What is your reason for chastity? What is your kink?

One reason is that a prolonged state of constant arousal is far more satisfying than 10 seconds of relief.

 

The power dynamic change and after a lifetime of cumming when I want and a million nuts. It's far more erotic to be denied now.

 

ED was a problem for us, I have a soft old dick. My wife doesn’t come from PIV with it. Sex for us now is usually me staying caged and doing her with a vibe and a large dildo. Sometimes we role play cuckolding scenes.

I like staying locked because there is no performance anxiety over my ED.

She likes it too! She is multi orgasmic with the “Big Guy”. I remain denied, and when she’s had her fun, we cuddle.

I highly recommend retiring old dicks and locking them up.

 

I'm submissive. My wife is dominant. The chastity started as part of the femdom mix, we both ended up adddicted to it.

 

This is a favorite question. I think there's no one answer and some of us (i.e. me) are pretty perplexed about why we'd do this. I think, first, there is an underlying submissive kink but that is only the seed, it's not the reason. Anyway, my reasons:

- Wanting more meaningful intimacy. What? How does chastity make intimacy more meaningfull. Probably different for everyone, but sexual dynamics in my relationship had me as the dominant player. Not in a BDSM way, but in a 'we'll have sex when I want it' way. After years of that, it takes the intimacy away.
- Managing libido. My libido is greater than my wife's. I can't have sex as often as I'd like. This gives my wife the opportunity to set the frequency. I end up just having to suck it up. Which I'd have to do anyway. This provides some structure to it.
- Focus. My urges are pretty high. If I'm not having sex with my wife, I'd be jerking off. That turns out to be destructive. A cage focuses my mind some and takes away the option of taaking care of myself. Although I still can, the fact that I'm locked is a big reminder that jerking off is not on the table.
- Giving. Deep down, I want to make my wifes life truly happy. I'm a servant at heart. Chastity sets up a framework for service. "You own my cock, I will do anything for you".

It's that last bullet which is why my wife likes me locked. It is strong and noticable. As a result, it's probably my biggest reason.

 

I want to transform my husband into my sex toy.

 

Multiple reasons.

Giggles: the idea of a man feeling discomfort for me anytime he starts getting an erection tickles me.

Age: I have reached that time in my life in which a speculum has become my arch nemesis. There will be no "quickies" that involve entrance into my nether regions, no rushing, no assumptions, no thank you.

Free-floating vengeance: It took until about five years after becoming sexually active before I had my first-ever orgasm (vibrator) and another five before I had one during partner sex (oral). Even afterwards, sex would normally end with my male partner having orgasmed and leaving me high and dry. I am not above admitting that I would like someone to stand-in for payback.

Possessiveness: MINE!

Greed: I've been the focus of the erotic energy summoned during prolonged tease and denial and would like to experience more of it, despite the fact that it could be the equivalent of taking on an additional part-time job of giving a prolonged lap dance.

Curiosity: I want to experience the much claimed change in demeanor brought about by chastity.

 

I've always been into bondage and this is a form of bondage I can wear in public that I alone know about. Also to keep me focused. And ... I really like the feeling when my cock swells in my cage.

 

I find it helps with trolling.

 

Plot twist: He is secretly training you to be his sex toy.

(if you hear him whispering in your ear while you are sleeping pay no attention)

 

I’m pretty much in the same boat. I can still get hard with my old friend Cialis, but with chastity I don’t have to worry about it as much. Any PIV is totally for my benefit, as she never O’s that way anymore. She will O on one of her many toys while I watch and assist. I masturbate for her most of the time when we play, after she is satisfied.

 

Submission

 

Got to agree with this
I am constantly shrouded when caged both mentally but also physically when my cock fills and rubs in the cage

 

I wear a device as body jewelry mostly. I love the feeling of a constant reminder of it simply because of the weight of it. And mentally trying to keep from masturbating and saving it for my wife. Having fewer orgasms usually means stronger orgasms.

 

Seems to work for both of us.

 

"she never O’s that way anymore."
When we started discussing that, it was actually a welcome conversation. I told her with all sincerity that watching her have multiple O's with toys is hotter for me than trying to get it up and keep it up. The shared honesty felt good and frankly I've started getting off on making SPH comments about myself when she uses her big dildo. " Honey you deserve big cock, not soft little dick like mine “. She doesn’t argue . She even comes harder when I say stuff like that . The humiliation is somehow very erotic for me. It feeds into my cuckold fantasies. To hers as well apparently.

 

I have internalized some guilt feelings about sex, particularly masturbation. By locking myself up, with the help of Chaster, I can satisfy that part of me that needs to suffer for being a horny boy. With the chastity device I have, my boy-parts are safe, both from myself and from the world.

Also, being out in public while wearing a cage that's really securely locked on, that can't be removed easily or without damage, is a turn-on. It is not likely that I will be taken out for a walk on a leash with my muzzle on, so this is a good substitute.

I'll cop to my chastity cage being an expensive sex toy for extended foreplay. Chaster makes it useful to enforce other rules, such as getting a certain amount of writing in before I am released. It is an encouragement to overcome writer's block.

 

I first heard about chastity in another fetish site and it seemed interesting. I have always liked bondage so I thought I would give it a try. While searching the web for how to get the right fit a cam across Chastity Mansion and read the many stories and accounts of men being denied and all the focus being placed on the women. This clicked for me because I have painful orgasms due to a bladder disease and we tend to avoid sex because of it. I saw this as a way to focus on her and her pleasure while denying myself. Seemed to be a good fit. Little did I know how much more intense it would make my own orgasms and off set any discomfort from the condition. Also it has opened a line of communication between me and my wife that we have not had in a long time.
Another reason it is working well for us is I engaged in infidelity a while back and this has been a great tool to build some of that trust back.

 

I self lock it up. I enjoy the restraint the weight and the denial of chastity. I'm also a bi male and enjoy being the bottom with another man. My wife enjoys my cock, and my man enjoys being in side of of me. Being in a cage makes it so much sexxier and that much better.

 

mainly dominance for me. Then feminization. Chastity and anal go together for me and I love anal.

 

Well I've always been interested in fem dom , started buying fd magazines in my mid teens in the mid 80's. I jerked of 3-4 times a day to it in my teens and twenties.

my wife doesn't share my S&b enthusiasm and has a lower libido than my so I saw it as a great way to manage my masturbation and level out our different drives. Unfortunately my wife showed absolutely no interest in chastity and it got dropped for many years. Several years ago I started to experience problems with erections during sex I concluded I need to jerk off less so I returned to chastity on and off .

as my sexual performance improved with reduced masturbation I decided to self lock , that was 4.5 yrs ago and I've been locked pretty much 24/7 the whole time .

we don't get intimate very often but when we do I'm always up for it and my wife appears to like finding me locked so I'm sticking with it . Now seriously thinking of a PA as I desperately want to be secured with a PA device.

my chastity journey has now lead to me living my side of an FLR and treating my wife as my queen. She is not fully on board with chastity or FLR but seems to like it's affects on my behavior.

none of the improvements in our relationship would have occurred without the influence of chastity.

 

I just got a PA 36 hours ago, I am trying to document everything if you want to know more.
https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/i-am-getting-a-pa-…-a-diary.54398/

I cannot wait for the feeling of a PA cage security either. My wife holds my key (when not recovering from a PA), but she does feel a bit lost on what to do, despite many talks on the subject. So I gave her a gift box yesterday with a nice key and some vanilla books.
https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/i-made-a-giftbox-for-my-wife.54490/

She loves reading books, and she got really exited about both the books a the nice key. I really lock up to save all my sexual energy for my wife, and not waste it on porn and masturbation.

 

I tried with the book on the left about 15yrs ago , my wife read about 75% of it while I was away for the weekend but then it just stayed in her bedside draw gathering dust

I really wish you luck on your journey.

 

The reason? It just feels right. Always has.