How does your partner feel about permanent chastity?

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    #26 The Queens consort, Nov 16, 2023
    We’ve been at this a little over a year, but it’s been hit and miss thanks to various factors. Even though it would be easy to give up, we both enjoy it too much to give up. At first my Queen felt as if she didn’t have a choice, but finally she realized she had full control to lock me or not. Once that part sunk in, the entire situation took a turn for the better.
     
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    #27 Lockedpeanut, Nov 17, 2023
    I'm locked permanently and only unlocked when my wife wants to use her toy but to be honest she much prefers oral to piv
    Luckily we can both talk openly with each other about what we want and where we want to go with both chastity and our flr which I think is the key in any relationship
    We both love the control, tease,frustration but from different angles
    Surely if the other party's not fully onboard your not going to get the full effect of what your trying to achieve
     
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    #28 littleguy3, Nov 17, 2023
    She is so perceptive and so right. But your new orgasm could be her orgasms.
     
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    #29 littleguy3, Nov 17, 2023
    How do you get the temperature just right? Not too hot and not too cold?
     
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    #30 littleguy3, Nov 17, 2023
    Great thread questions!!
     
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    #31 Echo321, Nov 17, 2023
    Funny you should say that. A lot has changed in our lifestyle recently and while I’m no psychologist I do know the concept of conditioning. It would seem the vast majority of her new rules are meant to gradually replace my pleasure with hers in my mind. I asked her if that’s what she’s playing at and she smirked and said “I have no idea what you’re talking about.” To me that a “yes” with extra words.
     
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    #32 IB-Chaste, Nov 17, 2023
    You’re absolutely correct, but this was not about an achievement as such. This is more of an ‘enforced’ period (for want of a better word) to get back to our chastity normality.
    Neither of us would have chosen this strict level of lockdown, locking up was a somber experience rather than one of enjoyment…
    Which is why I posed the question:

     
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    #33 Tom Allen, Nov 17, 2023
    I had one of those infrared temperature readers from work (this was pre-covid), and I'd bring it home to test it. I found that 120ºF elicited the best reaction, but all that we really needed was to upend it into a tall thermos mug filled with the hottest tap water for 10 to 15 minutes to make it feel close to natural.
     
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    #34 The Queens consort, Nov 17, 2023
    We warm the dildos in a sink full of warm water.
     
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    #35 gold_member, Nov 17, 2023
    I showed this thread to my wife. She said she likes the responses and:

    When I asked how she would respond to this thread, she said:

    Then I mentioned that the thread was specifically about "permanent" chastity and asked, "Is that what we're doing? I don't think we've ever used that word before."

    She replied,
     
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    #36 Alceste, Nov 17, 2023
    The important point is to make it such that heat does not flow from her body into the object.
     
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    #37 Cecilia B, Nov 18, 2023
    Every time I mention it to husband, i get the FULL STOP safe word. I'm more having some fun with him. I'd go crazy if I couldn't have him in me.
     
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    #38 Martin patrick, Nov 18, 2023
    My wife has a thermal thrusting dildo and uses regularly I think she’s cum with it about twelve times since I was aloud to cum two weeks ago.She sends me videos of her using it to me at work just to tease me that I can cum only when she says do.
     
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    #39 lola2021, Nov 18, 2023
    sometimes people do just to make another happy
     
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    #40 Shira Hass, Nov 18, 2023
    for me is important that my partner are happy
     
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    #42 slave_to_hose, Nov 18, 2023
    I am happy to be locked permanently and just leak. She not so much into it but tolerates it.
     
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    #43 herluckyboi, Nov 18, 2023
    The longer I am locked and the more She sees the benefits, the more She talks about making it permanent. Still will be out twice a week for cleaning and shaving. Out for ruins and ending and rare full orgasms bit will most likely be locked 99% of the time
     
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    #44 Shimone, Nov 19, 2023
    For us permanent chastity is out of the question as there are certain emotional aspects that can not replaced by anything else.

    We are in a half-open relationship, have a lot of toys and are adventurous enough to know a lot of other ways to intimate with each other. And while this is great to give her great pleasure and more than enough orgasms almost all the time, there are times when all this kink simply is not enough.

    You know those times where you feel the need to be close to your partner, because something happened and you need his support or just because it feels great ? If you have this longing in a sexual way at least for us sometimes a dildo would not be enough, because in this times this small piece of silicone can be the one piece too much between the two of you.
     
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    #45 Mandrake_74, Nov 19, 2023
    No permanent chastity is not for us - albeit- it is important for us at this time. We enjoy the variation and the journey.
     
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    #46 Ms.Shauna, Nov 19, 2023
    I’m 100 per cent for permanent chastity. My sub husband just celebrated his 6th year of permanent chastity. He’s also been pussy free for almost 3 and a half years, and nearly 3 years masturbation and orgasm free.
    I believe a true sub will accept denial of his sexual relief for his Goddess.
    He was never big enough for my desires and was a premature ejaculater. So denying him PIV sex was a natural course for me. I’ve trained him well over the years to satisfy me orally, and I prefer this way more than intercourse. If I want the feeling of something large in me, I’ll have him use our strap on for my pleasure.
    Believe me, a frustrated and aroused husband 24/7 makes them so much more attentive and submissive to their Goddesses.
    I do allow prostrate relief every 3 months or so, but he has to do it to himself while I supervise. He has 5 minutes to anally milk himself, and if he fails he has another 3 months to wait. And that did happen once.
    Orgasm denial is a powerful tool in a FLM and I highly recommend it.
     
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    #47 chastity_longterm, Nov 20, 2023
    My partner(wife) feel…
    She is very3 enjoy piv with my dick..so no matter i bought the topic permanent chastity and she still can enjoy piv with dildo,felatio,oral ect…
    She always says “i only want your dick”

    even she sometimes said i will lock you permanently, its only matter of time she will unlock me and gave piv sex she will very horny touching my dick
    And last she buy dildo,she says “how if this will replace ur dick?”how if i enjoy this dildo,you will not have my vagina…and after 1 time using…”i only want your dick”
    And thats my cirle of my chastity life
     
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    #48 cogman, Nov 20, 2023
    I cant see my partner ever making my lock up continuously permanent. That said I cant see chastity ever being not in our life.

    She always has so much going on in her head and life that I am lucky I get what I am get which is pretty much normal sex about once per week.

    There was a time where it would go back straight on after sex and she would take great joy in CBT and other fun stuff. Right now unfortunately for some time really hasnt had the mental space for teasing and denial, I hope it changes sometime in the future but it wont be in the near future. Lately she hasnt been very strict I am usually loose for a for a few days a week, but it does go back on religiously after a few days.

    I don't bring it up just because that stuff seems so trivial at the moment, she would probably swat me,deservedly so, so I use my freedom try out new ways of torturing myself using my mind and other toys we have and imagine she is doing it to me lol.

    Still I know she love me (and I her), there is nothing wrong with "us" its the rest of the world thats messed up
     
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    #49 M@rcellus, Nov 20, 2023
    Are you Eric Cantona?
     
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    #50 Shimone, Nov 20, 2023
    should I know the guy ?
     
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