My wife and mistress has asked if I could be more romantic. She knows this is a long shot for me as I am the text book typical brute male outside of home. I just don't know how or what is romantic to me buying her some flowers and a card is or running her s candle lit bath after a long day. Apparently I'm lacking in this department and I'd agree. So if anyone could help me with some ideas it would be appreciated immensely. As I just want to make her happy.
anything you can do to let her know you are thinking of her in a SELFLESS way, is romantic. You don't have to spend a lot of money either. S single flower (do you know her favorite flower? ) can mean a lot. Listen to her. Make a journal and write down stuff. You can go online and look for ideas but here is a good list to start with. Find out everything, make notes and study it. Add to it regularly. Also, encourage her to do things she always wanted to do or learn, even if it doesn't include you. It's about showing her she is all around important to you and that you care about every aspect of her. 1. In what city was your spouse born? 2. What is your spouse's blood type? 3. What does your spouse feel is his or her greatest personal strength? 4. What is your spouse's favorite food or meal? 5. What is his/her favorite dessert? 6. What's your spouse's typical position for sleep (left side, right side, back)? 7. What is your spouse's favorite pastime activity or favorite hobby? 8. If your spouse had the job of his/her dreams, what would it be? 9. Where is your spouse's favorite vacation spot? 10. What is your spouse's political affiliation? 11. What was your spouse's favorite childhood pet? 12. Who was your spouse's best friend(s) in high school? 13. How many times per month would your spouse like to have sex? 14. What make & model, and color was your spouse's first car? 15. What was your spouse's first job? 16. Who was your spouse's best friend(s) in college? 17. What is your spouse's mother's maiden name? 18. What would your spouse say is your most annoying habit? 19. If your spouse could be any celebrity, who would he or she want to be? 20. If your spouse could simply wake-up in any part of the world and enjoy a week of exploring, what location would it be? 21. Who is your spouse's current best friend? 22. What is your spouse's favorite flavor of ice cream? 23. What is your spouse's shoe size? 24. What is your spouse's waist size? 25. What is your spouse's favorite restaurant? 26. Who is your spouse's favorite musician at the moment? 27. What are your spouse's parents full names? 28. If your spouse could change professions, what would he/she choose (money being no object)? 29. What household chore does your spouse most despise? 30. What is your spouse's cell phone number? 31. How many bones has your spouse broken? 32. Does your spouse have tonsils? 33. How many jobs has your spouse had since graduation from college? 34. Has your spouse ever had a nickname? If so, what was/is it? 35. To which of your spouse's family members is he/she closest? 36. What "hurt" from the past has your spouse struggled most to overcome? 37. Does your spouse prefer the toilet paper unroll from the top, or the bottom? 38. How many children did your spouse want to have when you got married? 39. How would my spouse most wish to spend time as a family? 40. What book is your spouse currently reading? 41. What is your spouse's favorite way to wind down after a stressful day? 42. How much money does your spouse need to have in savings to feel financially responsible? 43. What is your spouse's favorite pizza topping? 44. What single word would your spouse use to describe you? 45. What perfume/scent does your spouse like YOU to use? 46. What is your spouse's favorite movie? 47. What is your spouse's favorite sexual position? 48. How long would your spouse say "foreplay" should last? (answer in minutes, not seconds). 49. What, if any, musical instrument(s) has your spouse played? 50. What is your spouse’s Social Security number?
Thanks Jessica I already do a lot of that I've always supported her even when she thought she could never. Which is how she now has her current job making more money than me. I show her that constantly I quit the job I had to, sold the house and move with her back to her home country. I was miserable there for the most part but she was happy so I was happy. Then she realized she liked it back in America more several months later and so we moved again. I show her all the time she's the most important thing. But it seems I'm not doing something right or not enough.
Does she like to dance? If so, secretly take some lessons so you can impress her or take some dance classes together. A word of caution though, be careful when your woman is looking for things to tear you down over. Sometimes they have to convince themselves you are inadequate to justify their actions. I hope that isn't the case.
Taking her out to dinner is nice. It doesn't need to be ultra-expensive. Don't forget her favourite wine. Some of our most pleasant dining experiences were at a little pasta/pizza restaurant up the road where we could sit for a couple of hours and sip our Shiraz. She also appreciated the fact that I deferred always to her wishes and preferences without making a major production out of it. And yes, flowers are lovely. I'm pretty certain you'll do fine! You had the courage to ask, which not everybody does ...
I would say the biggest thing about being romantic is a surprise element. It isn't done because you should, it's done because you want to. @lockit isn't the most romantic, his brain is wired in a practical manner, which is great as I pretty much just leave practical stuff alone so he deals with that for me which is fabulous. He also spoils me rotten getting me things he thinks I need or want. However this does mean that the standard romantic items such as chocolates and flowers are not on my list of things to be expected. However a few weeks ago when work was a nightmare and I was completely stressed, a knock came to the office door and a bouquet was delivered for me. The card said - "I thought this would make you smile" - I smiled so much like you wouldn't believe. It is not something that happens often and that he realised I was having a crap time and made the effort to make me feel special made it even more special. So, whatever you don't normally do, try doing it once in a blue moon. Oh and get a pack of post it notes and stick little notes about - saying silly cute things - "thinking of you" - "see you soon" - "miss you" etc - you know the silly phrases you use as a couple so use them. Best of luck.
I like to write my mistress letters every so often letting her know how much I love her and what she means to me. Being told how much you are loved and how beautiful you are never gets old. Let her know of any emotions for her that chastity has rekindled, I know for me, my mistress gives be butterflies in my stomach like I used to get in high school. Her power over me makes giddy and nervous like a schoolboy which she finds very attractive and romantic. Surprise her with her favorite candy every once in a while with a sweet note to her. I like to take my mistress's car and completely detail it for her after I ask her if I can borrow it. Romance isn't always dinner out and flowers, it can be anything to show her your appreciation and affection for her. If you keep doing the same things over and over it gets mundane and becomes less special each time. For example I bought my mistress roses last year every week for a 3 month time span. Although she enjoyed having fresh roses in the house, after about the 3rd week it wasn't special anymore. So it doesn't always have to be anything big but the point is to let her know that you are thinking about her and you love her.
Honestly, getting to know her inside and out. Her loves, her fears. Also, on top of flowers, chocolates and candlelit bubble baths - you can surprise her with a full body massage, done by you of course. Keep in mind that you doing chores can go a long, long way with a woman! It really can be a turn on for her
well just do what She says and make sure that when She comes home everthing is nice and clean and looks nice. oooh and say that you love Her lots.
I like to draw and make things, so I usually do one of those. My avatar is a pendant I made from her key, I also made her a bench that makes it easier for her to punish or please me(I know that was a two way gift, but she really wanted one). I love to cook, so whenever I get a chance I make her supper, serve her, and share a bottle of wine while she tells me about her day. Making a card is something I haven't done for her yet but will. Buy her a nice smelling candle and just say it smelled pretty and reminds you of her. Have kids? Give her a fun night out...without you. Tell her you got this covered, go out have fun, will have a late night snack ready when you get home. Movie night...she picks the movie,get movie popcorn from theater first. Tell her you miss her. Tell her that she is beautiful (not sexy, hot, or cute), of course she might be all of those but for romantic stick with beautiful. Chances are there are a zillion ways to pamper her and most are mentioned somewhere on this site...everyone wants to please their kh. As long as you make it about her, make it non sexual, show her appreciation, put time and effort into it, or make her feel special and heard, you got it made.
While I'm no expert there are some great ideas here. I text my wife often to tell her I love her. Often just a "thinking of you" msg. Keeping house chores completed, making supper, the wash, etc. are good but are also things any good partner should do, cock cage or no cock cage. I think we guys tend to over think romantic actions. Slut often expresses she likes going out for dinner. She's clearly stated that she enjoys special meals very much but also greatly appreciates running to a local taco or bbq joint. A special meal at a nice place is indeed romantic to her but so is time together eating tacos and sipping a margaritas, provided she has my attention. I know my bride likes to eat and then chat for a while, enjoying our time together, so I don't rush her, waiting until she is ready to leave rather than asking if she's ready. it isn't perfect Italian VS. a burger so much as actually going out and appreciating each other. Not only does it make her feel romantic but myself as well. One simple thing I do. Step one. Pour her a super hot bubble or oil bath, laying her pocket rocket on the tub edge along with an amaretto hot chocolate and a lit candle. Step two, and this is crucial......then walk away and leave her be. You will know she's done when she comes out of the bath. She probably won't tell you about it and you shouldn't ask, this was about her and not you.
I require My Darling to do one romantic thing month. It can be very simple. We have gone on a picnic, he puts his hat on me when it rains so my glasses don't get wet, cooking a spaghetti dinner but having candles lit and music instead of news, getting letters needed to name my boat, these are just a few, but my favorite was learning to dance so we could dance our first dance at a wedding we were attending. Romance is simply thinking about her and doing something different that you know she would love.
Running the bath is a good thing to do. You could also consider buying some small scented candles and nice bubble bath. Perhaps send her an e-mail or call her and let her know that you want her to free up an hour to take a bath. Put the candles in the bathroom and light them. Draw the water for her with bubble bath. Put on romantic music. Put some magazines in there for her to look at. While she is soaking, find a task that you can do to lighten her load. What does she enjoy for breakfast? Surprise her a couple of times a week with a wonderful wakeup call and a simple breakfast in bed. Maybe it’s just a good cup of coffee and her favourite jam on toast. You could even consider bringing her a cup of coffee while she’s in bed every morning. Before going to bed you could give her a tender back rub and tell her how much she means to you. Then embrace her and go off to sleep without any other expectations Open the door for her, whether it’s the car or home or when you are out. When you go out to eat, seat her first by pulling out the chair for her. Make sure she is comfortable first, before you sit down. Ask her for her order then order for her. After dinner at home, clean off the table and do the dishes. Invite her to take a rest. if it was her cooking then make sure you thanked her for the lovely meal. Make it a rule that you never, under any circumstances, speak unkindly to her, whether face to face or out in public. Learn to control yourself if you have a temper. Speak kindly to her, with deep respect and admiration. Stop watching porn and looking at other women. If you want to throw cold water on your relationship, keep those things up. She will most likely feel violated and humiliated when she feels that your eyes and heart chase after other women… especially the air-brushed babes in magazines that truly don’t even exist. She can’t compete with them, nor should she feel the need to. What is her favourite dessert? If you can’t make it, then buy it and bring it home. Enjoy some quiet time in the evening with the dessert, coffee, and good conversation. Find out what are her dreams and desires. What would she like to see fulfilled in her life. Then, begin to take some steps to make that happen. Ask her “What would make you feel truly loved, cherished, and honoured”. Tell her that you want to know because you realize that you probably don’t do a real good job in these areas and want to improve. Help as much as possible around the house. Don’t make her a slave to the washing machine, vacuum cleaner, stove, ironing board. Get on your hands and knees and wash the floor, help out with other household chores. When you are in public, hold her hand, put your arm around her. Show others that she is your woman and you are her man. You are taken up with her and find her altogether lovely. Let her catch you staring at her, whether at home or in public. Eye her up and down and let her know how desirable she is to you. Does she enjoy plays, operas or films? Invite her to go out for the evening for a good meal and an event that she would enjoy. Stop taking up so much time with your friends, football, bar hopping and other Man pursuits You don’t have to stop all of it totally. But you are probably spending more time on yourself than on her. Be her best friend. Develop a completely open and honest relationship with her. Don’t do something in secret that you know would hurt her or that would make her feel less than honored and loved by you if she were to find out. Remember how to ask forgiveness and admit when you have done wrong. Let her know you are truly sorry for inappropriate actions or words. (more so than just trying to find ways to fix her) @Administrator Does she have a particular hobby? Buy a subscription to a magazine that focuses on that hobby. Watch for seminars and trade shows related to her area of interest and make time to take her. Listen to her when she casually mentions something that she really wants. Write it down. Try to find a way to get it for her and surprise her for no particular reason. Learn to be a giver, not a taker. Find at least 3 things that you can do every day to show her how special she is to you. Every day find several things to genuinely compliment her on. Don’t be fake, she will see right through that. Play a board game, card game or put together a puzzle with her. She will appreciate the time with you and some great laughter and conversation will probably pop up. Buy her something intimate and special. Make her feel beautiful and adored. Seize any opportunity to highlight her beauty. Help her by offering to do her nails, brushing her hair, setting out some clothing or lingerie for her. These little items will be very special for her. You will have a good time doing it! Does she like a particular type of confectionery? When you are out and about pop in somewhere and see if they have what she likes. Put a red ribbon around it with a nice card or note letting her know that you are crazy about her. Offer to run errands for her. Give her some time to herself to relax or perhaps to indulge in something else that she has been wanting to do. Give good-bye and greeting kisses and embraces. You can carry those with you throughout the day. Send romantic e-mails. If you do it from work, be careful that you are not violating any workplace rules. Read to her. It’s another level of communication that she will love. Massage her feet. She will really enjoy the intimate attention. If you have children, take them out for the day and give her some time to herself. Put love notes where she will look; lingerie drawer, on bathroom mirror, on the dashboard of her car, in her purse, etc. There, that should keep you going for a wee while