Hi everyone, I've been having a lot of pain recently in my lower back and hip, and have been seeing a physiotherapist. I can stay caged for the physio, as I'm not asked to remove any clothing and lie on my front while the therapist works on my back. My doctor also sent me for a MRI scan, which had to be done without the cage. The physio mostly works on my lower back and doesn't do much on my glutes or hip. So I thought that it might be good to get. a deep tissue massage on the areas that the physio doesn't touch. There's a massage place just around the corner from the physio, so I went in today and booked a deep tissue massage for tomorrow. Nearly every massage I've had has been with shorts on and covered with towels, so it's very unlikely that a massage therapist would notice a cage. However, I went to a new place last year, expecting that, and was horrified when they told me to strip off - and wouldn't accept any excuses not to. I had the cage on and was terrified about revealing it, as I would have been completely embarrassed and didn't want to involve the masseuse without consent. The first half of the massage was face down, but I felt her touch the ring of my cage a couple of times. She didn't ask about it and I don't know what I'd have said if she had. Then she said that she'd take a short break before working on my front. I panicked and told her that I didn't want any more massage, pretending that I'd received an urgent call from work. She was actually distraught and begged me to continue with the session. I couldn't face showing her the cage, so left, which really upset her. The next time, I went back without the cage on. It turned out to be a place that gives 'happy endings'. I had a different masseuse that time - not as good as the first. The 'happy ending' was very unhappy as, after 3 months caged, I released almost as soon as she touched my cock, before I was even fully hard. I was so disappointed by the completely ruined orgasm that I didn't go back again. So I'm not sure what to expect tomorrow, or what to do about the cage. It's somewhere I haven' t been before, so don't know what to expect. I'm currently self-locked so I could take it off before going for the massage. But if it's shorts and towels then I would have uncaged for no reason. Or I could take the key and unlock if it turns out to be naked. Or, if I can overcome severe embarrassment, mention it and see if they're comfortable with it remaining on. I definitely don't want to involve anyone with it, without their knowledge and consent. It would be great to have somewhere that I can have my bad hip massaged and have a masseuse who knows about the cage, isn't bothered by it and where I can relax and not panic about discovery. I'd thought that the place I went last year had closed, but it seems that it might still be open (or have reopened). Since they give erotic massage they might well be OK with seeing the cage. Any thoughts or advice on what to do tomorrow?
I decided to wear the cage as, if it was going to be purely therapeutic, then I'd be covered and they wouldn't see it. Otherwise, I could explain and they could either see it or choose not to. I am terrified of anyone seeing it, so that would be a big thing for me. It didn't matter though - the massage was done with underwear on and covered up with a towel. The massage place presents as a natural health centre, but the late opening hours, the masseuse's skimpy clothes and the photo of a vintage nude on the wall suggest that 'extras' are available there. I doubt that she'd have been bothered by the cage, even if she had seen it. The massage was fine, not the best I've ever had, but far from the worst. She'd clearly been trained and knew what she was doing.
As a professional and Licensed Massage Therapist the places you have mentioned disgust me. I work my ass off to maintain a good standing and professional environment. Anyone offering "extras" should be shut down and arrested.
You go to a rub and tug place and are worried about the ethics of them finding out about your cage? That reminds me of the scene in Airplane! where the guy offers the lady seated next to him a swig of whiskey and she puts him down with a "Certainly NOT" only to then proceed to sniff a pinky nail of cocaine off the back of her hand...
I'd never been to that place before, so had no idea what it would be like. All of the places around here present themselves professionally. No neon signs saying "Massage! Girls!". THey're all about holistic treatments, aromatherapy and acupuncture from the outside. I think that they are generally offering genuine therapies, with maybe some 'extras' on the side.
If they want you to remove everything, then it's a happy ending place. The reason they were so upset is the missing tip for the extras. These places won't have any issues with pretty much any weird things going on, even a cage, as long as it doesn't cause then any problem. In this case, you are costing them the tip for the extras, which they might be annoyed with but not really a problem. You might find it harder to book an appointment next time if you don't pay for the extras. So, either go to legitimate places were quality is likely higher, and skip the need to go naked and exposing yourself, or go to the rub 'n tug, expose yourself at will, and help spread the word. PS, most likely she left the room to ask someone else what to do with your cage.... Probably never seen it before, but didn't want to make any embarrassing issues.
My Wife is also a professionally licensed massage therapist and shares your thoughts. Many Women working in these places may be being trafficked
I went back to that place last week for a deep tissue massage. I wasn't asked to undress completely, but to keep shorts on. The massage was really well done, completely professional, done though towels and she'd clearly been well trained, using the towels properly for modesty. I'd kept the cage on, under shorts, and she didn't massage close enough to touch it. No 'extras' were mentioned or offered. It was the sort of massage you'd expect in a completely reputable place. I went there again today, and it was a different masseuse and a completely different experience. She asked me to get naked. I explained about the cage and that it was so only my girlfriend could touch it. She said, "only your girlfriend, so you just want a massage". She said that I could keep shorts one but she was clearly prepared to provide 'extras'. The massage was good enough, but not as good as the very professional masseuse. So two very different experiences with two different masseuses at the same place. I've heard this about other places too, and wonder if some of the masseuses are happy to earn a bit of cash in hand, by offering happy endings, whilst others are more professional.
Why? Sex work is work. As long as the workers have their agency and are not being trafficked, forced or exploited, why can't they make a living from their services? Who is the victim of any theoretical crime here?
I could report them to my friend who is a cop. But I'm certain that she wouldn't be interested. Before she was a police detective she worked for a while as an 'escort', having sex with men for money. She firmly believes that people should be able use prostitutes, so long as everything is completely consensual. Exchanging sexual services for money is NOT ILLEGAL here. There are even places not far from where I live that openly advertise naked masseuses who offer hand-relief. the police don't seem interested in shutting those down. I trained as a massage theparist over 20 years ago (though I don't practice). The course tutor mentioned that he knew a female therapist who believed that 'full body massage' meant exactly that, and would massage everything, including genitals. So if people want to offer happy endings, and aren't being coerced into doing so, then there's absolutely no problem with that.
Professional massage therapists who are not sex workers are harmed by this IMO And many of the women are being trafficked or coerced
I’m a pretty dedicated workout guy, and Madam likes to treat me to a nice massage several times a year. I am in no way permitted to deviate from our usual practices, which means that I get massaged in my cage and panties. Since I don’t go to places that would target my crotch, nobody has ever noticed or commented on my cage (though I have occasionally fantasized about having the massage therapist sit on my face ). The only acknowledgment I’ve gotten has been something like “cute panties” sometimes. I’m polite, I tip nicely, and I’ve never had an issue or been asked to change my routine. It’s always a nice treat and a little extra dose of humiliation/reminder of my place.
It does damage to my occupation. Honestly, I think prostitution should be legalized also. Taxes paid and mandatory health checkups. But do not provide such services that damage the reputation of others.
Bizarre response from you. If this is all true (questionable), then your cop friend doesn’t deserve their badge. wilful negligence shouldn’t be something you strive for
My wife is also a professional masseuse and also teaches it along with other holistic treatments. I agree totally with your comments.
People are saying things like 'call the cops', 'arrest them'. because massage therapists are offering extras. Like I said above, offering sexual services for money is not illegal here. So arrest them for what exactly? I'm finding your response really bizarre too. How is a cop 'wilfully negligent' for not being interested in something that's not illegal?
Your replies are odd, which is what has resulted in this thread. You initial comments made it seem like it was "under the table" services which are illegal in many places. Then you say your friend in a cop and said "I could report them to my friend who is a cop. But I'm certain that she wouldn't be interested". How could you report them? If it is legal, then you couldn't report them.
I guess you can report anything to the cops, friend or not. They get stacks of stupid reports all the time, which they will of course never do anything about, because nobody did anything illegal. From the original post, it seems they went to a legit massage place and everything was fine, then they went to a extras place, didn't get the quality of massage they wanted, and didn't really want the extras either. So it's suggest keep the cage on, and try to go to different places that will offer the service you want (ie a good quality massage, without making you feel uncomfortable, whether they offer extras or not is irrelevant, if you don't want them just say no). For the massage therapist offering extras, I would suggest there is no concern about exposing your cage, it will likely surprise them since they have probably never heard/seen this before, but they are expecting to give you sexual services, so I don't think a cage is going to be a problem, except that they can't ask you to pay more for those extras.
If I would go to a massage to take care of muscles, I'd orientate on sport massage. During such massage I would avoid my device as it would not be relaxing for me and not practical being in my stomic when my bach would be treated. If I would go to a masage with a erotic aspect, I would reach out on forehand. I've done this in the past and with my question they where able to assign a lady that was very interested and skilled in taking care of me.