Ethics vs lifestyle Debate

You shouldn't take to a lady like that. Show some respect!

 

Agree with this. Wearing a chastity cage is not illegal and if someone saw it, who cares? As long as you are being discreet, then it's nobody else's business of what you are wearing. If the person is offending by it, then I would ask, why were you looking at it?

 

So, standing stark naked towelling off in a gym changing room is ok.
But standing naked towelling off except for a covering over your penis is not?

Whether it's made of cloth or metal doesn't matter. If I want to wear something over my penis, what business is it of anyone else's?
If you don't want to see someone naked or nearly naked and anything that's under their street clothing, then don't go into a communal changing area in a gym.
If you value privacy, go to a place where it's available. If you are offended by looking at what someone is wearing, don't put yourself where you know you will be offended. It's that simple.

This debate reminds me of Mary Whitehouse.
She was a campaigner in against pornography in the UK in the 70's. She must have watched far more hard-core pornography so that she could complain about it, than I was ever able to in my youth. In fact, anything that she complained about I just had to search out and have a look at what it was!
For that reason, sometimes her campaining against liberal freedoms backfired. She managed to prevent Alice Cooper from playing on "Top of The Pops", and he often said that it was only her publicity that made his song get to No 1, and someone else even named a porn mag after her! Another case of "Be careful what you wish for"!

 

Wow, this is thought worthy. weather it is a kink or a lifestyle, I do not think that anyone wants to get caught. I think that we are willing to post here for others who understand our lifestyle or kink. However, that gets really complicated if we bring into this outside situations or personnel. I truly do not think that anyone living this as a lifestyle, or a kink, would want the police involved in any manner or for them to be humiliated by getting caught while locked up in chastity. I think that the danger of getting caught, or the reality of being locked up under your clothes while going about your daily stuff is the real kink and the real rush that we receive. And there is always that risk, however, I think that this scenario, the one about being discovered by the police for whatever reason they might, is a great example of the benefits of being kept locked up. I truly believe that aside from the sexual benefits and the relational benefits that chastity truly provides, one of the additional benefits is that you tend to toe the line while locked up so as not to attract any additional attention to yourself so as to be exposed! I think that we tend to be less likely to engage in at risk behavior that could potentially expose us. I know I feel that way. So I think that things should be looked at it from that perspective.

 

I think part of the clash here can be described as a clash between people with vs. without a liking/disposition for philosophy. "Just use your empathy and common sense, bro!!" might be a good answer for 99 % of daily life, but it is still a very uninteresting response. It's like the guy who think you are stupid because you want to discuss trolley cases, since "there are no way you would ever end up in that scenario anyways, so why don't you just shut up, being nice is not that difficult!!!!!" Yet, what you reply to crazy thought experiment might actually reveal something very useful about the topic of discussion as well as your own way of thinking.

 

I've read about half of this thread and then skipped to the bottom. (I hope that's right. I don't quite have the hang of where to post.) I see my lifestyle (in chastity in flr partnership with my wife) every bit as beautiful as a gay lifestyle, swinger, trans... whatever lifestyle that does not hurt others. I keep my cage to myself in the same way I don't proselytize my religion. I'm looking forward to some public folks coming out of the closet. I'll follow.

 

Strictly speaking, you are always taking a risk wearing chastity.
- Someone might spot a bulge even when you are fully clothed and get suspicious.
- A stray dog might bite you in the crouch area. Thank God you wore chastity - that dog got a surprise as hard as steel! But then you look down realizes you are exposed.
- You end up in a car accident and the rescue folks slice up your pants.
- You are spending the night naked and caged in your bedroom with your GF. Safe? Nope. The fire alarm sets off. At the same time you smell smoke and realize things are urgent. It turns out electricity went out at the same time, so you can't find your pants. So you have to run outside less naked.

Etc...
The probability for those things occurring is obviously very small, but that is not the point. The point is that the only way to not take any risk is not wear it. If taking any risk is unethical, you shouldn't wear it at all. In the same way shooting bullets up in the air in a remote area have a very small chance of hurting anyone, but the only way to be sure is to not shoot.

And also... the chance that some crazy happens to expose some cautious chastity wearer sometime, is arguably very significant.

 

Which is not to say that you can be careless all the same, but it does mean that there will probably be a grey area for everyone and that discussing where the line goes definitely might have some merit.