Too Subjective...

I think the name works as it is.
Up to Lucy at the end of the day, it's her site.

 

Faminization, sissy and other variants do not interest Lady C or me, but not seeing a lot of content in this forum that would interest us.

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I think this is the most boring section in here never anything new posted

 

That's probably because the people who are turned off by feminization probably have a habit of avoiding this site, or other sites, where the VAST majority of users are interested in chastity for cuckhold and feminization fetishes rather than as a tool in a BDSM scene where masculinity is more prevalent.

Or something

 

Well, I think it's good for wives in general, not just one specific wife/gf. There are a lot of women who might be willing to play chastity games with their man, but who would be horrified at the idea of him ceasing to be manly. So it would be good to have a forum where it wasn't assumed those other things would be part of chastity.

Frankly though I appreciate the forum, I think it's failed in that mission because, among other things, someone is always bringing up crossdressing, sissy stuff or cuckholding anyway, even if it's just to discuss why it isn't allowed here.

CMs demo skews too heavily that direction, and even if such a wife was comfortable here (dubious) the rest of the site is right there. Probably better to direct her to chastityforums.com or another site that has opt-in to such topics, instead of opt-out.

 

Yeah, I tried posting some stuff that was centered on a more playful style of chastity and just got met with a bunch of "oh, that's not for me." I think it was Tom Allen who said years ago that the problem with writing about chastity is that it's mostly about what doesn't happen. There's only so many "and then she said that's enough and didn't unlock me" stories you can tell.

 

I like playful aspects of anything. Where do I find these?

Honestly, think it will take a lot more than forum name changes to get wives/gf to visit this place.

As you say it’s subjective… how do we know that the next wife that comes along won’t be turned off by strapons? Or full belts? Or FLRs? Are they not feminising?
At what stage can we draw the line?

I see a work around for this:
You come on the site.
You tick certain things you want to see.
Then Lucy employs a team of people that analyse each and every post and categorise them so that you only see content relevant to you.
It’s costly…
But worth it. She has deep pockets.

 

"Men who want to engage in chastity play but don't want to suck their wife's boyfriend's penis."

 

Well yea, in many books, sites, blogs, etc. these things are all combined into one like they're all the same thing. And the wives/keyholders mostly need femdom/keyholding training. And sending them info about how to cuckold you and chemically castrate you with testicular injections isn't really something most guys are actually into I think...most.

 

Creep

 

Cross dressing and feminisation isn't for me, and my fiancee isn't interested either. Do the crossdressing and feminisation posts stop either of us using the site? No. Sometimes I'll have a read, as its interesting learning about other couples play styles, most times I'll change thread, or just skip those posts. It's that simple. If you're not into something, move along to a different thread, or the next comment. ‍♀️

 

I’ve noticed in general that it’s tricky to keep a reactionary / restrictive / negative topic going: This Without That tends to fizzle out pretty quickly.

It’a not impossible, though, if one is willing to put in the work to keep it going. I know someone who started a “non-nerd movement munch” because almost every kink and sex-positive social event she attended dissolved into discussion of video games or the latest Marvel movie and drove her binky-bonkers.

There was much offense taken at the idea of a munch where folks were not allowed to let their geek flag fly, but it was one munch out of many for folks who felt hopeless at others. They discussed art, culture, politics, crafts, hobbies, whatever else there was to discuss.

The munch, of course, stopped with the pandemic; but the organizer managed to find a connection and settled down on a farm, so it was worth all the blowback.

So if one really wants this sub-forum to thrive, creating a lot more content and making more responses to already existing threads would be a start.

Otherwise, I just consider it a niche forum here.

 

Exactly! Just post your posts in the relevant thread topics, and carry on!

 

If it ain't broke don't fix it. The name is fine to me and the message is clear. And even if the forum was created at the behest of one person, it was a welcome addition. As a relative newcomer here, it felt to me like nearly all threads were being hijacked (maybe not the best word) by a very vocal set who were deeply into feminization aspects of chastity and put that spin into every topic. That's fine, except it would drive me away from most threads as I didn't want to wade through all the clatter about wearing dresses and makeup. I don't have countless hours to spend here like some do and have to pop in and pop out as time permits. It helps to compartmentalize a little bit.

So I feel like having a place to talk about chastity bereft of those special topics is fair and equitable to those who want to participate.

Maybe it's not taken off yet, but the value is still there.

2 cents

 

just what I was thinking!

 

this sub is a prime example of catering to those who are incapable of just scrolling by.

i mean, i’m pretty open and liberal regarding kinks and all, but not everything is for me. the stuff that isn’t for me, i just scroll on by

btw, i also love wearing panties. it was my idea. come to find out, my wife likes it too. does that imply i’m a cross dresser and/or i’m into feminization? not to me it doesn’t. am i allowed to post that opinion here?

please scroll on by if what i posted isn’t something you care about

 

If the main forum were filled with foot fetish stuff, a majority who aren't into it would question why that's the case. Maybe suggest they take it to the foot fetish board.

The main forum probably shouldn't be full of feminization/sissy content. That should probably be relegated to a specialized board, too. It's niche.

Alas, rather than request that, we've decided to carve out our own place where we don't have to confront it (in theory, anyway. In practice that seems to really chafe some asses and they've followed us.)

If it were one or two posts here and there, no one would care. We'd just scroll. But it never is.

 

I personally am glad to see this new forum. We have been on this site many times but it often feels like I cannot relate to many on here. We are not into Feminization. My wife is very much happy that I am a man and expects me to continue being one, all the while being locked. It will be nice to have a place to talk to like minded people. Thanks for creating it!

 

i'd really like to know the stats of the offput wife's continued usage of this subforum that was set up specifically to make her less offput over her perceived overall impression of CM. to be clear, i don't care about the overall stats for this subforum, i just care about her stats. like, did this actually make her a happy and productive member of CM? and no, i don't care who she is, i'd just like to know if it worked or not for her in particular.

 

Those stats don't exist yet. We're investing in the future.

Several years ago I would have been that wife. In fact, I'm pretty sure I looked at CM, felt it wasn't for me, and moved on. Somehow I made it over the hump anyway. I didn't flat out reject chastity or shame hubby into keeping his kink private. We explored it together and I'm now a much stronger and more confident woman. But it wasn't easy. Today, I don't need this forum. I can skip content that doesn't appeal to me. But years ago, too much emphasis on feminization almost scared me away from chastity.

Do you consider me a "happy and productive member of CM"? If so, please listen when I say it's a really bumpy road for a vanilla wife to embrace chastity. Anything we can do to make that journey a little smoother seems worthwhile.

 

Yeah, my wife wants nothing to do with sites like this. But she does like the improvements in how things work between us.

 

@MsPamela preach! My wife @TimidKeyHolder and I have talked about this in the past. She and I seem to see eye to eye on this one. I like to talk to others here but it often seems to turn to the feminization discussion quickly which we are not into. She in interested in the FRL aspects as well as keeping me locked.