So my sissy name is Haley, I've been crossdressing for 15 years. I'm currently 29 and married. My wife knows about my sissy side and is all for it but isn't too pushy she just encourages me to be me. I have been playing around with chastity this past year on and off again and each time i get into it so to speak i feel like I find myself wanting to wear it for longer durations. I know that there is nothing wrong with exploring this side of myself and my wife is behind whatever i decide but i have a small bit of shame/doubt/regret/guiltiness/etc. i don't know why but if i had to guess i would probably say it has to do with my perspective around chastity. I wonder, are there any men that enjoy chastity but don't divulge in the feminine attire and feminine persona. can a guy just enjoy being locked up without it making him present as a sissy? I feel like i know the answer is yes that is something that is prevalent in this world, but i would be lying if i said i didn't enjoy the act of present female. Applying make up is pretty fun and it can really help instill confidence, women clothes are much more eccentric and fun, the colors and different materials to choose from make it a fun time altogether. I know this was just supposed to be an intro to who i am but these inner struggles in my mind are a part of me. I have some many questions for some long term wearers if any are willing to chat.
Hi Haley and welcome here. I think the most important thing is to be happy with yourself. You look great dressed and look content. I recognise the feelings you talk about as I too have felt them in the past. Now later in life one regret is that I should have said "sod it" earlier and analysed more where those feelings were coming from. I'm long term locked (20+ years) If I can be of help to you please feel free to contact me and I'll try to answer as best I can.
In answer to your query...Yes. Lots of men that present as men...but just enjoy the surrender to and the leadership their woman...be it Wife, Girlfriend, or "Other". I have no need and she has no desire to make me feminized or sissified or humiliated or cuckolded. She's already said that 30 days of lock and denial was too much for her. She wants my cock...unconfined...to play with and enjoy. She likes giving me orgasms...lucky me. I may never know the 6 months of caged denials or the 1,2,3,4 years and certainly not the permanent lock and denial status. No judgment on those who do. The chastity world is a large world as I've come to learn...a menu with many choices. A key one is...when she finally has control of the key....your lock duration and your orgasm. Welcome and many happy moments are wished for you and her.
Welcome to CM, @Haley Spade . Please post often and tell us about your journey. You will find many people on here who are caged and have no desire or interest in the feminine side of things. Many have Mistress or KH who also have no interest in feminization or sissiness. We are each on our own journey and like it that way!
I have zero interest in being feminized or being a sissy and am in chasity. My wife/kh also has no interest in these things and would most likely leave me if i was. She wants the man she met not someone to dress up. The two aren't mutually exclusive. It seems while all or most sissies are in chasity, not everyone in chasity is a sissy.
Welcome to the Mansion, and yes there is no "necessary" connection between chastity and feminisation/sissification. But it does seem that those seeking to travel in such directions find chastity a useful tool along the way. Enjoy your journey!