Orgasm denial, how long really?

2 weeks to two months is her regular pace but as time goes by it seems to be growing in time on each end of the scope. Sometimes she thinks I need to cum or she just wants me to cum so timing doesn't really play into her whims. Sometimes she wants to make me live by my word and take me as far as she thinks she can take me without remorse. I'll get a simple, "Lick me. You stay locked."

 

Well it is really different in relationships who fixes the waiting time. KH or chaste.

In our case it is definitely my wife. She chooses when. At as time goes by we went through many kinks inside our kink.

We spoke about complete orgasmfree life for me. Which has been a reaaly big turn on for me.
Then we spoke about only orgasm by being stimulated anally and on the clit in the cage.
Which turned me on also very much.

I recognize that I get better orgasms, when they are induced by the magics of my wife and not by PiV or masturbation.
Andbthat I get more submissive, which turns HER on and me also.

If she orgasms from my practices I give her, I also get one or something similar. Feels better than masturbating.

She enjoys my horniness very much so she wants to keep me as orgasmfree as possible. Which is harder for her than for me, because she doesnt only get very aroused by fisting me but also forcing me to the edge and forcing my cum out.

My wish would be, that she would be more consequent with orgasm prohibition.

 

Initially she thought it was a foreign concept and felt guilty for denying me an orgasm...for a weekend.
Then 4 days.
Then a week.
10 days.
2 weeks.
Tried going a month.
Then back to 2 weeks.
Last time 33 days. The drop was very obvious and she missed my horny energy and attention on her.
Now on day 14, the energy is back and last night I asked her when I might get one. She said "don't worry about even thinking about it...it's going to be a while, I know you can take it."

As frustrating as it gets at times (like right now), it is also incredible fun. PIV the other night, then she had an orgasm last night and I had none. Today I just want release, but also enjoy the energy and frustration.

 

Twice a week. Usually deny during the work week, then once on each of Sat and Sun. This is entirely Wife's decision and I defer to her. In our situation, Wife * enjoys * watching me masturbate and ejaculate. Big turn on for her. So she isn't interested in me going weeks or months with no orgasm.

 

Longest without orgasm is ~330 days. In that time I had several accidental ejaculations while we were making love.

Longest without ejaculation; 91 days.

She now wants to go 180 days without me ejaculating but long term she wants permanent ejaculation denial.

 

Prolonged denied period is fantastic and I find it so exciting as well.
But what about health issues? Are you guys practicing milking regularly, or maybe ruined orgasms?

From what I know, there are medical studies that report that frequent (more than 4 per week!) ejaculations lead to lesser prostate cancer. You can read about this here for example: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer

 

It doesn't have to be an orgasm

But I refuse to let anyone lock me up for more than 15-30 days without a milking or some other release

It all depends on age, diet, stress level, use of alcohol or drugs, regular exercise or not, etc, that should be used to calculate how long is good for you

But the older you get the more frequent they should be

Under 25 you probably only need a few a year

Over 32 I wouldn't feel safe going beyond a month

Especially with prostate cancer running in my family

 

My wife told me I could fuck her last night but, after stating that of course I want to, I declined because we didn't have time for *her* to reach orgasm and I said I'd rather do it right. She's a very caring and giving woman. She struggles to deny me anything.

So far she's letting me orgasm at least once a week and often more than once a week. Maybe every 3 to 4 days.

I think if she tried to push me over 2 weeks denial I'd object. But I'm willing to play the game. Maybe she pushes a week then next time 2. Maybe then we got for 3, then a month. You know the game. I'm willing to play it. As long as I get to play with her pussy and make her orgasm fairly frequently. I don't actually need to finish during sex, it's not required. But dipping my dick in her pussy, that is required. And as you may tell from my sexually charged writing.....it's been a few days...

 

What do I really want? Every time we are intimate, I want an orgasm. So make that daily.

What do we do in practice? We are now shooting for no more than once a month to keep my hormones racing and avoid the "dreaded drop".

 

I don't think there is a formula to follow or a right answer. It depends on you and your keyholder. One guy doing this might be 22 and another 72....these guys are in very different places in their life. You kind of just have to figure it out as you go.

 

I’m only allowed to orgasm when my wife allows it and I never know how many edgings and denials I will have to endure first. Exquisite longing for her to finish me.

 

So kurze Distanzen waren nicht einmal möglich, bevor wir mit der Keuschheit begannen.

 

Well last night I guess I got what I wanted, sort of. Dick in the pussy for a bit, but then she stopped me and told me to stop. I begged and begged but she wouldn't relent. Eventually she pushed me off and out of her, which seems to be a power play she enjoys lately. And that was that. Nothing more. She rolled over to sleep and I laid there with my hard useless dick unable to do anything about it. Still, I'd rather do that than get nothing. A tease and a taste is better than nothing.

 

"I want an orgasm. So make that daily."

Day 30 for me today. Looking back at the last 30. The amount of teasing, denial, edging, PIV, play, orgasms for her. Several trips that involved flying and being away alone in a hotel (locked), days of frustration. I am over the top right now, for pretty much the entire week have been craving an orgasm but feeling so much better without one.

It's such a tug of war. And last night after her teasing I was allowed to play with myself a bit as my wife was tired. It felt good to hold myself, it was like seeing an old friend. But the feeling wasn't nearly as good as with her.

Over the past 4 months she has been really tuning into me and understanding my arousal, and moods. I don't think I could give myself an orgasm without her knowing. I don't want to do anything sexual without her involved.

The cage keeps me safe from myself and my impulsive actions in check with my true desires. It holds me and teases me as I rub against it, contained within. A reminder of my erotically charged state and physical and mental inability to escape.

I read about men being broken, like a tamed horse. That is what this feels like. Really learning what feels the best and makes the most sense. To put my energy into pleasing her. The authentic feelings of desire for each other and denial from self pleasure unless it is what she wants.

Wow, this is almost poetic.

 

Sometimes I think like this and I start to get hard.

Then I start to think about her touching, holding me, and I get really hard!

I only want to feel her hand on me! That's when I get desperate!

 

Wife has medical issues and menopause. She likes to know I can not cheat on her. She loves my horny devotion and attention that she now receives.

 

When we first started, like others, we got into a routine of short periods of lock up and denial.
What changed everything was deciding to attempt each time to double the previous period between releases. The magic of exponential increases means what starts small soon becomes bigger than the time available!

 

One week get you fully loaded?
Ever tried two weeks? Different from one week?

 

Hallo Burschen
Wie unterscheiden sich eine oder zwei Wochen keusch?

 

2-3 days is nothing, but after then I can't think about anything else. After about a week I start to relax & it fades a little, but we've not gone into a third week yet.

I made a mistake mentioning 'Lock-tober" as 'a thing' recently & she said "wait, what - people go for a whole month?", so that will definitely now happen sooner or later - she never forgets a conversation or even casual comment ...

 

It;s all new to us, just made six days.
Regarding "Locktober", be honest there is already a splinter in your brain. It's twenty weeks to train for that.

 

I'd like to contact you.

 

longest was appr. 8 weeks. After a few days I started dreaming of her wonderful p...y all night. At least once a week cleaning by her feels so WONDERFUL!
The longer i stay locked the better my oral skills get...

 

That's the idea about it.