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Make your orgasims a special event, when she wants to have a bit of celebration. It is probable that you both not like your attitude the next day or two after your o, there is certainly a price to pay.
Your a lucky man!

 

It’s really what works best for you both while keeping you both engaged and interested in your lifestyle roles. Your fiancé will find a set amount of time that she likes and works for her. My wife on average will have me wait 10 days to 2 weeks just depending on what’s going on in lives I.e kids, work and other obligations. I can also say that the time frame is always evolving, longest I’ve ever had to go is over 2 months and then there have been other times she’ll unlock me a few times in a week. I like that I never really know for sure, the mystery keeps it real.

 

@New2chastity917 : She should wait as long as it pleases, satisfies, amuses, or whatever her rationale is... as long as it is still building or maintaining a healthy relationship. If that means 2 days or 2 months... Everyone is different & there is no right answer for a time limit.

 

With enough caged teasing, prostate stimulation, and caged partial ruins, she can literally go for an unlimited amount of time between orgasms. You will enjoy the extra play…and you both will benefit from the lack of post orgasm drop.

 

Tell your wife she's in charge she makes the rules and length of lockup.
Let her be comfortable with what she likes if she enjoys having PIV with you then when she wants you she can let you out.
My wife enjoys PIV with me so I get out often.
My wife made mention to me and this is just her opinion, that if someone is kept Locke for that long then there significant other doesn't really enjoy being with their guy.
Remember it's an opinion

 

I’d suggest a month at a time and see how that feels. You can build to longer if she wants.

 

Ouch sorry to hear that

 

Why does she regret it?

Fundamentally, the chastity experience should be enjoyable for both parties. So really the lock ups should be exactly how long works for you guys. I find that at 3 weeks I’m in the stable, horny, willing to please, enjoying the frustration zone. I actually find it frustrating to be taken out of that, but also very appreciative of the release.
I also find enjoyment when she wants to please me weekly, but I don’t get the positive feelings from being locked up. They take longer to build up than that. It’s really all about the type of orgasm I receive at the time.
What really is important is the time in between orgasms, how much you are both getting from that. Ensuring the experience is two-way.

There certainly is no rule that states that because you a live in this way that sex (PIV! I really hate that term) has to be off the table. It can be just done in other ways than it was previously.

 

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I agree!

 

Ah, whether she gets anything from it is irrelevant when it comes to this game now. The same could be said from a blowjob or a handjob. At some stage she’s got to give you a release, give you some of what you’re after. To keep that motivation alive.

For this to work she has to understand your desires and control them. If you really want to be rewarded by entering her she’s got to know and allow that reward when you are ready. Like I said, it’s two-way.
I don’t see any benefit from taking that from the table completely. (Although some make that work in their own way). That’s why I questioned the term “resented”. It should be a tool in her arsenal.

So to answer the question, how long should she lock you up? Indefinitely, until you NEED that release. Not necessarily an orgasm. I also don’t mean need it in a ‘frustrated, got to cum right now’ sort of way. She needs to give you something when your motivation for pleasing her wanes. She can keep you motivated for a long period just through tease and domination alone, but ultimately there has to be some carrot with that stick.

My wife seems to have learned this. It’s taken a while but she’s got the understanding now that I crave playing with her intimate regions and more so entry of it above all else. She allows it but in great moderation! She’ll happily put her underwear on for a massage so that thisnpleasure is just about her. This year I’ve felt the warm, moist surrounding of her around my penis for just 5 seconds… at no stage have I felt resentful or needed to end the ‘game’. She plays well.

 

I think the goal should be for only caged releases... makes permanent chastity a reality ... and hell they will always leave you sexually charged and unsatisfied, leaving you craving for more, a win win for both our you I would say...smile

 

Have to agree with Auntie Suzie. Another thought......Is it no PIV with you or no PIV with toys also?

 

Ah now I understand! Your fiancee, who you are about to marry, is already cuckolding you. You are discussing with her a FLR marriage. When you say she doesn't care about sex with you, do you just mean no PIV or no sexual relationship at all?

I guess you are happy with going into marriage as a cuckold and having a very limited sexual relationship with your wife. Nothing wrong with that, I just hope you are happy to live with it.

To answer your original question...many wives and girlfriends adopt a regime of less than 10 orgasms/releases per year. Sounds like she likes to keep you frustrated so this regime should achieve that and keep her happy.
Many submissive men would enjoy such a relationship.

 

Will she let you go down on her? I hope so.

 

Buy five dice and have her them all at once and then count them up! That will be the amount of days you will stay locked in chastity! Just be sure that you buy the dice because she might get the 20 sided dice to use!