Hi All I'm i self locker and didn't communicate to my wife that I didn't lock up for a few days. When she found out she was not impressed. She's looking for punishment ideas to inflict for my deviant behaviour before our next round of lockup. I'm hoping the members here could post a bunch of ideas here and she will pick one amongst the ideas put forward. Please only realistic punishments thanks
She takes away the cages for a while so you can't self lock and you will be punished for not being locked each day. She pegs you every day or so with a strap-on until she is satisfied. Bra and panties or pantyhose for you every day. Your butt is plugged. You give your wife at least one if not several orgasms for every day you were unlocked. You give your wife whatever she wants without question until she is satisfied. You receive a ruined orgasm every day or so. You are always in a miniskirt or babydoll dress when at home. You are always naked when at home. You must edge on command regardless of who is around. You loose all your male underwear - time to go to the lingerie store. You only sleep on the floor chained to the bed. You always remain standing facing the corner of the room unless your wife instructs you to do something. You apologize to your wife several times every day and beg for forgiveness. You ask for and receive daily spankings. Please let us know what your wife ultimately decides to do. You should suggest that she join CM and talk to other wives. Welcome to CM!
I'm confused. You are a self locker but your Wife was upset when you didn't? In that case should she not take control of the keys? Then she has no worry about you not being locked up.
I can relate. Wonderful for the most part doesn't care to take the responsibility of ensuring that I'm locked - so she largely leaves it to me. Fair enough. At the same time, if I'm suddenly not locked then she's disappointed. If I'm not locked an admit to having played with myself, then she is unhappy about it. The disappointment she feels is about the fact that I've not stood up to my own goals, and the unhappiness is down to the fact that at some point I foolish gave her the gift of my orgasms. I.e. they would only happen if she had allowed me to. I think a suitable punishment is something that you dont like doing. It sounds like she doesnt wish to take charge as much as allow you to explore, so perhaps your punishment should be something that involves you're own work and attention rather than hers. Something like not to talk about anything kink related for a week, or no kink-related internet for a week or similar. Whatever it is - it shouldn't be something where she has to 'do' anything.
I think you are engaging in wishful fantasy and pounding your pudding while sincere people dance to your corrupt music. Here is what I base my thoughts on: Apparently you and your wife are on such different pages in your sex life as you cannot even broach the subject of chastity. That being the case, it is unlikely that your wife would make the jump to exploring punishment options via a chastity group. Don't live life inside your head while soliciting fodder for your fantasy. Ss
@salonslave I think you might have not quite got the right context of the op. There are different ways that people work self locking . On this case there was a communications failure with regards to when the op was supposed to be locked up. Not that @never2l84chastity is not locked up with his wife's full knowledge. Some couples are not as obsessed about chastity as others may be. It's a question of what works for you . As far as the op goes what is there to say. We really have no idea of what may or not be a sutable punishment or what your wife would think reasonable. Two ways you might make amends . Either household chores which often goes down well . Or any of the previous posts from frocks to bull whips . Lol Xx Wendy
@never2l84chastity you have violated your chastity term. I obviously don't know how long this was actually for but I would suggest it is at least doubled. With no computer time and no teasing or anything that might excite you.
@salonslave, I'm not so sure that you were wrong as such as there is so often a strong element of fantasy in the wishes of those new to chastity, as well as those more experienced, and that the fantasy element can end up being foisted on an unwitting partner. What I do think is that while you have a great turn of phrase, you were using it in a negative way which has a tendancy to close discussion down rather than in a way that might help open up discussion both from and with the OP. Something to think on. I note that you were able to calm the discussion on gun-control in another thread in a very nice way which helped open the discussion to more people and I hope you'll continue to enable open discussion in future. @never2l84chastity - what punishments have you come up with so far?
Usually we determine the length of my chastity period by the roll of 2 dice. if the total is 7 or under we take that number and multiple by it by 3. So a 7 would yield 21 days of chastity. If the number is 8-12 we multiple that amount by 2. Usually results in about a 2 week lock interval. For my punishment my wife has decided to double my length for the next 2 stints in Chastity. So if the total is seven or under we multiply by 6 and if 8-12 multiply that number by 4. My wife usually keeps me on edge about whether I will receive no orgasm, ruined orgasm or full release after my lock up period ends and the new one starts. This time she has said that there will be no full release for at least 30 days. Previously my record was about two weeks so this should be interesting.