I recently ordered a Amicus from Male Chastity Now. I've worn other devices before but am happy with both fit and function of this one. Smaller than others I've tried but even wearing overnight and being woken by my morning erection, it was not painful - just 'confining'! Anyway, I chose the security screw instead of a lock. And I am trying to get the nerve up to have my neighbor hold the standard key while I have an emergency key available - sort of. I don't know what her reaction might be but did willingly agree to accept the initial shipment without asking what it was. When I asked her if that would be ok, she grinned and agreed immediately. I might have imagined a slight grin when she handed me the box as if it were just our little secret! She never asked what it was so I wonder what her reaction would be if she did agree to holding onto the standard key (looking like a odd shaped hex key). If she asked what it is for, would she give it back if I told her? A lot of questions and no clear answers. I have left the standard key in plain sight. Just as a temptation to my own willpower. The emergency key is covered by a cylinder which can be 'locked' by a plastic keyholder numbered seal. This combination is then locked - in plain sight about four feet off the ground on a equipment rack in my home office. The lock is a small Master lock and it's key is found in a small brass cryptex cylinder. So it is available but with some work. To be sure I'll continue this journey for a while. I will add to this journal as time goes on with updates related to my neighbor, if or when I have to access the emergency key, and continuing impressions and reactions to being tightly locked up! As of this post, I've been 'locked' 1 day, 14 hours and counting.
I would invite her over for coffee or if passing each other and talking, again thank her for taking delivery of the package. If she asks, then tell her what it is and you now have a dilemma. Explain to her chastity is a partnership and you are without a key holder. She will either let it drop or ask more about the role and responsibility. You can set your own agenda with her, she might be interested.
Do you have any reason to suspect that your neighbor might be interested in being your keyholder? Even if she asks about the shipment, it probably wouldn't be appropriate to just ask her cold to do this for you. I mean, if the shipment had been a butt plug, you probably wouldn't just go "hey, can you shove it up my ass for me?" I suppose there's nothing wrong with telling her what was in the package if she asks, but don't expect much. If you and her have had previous discussions related to kink and she's seemed into that sort of thing, it's different, but either way don't be pushy about it.
Unless you have a very close relationship with her where you both share all your secrets, you may scare her. My wife has started wearing the key in plain view and we talk to our neighbors every day. None have asked why she would wear a non-descript key around her neck so I would say the newfound knowledge would be a major shock. What are your age differences?
I would definitely go the coffee or wine route and very gently steer the conversation in a direction where you could mention how you respect women who take the lead. If there’s any interest you could possibly over time develop a relationship that could lead to her becoming a key holder. It’ll take time and effort on your part. I wouldn’t just jump in and ask the question point blank. She could be in a relationship, she might think you’re a perv, etc. In the mean time practice self-locking and learn your own boundaries.
Most people will accept parcels for neighbours. That doesn't mean they're interested in what's inside. Is there anything she's done that makes you think she is interested in link? Or are you just projecting your hopes on her?
That would be a hard No from me. I would form a relationship with her first and THEN bring up being a keyholder. Prehaps get to know her for a year and then bring it up. Just my 2 cents... Iso.