Please Help, Need Advice

I have a problem. My fiancee and I are really new to chastity and trying to make a good go of it, but device problems are abounding. If anyone could please let me know what a good, fairly inexpensive device to start out with would be, I and my fiancee would really appreciate it.

It started out with a DickCage, a device made of surgical silicone that from the description on their website looked absolutely AWESOME. That is before it rubbed me raw and then I discovered that simply by tilting up the shaft part I could easily escape, even after healed.

Amy wants me to be locked up in a device that I can't get out of that only she can let me free from, and that won't hurt me. After doing LOTS of reading, I discovered the JailHouse M200 (my profile pic). Which also seemed very awesome. After using the medium ring for a while I realized that I could pull out, so I started using the small one. Only problem is, this thing is chrome coated, and the chrome rubbed off in spots and is rubbing me raw. Amy instructed me to take it off and not put it back on, BUT, she still needs me to be locked up.

I've found the sites offering all the varying metal cages, and seriously need some advice. The solid ring, which I have is very secure, but most of the devices I've seen have a hinged ring. How does that compare? And with only 1 point of connection at the padlock, will these things swivel and allow me to escape as the DickCage did? If the JailHouse wasn't chafing me so bad it would be perfect because there's no way I can pull out, and no way it will swivel because there's a small pin on either side of the cage that locks into the ring when the lock is secured that keeps it entirely stable.

The plastic ones seem ok, but don't really want to go that route, as I've read about them cracking and the limited hygiene as compared to the metal ones. Would REALLY LOVE to just get a Queen's Keep and be done with it, but don't have that kind of cash at the moment and need something to get by until that becomes an option. Amy needs to keep me locked up for quite a while, and wants the security of knowing that her direct consent and knowledge will be required for any orgasm I may have, even if I am being entirely obedient.

If plastic IS the only option right now, then so be it, but if the fountain of knowledge here could help me get into something we would enjoy much more, then that would be AWESOME.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Owned

 

Thank you all for the feedback! Grabbiness on the skin wouldn't be a problem as cocoa butter for stretch marks makes a fantastic lube. My Fiancee's best friend's husband uses it with his device. He usually gets released whenever he's home with his Wife though.

Thank you Giles, the pubic hair fix is a great idea, but my Fiancee hates to have pubic hair on me. I have been growing it out, but only because She has instructed me to so she can wax me. The ONLY problem with the device I have now is that the ring chafes the skin so bad and causes sores because of the finish coming off. A similar stainless steel device would be perfect, as long as it didn't have coating issues, so if it weren't for that, it WOULD be the holy grail! I am fully committed to this, which is why when I suspected with the larger ring that I could pull out I asked permission to try the smaller one. It was long after that I had stopped using it that I actually experimented to see if it was possible to pull out, and let my Fiancee know immediately. She appreciates my commitment to this and letting her know about every issue, including security. She trusts me because I have been completely honest about everything and have never pulled out without permission, even when I could have, she just wants me to be in a device that doesn't give me the option or temptation of pulling out.

Thank you Wendy, I guess I need to do more investigating and reading reviews of the cheap stainless steel devices with the hinged rings, was just hoping that someone with experience could tell me their opinion of those, and give me an idea of the security. With this being a community for the chaste, I was hoping that someone with really good experience with a certain device could let me know. Thank you jd for the Birdlocked Neo idea, I will look into it. She wants me to be in a device 24/7 for as long as she deems necessary.

And like I said jd, when the money becomes available I will go for a MM device, but a PA is out of the question for both of us.

If anyone HAS had a great experience with one of the cheaper stainless steel devices, meaning security and reasonable comfort, it would be greatly appreciated. I could live with the rubber tubing on the hinge as long as I know if the hasp at the top wouldn't be a chafing issue and that tilt allowing pullout wouldn't be a problem either.

Gratefully,

Owned

 

Wow, ok. Seems as if there might not be a cheap AND easy solution, like a chastity hack. Anyone that DOES know of one is of course welcome to share it. Guess I just have to continue my research, and save up for a MM device.

 

As far as comfort is concerned though, my only concern is that it doesn't chafe so much that it rubs the skin raw even WITH a good lubricant.

 

Also, as long as I can't pull out, I have the self-control to resist trying to come to orgasm while in the device. Actually in all the time I haven't had the device of the chafing problems over the past couple weeks, I have resisted the temptation to disobey Her authority and have only come to orgasm when She has allowed it. But we both want me back in a device as quickly as possible, especially Her, because She really enjoys the power that key gives Her.

As a temporary fix, I'm going to try using sandpaper to remove the chrome coating on the ring to eliminate those spots where it has come off that are rubbing me raw. I'll post whether that works or not.

 

Actually, someone mentioned shrink wrap like for wires, said that works for him. going to try that before sandpaper. The ring I'm using is small enough that I have been unable to back out without taking the cage off. I've tried, when removing it for the chafing, just to see if i could, and it didn't work. Was hard enough to get it out AFTER taking the cage off. Could my problem be that it's just TOO tight, even though it doesn't cut off the circulation?

 

Was reading another thread and found the PERFECT solution! A glans ring! That would enable me to use the medium ring instead of the small one and eliminate the chafing issue, but also not be able to pull out because of the second ring!

 

Thanks Wendy! I've read that tubes can be problematic and cause infection if used long-term, is that correct? or no? I think it would be great if I could have it in for a few months with no problems. I have a glans ring that has a plug on it. It's the perfect size, and was thinking if I could get one the same size with no plug, it would fit just fine and prevent escape. Steelworx actually sells them for that very purpose too.

 

Do you remember which posts? I've been reading through the recent posts and saw them only briefly mentioned, but no reference to how long they can safely be left in. Could you please post a link to the tumblr?

Thanks,

Owned

 

I think I found the post you were speaking of. The tube sounds intriguing, but a lot more trouble than it's worth, and not really much of a security device if you can take it out yourself (which you HAVE to every day to clean it or you'll have serious problems). The glans ring sounds like a much better option, at least for our needs. We'll give that a go and see how it works.

 

Wow! Thank you Keysafe! That is such an EXCELLENT idea! Any idea how I could get access to tool dip? The heat shrink tubing I tried, but being as it's a closed ring, I had to cut it, and then couldn't get it on. That would only work if it was a hinged ring, I have a feeling. But tool dip WOULD work PERFECTLY!