One area my wife seems to highlight is when she will ask why I have not done certain things like empty the dishwasher etc and it might be because I was doing something else so I will say so! Last night she was cross that I 'gave her back chat'! I said I am just explaining why I have not emptied the dishwasher! Later she told me 'If you want this lifestyle you need to behave better'!
I don't back chat now to be honest. I did the first two years but I honestly can't remember the last time. I am sure you will do it less as you move forward. Your wife is right to challenge you about it and you probably need to say sorry and promise to try harder. May be worth treating her to something.
Well, we had a bit of a disagreement last week and Mrs Chaste was pretty pissed off I think! We are all hunky dory now but I don't think she has forgotten. Trouble is our daughter is back home and looking for work so our normal life has stopped! However we are off on our own for a holiday in a few weeks and I have a feeling that I will be made to pay for my behaviour when we are away!
I think it’s great that she has verbalized to you what she wants and expects from this lifestyle. I hear many complain that their partner doesn’t enforce their rules, say what they want, or connect expectations with this lifestyle. She expects ____, and if ____isn’t done than you are not holding up your end. I don’t know your dynamic, or how she handles these things. Some may require punishment etc, your partner may just be a “I’m going to quit all this if you don’t play by the rules”. I personally would rather be punished than always live with never knowing if she is just going to quit. One thing for certain, it sounds like she understands what she wants, and excuses aren’t one of them. If you were busy doing something else instead of what she wanted, you need to prioritize. Or if it really is too much to get it all done, I find it reasonable to ask her which jobs need to be done first in case you can’t finish. Some good communication will end most of the small stuff, and keep her feeling like she is important and a priority. Good luck!
A few years ago my wife had no inclination about her 'power' but in the past month she has taken it very seriously!
I agree with her. You *know* why she asked. She wasn't asking what you were actually doing instead. She was asking why you disobeyed. I would hope to be punished in that circumstance.