I am in a long term, successful, high protocol FLR... ask away!

We have practiced chastity since the spring of 2020 on and off. That became more consistent when I got a custom measured cage last February on our anniversary. Back in early march, chastity became the default. I've learned to clean without removing the cage and now we only remove it for her pleasure until after our next shower. There was a period of time we spent apart before I handed her back the keys while we were apart to get her back. So the dynamic is deeply embedded in our relationship. We've always been more female-led, however, it wasn't until last summer that I first asked to specify everything. She of course said yes because she's wonderful and amazing and we've moved in that direction ever since. In the beginning, it was only our chastity, then she became the official decision maker. Over time this has grown into us having rules, her controlling our bedroom life. Eventually she started getting so much control it was genuinely difficult to keep track of what she did and didn't need, so we recently decided to make a relationship agreement outlining our dynamic. This includes rules like "anything that affects her in any way must be run by her to approve or veto. including where he spends his time, when he is allowed to leave the room etc." "she may talk over him, he may not talk over her." or "he must remove clothes upon entering the house without guests." The written agreement eliminated the few remaining arguments we still had after truly entering the dynamic. We live this dynamic 24/7 and will continue to do so for as long as we are together (presumably our lives as far as we can tell). We are in the process of giving her control over our finances (of course with backup plans in case anything goes wrong for either of us).

 

We've been FLR for over 2 years. that's something I consider rather long-term. It ain't no 25 years like some members on here but it's longer than most of the people posting in this forum section. We've practiced chastity for most of that time, however 3 months ago is when chastity became officially 24/7 as default. That has not much to do with our FLR aside from showing it's growth. Good question !

 

We don't have any vanilla time in our relationship. Part of the purpose of creating the written agreement was to help her be more comfortable taking on the role during difficult times in our relationship. Right now we are dealing with difficulties involving my family and mental health and she has done amazingly at holding her position of authority and using it to help us navigate this mess together. So from the moment we wake up to when we go to bed, i am at her service. I start each day making her coffee and on my days off, i follow whatever schedule she has, being by her side as a supportive partner unless i ask and am given permission to do otherwise. Back last year, we did have more time that was vanilla but we never designated it. We just went back and forth as our moods naturally took us but over time we both felt a desire for more consistency so over time it's become what it is now. And ever since we have made it official and really committed to the lifestyle, we've not really argued, we've had more fun, and it's really cool daily interactions become this sexual journey for us both.

 

1. She doesn't prefer titles but I refer to her as "My Love" or "My Queen" when we are together

2. No but she knows I go on this and other formus. As this doesn't affect her in any way, I'm allowed to take my own action

3. It just happened to arrive a couple days before our anniversary and I found out it arrived on the day of. It was very cool. I ordered it from mature metal about 4 months prior

4. No? I've not really had any extra mental health issues over this, neither has she. Not only that, but she was reluctant to do all of this initially and has changed her perspective to accommodate. She has good intentions. Plus, all of this stuff that would appear as "taking advantage of me" is something we discussed, and is probably something I've asked her and helped her to figure out how to do.

5. The house is in my name for financial reasons. We are young but our relationship has been going strong for the 2 years since we got back together and entered this dynamic together. We broke up after just a couple of months together and it was mostly because I couldn't handle a traumatic event and the relationship at the same time. Once I came to grips with everything, I'd realized i'd severely fucked up and needed to try again with her, without the trauma. We've been rock solid since then, even through new bullshit, deaths, and what have you. So, for us, the D/s dynamic works wonders for navigating the world.