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    #1 klepzy, Nov 5, 2022
    Hello everyone, I wonder if others here experience lost of sex drive after a certain time in chastity, and how do you manage to regain that back and keep it alive. I mean, when chastity games starts, we are probably all excited. But after a certain time, for me, it just becomes business as usual. Some say their frustration of not coming just builds stronger, and they get more desperate to cum and willing to do anything so it happens. But for me, I kind of just lose interest, and I lose what makes chastity game really fun and enjoyable, wanting to cum so bad, being horny, etc. I don't know if its also due to my kh not regularly teasing me, but I mean, I don't want to rush things and accept the pace she is comfortable with and fits her. Is there some things you do on your own to keep things interest, to keep the fire warm and present?
     
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    #2 Staylocked, Nov 5, 2022
    TEASE and denial. Without the tease it's just denial, which kinda sucks. Have regular conversations with your kh, talk about what each of you like/don't like. What does she enjoy in it? Maybe she would enjoy teasing if she knew how it affects you/benefits her?
     
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    #3 Headtrip, Nov 5, 2022
    Reading on here and chastity captions (Tumblr) usually wind me up if KH does not. Kinda wierd: I dont notice it at the time but rather later that day.
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    #4 Queens property, Nov 5, 2022
    I "get used to it" after about a month it seems.
    But as soon as my fiance teases me or shows her power over me I'm instantly a mess. Think I'm on about 6 weeks no release at the mo. My baseline hornyness has dropped but its there, .just under the surface always.
     
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    #5 IB-Chaste, Nov 5, 2022
    I think you need to have a discussion if she’s not teasing you for a month…
     
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    #6 enslavedbyc, Nov 5, 2022
    A non-sexual relationship just wouldn’t work for me, and it wouldn’t work for her either. Having a partner who is both non-sexual and who keeps you in chastity? No thanks.
     
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    #7 Queens property, Nov 5, 2022
    Oh she does. I didn't word that very well. The first month I'm constantly horny 24/7, after about a month it drops off but comes back instantly whenever she teases me. I'd be seriously concerned if she completely denied me any teasing for even a few days.
     
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    #8 LockedJani, Nov 6, 2022
    It may be that your dopamine that builds up find an other way for release and need to build up again
     
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    #9 klepzy, Nov 18, 2022
    You get a good point!
     
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    #10 TangoSub, Nov 18, 2022
    Actually I find I am more "sexually attentive" the longer I am locked. Having an onlline-KH and longtime in person Mistress keeps me a lot more on edge for both. I know my Mistress gets all the "service" she demands with more attention when I have been locked for longer periods.
     
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    #11 madams-sissysub, Nov 20, 2022
    I agree!!
     
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    #12 Shimone, Nov 20, 2022
    If we are talking about lock & forget I do not think it surprising that with time sex drive and certain hormone levels are going down.
    In a healthy relationship though I would think that there should be enough inrimate moments with your partner tro prevent your hormones from falling into sleep.
    Apart from that even while locked you can have sex with your partner in many, many ways. And if nothing else helps - this should !

    PS: If it does not, try watching less porn ;)
     
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    #13 starflyer, Nov 21, 2022
    Yep Tease and Denial
     
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    #14 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    Even with your cock in a lock you have power. I‘m not submissive at all but i‘m more often caged than not, my wife is not domineering she just loves the act of locking me up and she loves how the good ones look, she picks which one I wear and I wear it happily, it‘s just cock jewelry really, a kink. If she locked me up and just ignored me for a month or more she knows i‘d snap the f##cker off in seconds ( and there isnt a single one you cant, although I saw a cast glass one once, i‘d maybe come up with a plan for that one first ) she would get no cock and no lickjobs, sweet F A. Point is, having kinks and fetishes doesnt mean you have to be a doormat. I‘m probably gonna offend someone here I feel it but the words - Slave, Pet, Master, Mistress, Bitch, Sissy, Dog, Pig, Cow, Princess, Queen and my wife and I cannot help but laugh at this one - Goddess. These words are for fantasy scene play for a couple of hours, not for everyday life. Anyone who professes to be your God or Goddess is a liar.
     
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    #15 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    Yeah so i‘d kick her out mate, you‘ve agreed to play a game together and she broke the rules and will continue to do so while the bratt princess gets what it wants from you, sorry but some people are sadists and I dont mean S&M here, I mean real life sadists, narcissists. Leave them, ignore them. They are parrasites like fleas.
     
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    #16 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    Goddesses, that makes me laugh my non existent tits off. Hello i‘m Paul, who are you "I‘m Goddess Maria, didn‘t you know" Er no sorry, so what do you do Goddess maria? "I‘m a sapper, I steal by seduction, I promise things but never give them and in return I get stuff for free" yep movin on.
     
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    #17 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    Boys, When was the last time your FLR put the bins out on time, Women can‘ t even use a washing machine to clean their own knickers nowadays, they cant cook, cant clean, cant tidy their own mess up. Cant fix anything and want to be your boss, tell em to grow up.
     
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    #18 Muppet, Aug 25, 2023
    Sounding a bit judgey and misogynistic here, correct me if I’m wrong
     
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    #19 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    I will, its Misandry however you spell it, Its abusing or taking advantage of someone‘s sex. It would be Misogyny if the male was being a bastard.
     
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    #20 Muppet, Aug 25, 2023
    No I meant mysogyny because I read your message as having a whiff of hostility on your part to the OP’s keyholder, and couldn’t figure where that came from, there’s nothing in his post to suggest she is at fault…
     
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    #21 Muppet, Aug 25, 2023
    Oh I see, you’re just mucking about on here for a laugh. I was a bit slow on the uptake!
     
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    #22 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    I dont like the sound of his partner, I would get rid of her if that was me, is that okay by you? Or would you pander to a shitty sex life when there is better to be had.
     
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    #23 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    You are a proper muppet
     
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    #24 Paul Martin 75, Aug 25, 2023
    Go on.
     
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    #25 Muppet, Aug 25, 2023
    Well I thought at first you just didn’t grasp what chastity and submission is about but now I see you’re just being silly on here, so not much point in continuing.
     
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