An Insight to being a Mistress?

It's not rocket science. @rebeccacd404 you are lucky to have found your Mistress and should concentrate on her. Listening and understanding is all thats required for both parties. If there are parts of the relationship that trouble you then communicate. Do not stay silent and build up thoughts that are likely to ruin the lifestyle you have decided to accept.

 

I agree with @Mistress B that you should focus on what *your* mistress wants, as none of us can tell you her personal preferences and motivations. In fact, as each woman is unique, each mistress/domina/domme is also unique! Imagine that.

Code of conduct... I'm friends with other dominant women locally and a few online. We share mutual respect and, with some, I share a feeling of sisterhood. But maybe your "code of conduct" question is about whether we talk about our subs and playmates, warn each other about bad apples, and recommend who is worth playing with. And I'd say yes to all of those.

Choosing a sub/getting started... I typically won't play with anyone that I wouldn't also want to be vanilla friends with. So, I pick playmates and subs based on personality, intelligence, humor, and then I consider kink compatibility. There are some subs/bottoms who may be amazing people, but just aren't a good fit for me and would be so much more satisfied serving someone else.

Getting inside someone's head... usually just means listening to them -- what they say, tone of voice, what they've written, their reactions and body language. Learning what turns them on, what scares them, what their desires are. Just as dominant women are each unique, so are subs. Or at least, I haven't found a universal phrase or gesture to evoke submission. Yet.

 

I imagine every Mistress is different but the thing they will share is their care for their submissives.

 

But if you find out the answers to all your questions you'll know as much as your Mistress, and as we know knowledge is power!

 

If you are a sub in FL relationship then Long Range or not you will, as you get to know the side of her that she chooses to reveal to you better, learn to (most of the time correctly) anticipate not only her needs but what will please or give her pleasure her generally in most different everyday situations.

A lot depends on the dynamic of your relationship;

So whilst knowledge is power.. that power can be the power to please or serve ones partner.

 

A lot of my own thoughts resonate with that of @LadyMoon. Compatibility is so important to ensure the very best dynamic. However, occasionally I let my 'dark' side out and just do stuff because I can. Of course this only works if you have access to subjects other than those close to you. One thing (apart from the obvious) that is taboo for me; i never use my power and influence if I'm upset, angry, resentful etc. No-one gets anything from that dynamic. Remember, a Mistress isn't just for Christmas!