What “Clicked” with your key holder?

My GF came into our relationship knowing she wanted to put a guy in chastity. She had seen it in porn, read up on it, and had become infatuated with the idea of controlling a man's access to his own cock. So I got incredibly lucky in that I didn't have to convince her to play with it. Once she discovered how compliant it made me, I'm pretty sure she's decided that any future guy she's with will likewise have his cock locked up.

 

Admitting masturbating.

 

My Wife wasn’t really reluctant with it, I just had to reassure her that she didn’t need to feel guilty about denying my orgasms. That just took time for her to adjust to, once that guilt went away, and she saw how much extra attention she was getting from me, that was it. We’re now four years in, and our normal sex life is her having orgasms and me staying locked mostly.

 

For my wife, she considers that western society is way too phallic focused, and having me locked in chastity meant that at least at home and in our relationship, that would not be occurring.
But she also really enjoyed the extra attention and affection that followed.

 

I think part of it was that I self locked so often and gave her the key. It showed her that I enjoy being in the cage and being denied orgasm. Then as time went on she saw that it was truly ok to not let me out when we are being intimate and she got her orgasm. That made it less clean up and easier to do intimate things quickly and without a big deal and she could get her orgasm. That built up to her enjoying mainly that I am more likely to initiate giving her an orgasm when I am locked then when I am unlocked..it doesn't hurt that the toilet seat stays down when I am locked either ;-)

 

For me, we have tried a good few times over the last 3 years. This time it seems perfect. Menopause has made things a bit sore and me in a cage has led to more pleasure for her and I am being reviewed every 30 days for compliance. If I have been good and compliant it will stay on for another 30 days. Dynamic has been turned and she loves the control element. No more masturbating when working away.

 

Stared with controlling my masturbation. Then she saw how attentive I was when locked up. Then there was the feeling for her that once I orally provided her with some wonderful orgasms while locked, she did not feel guilty about having to do the same for me.
She loved how much I dripped with desire for her. I now wear pads everyday in my panties!

My wife has said many, many times, we'll never go back to being a vanilla married couple. We love our WLM, with the D/s dynamic.

 

I can identify with that - my wife has agreed to make all this permanent if I want as she is happier with me and her orgasms when I am locked

 

I’m not 100% sure what made Her first embrace it. I know it happened the very first time. She was never reluctant. There are a lot of factors for Her now. It’s a challenge for both of us

 

I found this forum and wanted to become a KH.

 

She discovered it! Madam has always been Dom and we have always been in a bdsm/flr one day she was watching some femdom clips on the net and saw a slave wearing a chastity cage, so she googled it, and found the old CB website and read about it.
I was then ordered to order a cage, and that was it! Locked for life.

 

Once she realized sex could be when she wanted it and only for as long as she wanted it. She no longer feels pressured to make sure I’m “done” as I’m denied orgasms (of any kind) for weeks or months at a time. She gets to have as many orgasms as she wants, then we’re done and she can relax and bask.

 

My wife has embraced the idea recently. She loves contorol, my better behaviour, when I am locked. She now get an orgasm daily, before it was once a week or even less. So she is more happy now and finally embraced the idea. She now keeps me locked longer, than I would like to. It took five years!

The most important for her probably is to orgasm daily.

 

By the way, my wife never orgasms orally. I have to wear a strapon with 10" cock. That gives her an orgasm fast. She probably would have never get such a big cock in real life.

 

Do it as it fits for you.

 

Me doing as I'm told straight away. She loves the power.

 

For us, it was a natural progression. After catching me wearing panties and starting to feminize me, She got me to confess all of my dark secrets, like the amount of masturbating I had been doing. So She insisted that we do chastity on the honor system, which worked for a month or so before She realized that I had been "dishonorable". That's when the cage "clicked" with Her and the lock "clicked" with me about 4 yrs ago!

 

Interessant. So ein Forum wie dieses findet man nicht, wenn man nicht danach sucht. Was war der Auslöser?

 

As mentioned earlier it started with my sister reporting about it.

 

It might have already been said elsewhere, but your locked partner owes your sister big time. Beer, jewelry, or whatever you approved/deem appropriate as a show of gratitude.

 

Definitely.
We will discuss that when we meet tomorrow.
It was exactly twelve weeks ago, when she told me about her boyfriend and chastity. I didn't had an idea then.

 

How has menopause affected your wife's sexuality and libido? Has chastity helped?

 

I confessed that I had been masturbating and viewing porn for decades without her knowledge. There was much embarrassment and shame. She could tell I was broken; this was the reason she decided to go along with chastity. I told her I wanted to restore intimacy in our marriage and love her the way she deserved and that I had found websites like this where men told stories about how chastity had motivated them to change their behavior. She was weirded out by the idea of chastity and had never heard of it before. She agreed to hold my key but said "we've got to get you out of that thing". But she could see I was genuinely broken. She went along with it and discovered all the other benefits. It facilitated so much change in me that she loves.

 

I sent my wife a link about FLR. I already had a cage and showed it to her, but didnt know about FLR. i just wanted to play kinky and liked the look of a cage around my dick.

From then on she got my KH.
She likes the view. That I dont masturbate anymore. That I become really horny and playful when locked and teased.