loudly and it was fucking awesome. I really am very lucky.
Oh but wait, right before She had me go down on Her, She installed the spikes in my cage, so it was incredibly painful at times while I was licking Her and going through different levels of attempted erections.
Which brought me here. What is up with the spikes? I like it because it really makes it much more difficult to pull out, not that I would, but knowing that pulling out would cause serious pain and broken skin makes it feel more secure. Like I don’t have a choice. That is the feeling I’m after, I guess I want to be pierced.
Anyway, She says that she is going to put the spikes in because I don’t have to work tomorrow. She knows that the spikes are also a good deterrent when it comes to playing with my “pussy”. I don’t get super hard when I stimulate my prostate but hard enough so that the spikes are quite uncomfortable.
So Her theory is, spikes = less focus on my sexual desires and more focused on Her service.
So She put them in and then told me to eat Her pussy. Very clever indeed.
But I was surprised She put them in before bed. She knows that the spikes can make me wake up with an almost unbearable pain because of nocturnal erections. Most of my erection stays in my body with my current cage, but they still happen and the spikes hurt like hell.
So I say, I have to have the spikes on at night?
She says, yes, I won’t feel like putting them in in the morning and I want them in for your day off so you are just going to have to deal with it tonight.
I gave Her a long massage before bed which I don’t think helps with the nocturnal erections.
So anyway, 3 weeks locked tomorrow. She has allowed 1 erection for PIV. I didn’t get to cum. She told me that I would be punished if I did. She came hard on my cock which was incredible, haven’t had that in so long.
She has just recently been able to start having a 2nd orgasm during a wand session, and we went for it on this occasion. She got close but I had to stop or I was going explode inside of Her. She was not thrilled about that.
I don’t know when She will allow another erection but I am so much more horny, this 3 weeks has been harder than my 40-60 day stints.
It seems that removing the cage weekly for cleaning is a thing of the past. That PIV session was the only time I’ve had the cage off, and it went right back on. I can clean pretty efficiently without removing it so it seems that I won’t be getting out of the cage at all anymore, unless She wants to use it or allow an erection.
My poor Wife went an entire decade and probably averaged 10 orgasms a year. Now, She cums almost daily, and apparently, sometimes twice now! I would really like to be able to make Her squirt. I’ve tried all the techniques, watched all the videos, but it remains my white whale.
But multiples is a big step forward!
She is definitely making a mess of the sheets, but it’s not squirting….yet.
I don’t know if I can do it, might need to outsource this job

 

Again with the spikes! They come out for a day and since I have tomorrow off, they go back in tonight.
Again, have to sleep with them cause She won’t remember to put them in in the morning.
So I’ll be back in about 4-5 hours, in gut-wrenching pain, until I can hobble to the bathroom and pee away some of the nocturnal erection that I’m attempting. The attempt is futile, but the pain is real.
At least tonight she waited till after I went down on Her to install.
Still, the sexy time right before bed is probably going to mean 2-3 painful wake-ups instead of just one.
But as Bobby Axlerod once said, “WORTH IT!”

 

As I had a few days off from work coming up, the Mistress decided that I needed some extra motivation to keep my mind from thinking about getting my dick off.
She knows me too well as despite my very good behavior, I do still think about it a lot and it causes attempted erections frequently.
She doesn’t want that little dick even trying to get hard without Her say so and She especially does not want me thinking about sex when I could be focused on doing chores and other things that make Her happy.
Her new go-to solution is installing the disciplinary spikes to make attempted erections painful.
With 3 days off from work She decided I’d be more useful with the spikes in. She decided all 4 spikes were necessary this time.
She took Her key off of Her necklace (which She now wears 24/7) and screwed in each spike.
I was hoping I could avoid any sexy thoughts for at least a little while as once the blood starts flowing and the clitty starts to get plump, the spikes dig in to the shaft and it hurts pretty bad.
Being the savy Mistress that She has become, She told me I would be eating Her pussy right after the spikes went in. After about 40 minutes of licking Her I added in a couple of fingers and and put the wand to Her clit. She started to come hard, one orgasm rolled into another even bigger one, followed by a third a few minutes later.
After dinner She put a strap-on on and instructed me to wear panties and a tight fitting mesh tank. She told me to start sucking as She lay on the bed. I did as I was told and She started to thrust Her hips up, fucking my face and taking great pleasure in my gaging sounds as I attempted to swallow as much of the cock as I could.
She then had me climb onto her, reverse cowgirl style and She held my panties to the side while I lowered myself onto Her shaft.
She fucked me for a little while like this before I was worn out.
Then She grabbed the wand again and brought herself to a 4th orgasm of the night.
FOUR!
In the earlier session, after Her 3rd orgasm and before a half-hearted attempt at #4, She said, “I just need a big dick in me”.
It has been truly remarkable to watch Her grow into this hyper-sexualized version of Herself.
I am so grateful. Thanks Chastity!!