I'm both young and new to the chastity lifestyle. It's a real pleasure to be welcomed here with like-minded people who have been so supportive upon my arrival. The conundrum I think I'm facing, is that being single and without a key holder, I find myself having to lock up and release at my own will. I certainly enjoy the experience, both the physical and psychological effects are amazing, but without somehow handing over real control, I feel I'm missing out on a huge part of this. I find myself quite jealous after reading so many of your stories. Lol. Self-regulated chastity seems like glorified and extended masturbation. While effective and enjoyable my only chance to have the experiences I'm reading about seem to be to pay for online domination, as it's unlikely I'll meet a real person who wants to be a kh anytime soon. Are there ways to enhance my solo experience or should I just seek the help of a pro?
I have not done solo but if your goal is to masturbate less then you could lock up and then put the key into a time safe
Welcome to the mansion. If you go to the classified Ads section on the forum you may find someone there that can help you with finding a KH and not having to go to a Pro Domme.
Is not really about masturbating less as not having control or a choice. A time safe was recently recommended to me, I believe I'll invest in one.
There’s all kinds of options out there. Sites with peers who control the lock release, You could find someone on this forum to lock you, use a randomizer to decide how long you’re locked. Just dont rush into anything and ruin the experience by getting some scammer posing as a Dom/Domme.
Chaster is one for example. You could order a key pod by QIUI. Then you can post a referendum and let the people on there decide how long you should be locked.
Wow! I just ordered a keypod. I had no idea such things existed. Thank you! I'll leave the lock time up to strangers, that's perfect in my situation.
I'm looking at Chaster now too, very glad I'm learning about these avenues, I had no idea this was so involved. I just locked up on my lunchbreak, maybe I'll see how long they'll give me.
Self-locking is a bit pointless, I agree. Unless you leave the key at your workplace or have a safe with timer that needs to be destroyed, there's no real reason why you can't just unlock yourself. And more importantly: no real motivation to stay chaste. It's not like you are still sexually serving your partner or have someone to tease you and arouse you. It's more comparable to being locked and ignored in a relationship, which is not nice either. That being said, I would never pay someone for being your keyholder. With an online keyholder you still miss out on all the physical stuff. And the experience is not "real" because unless you have a piercing your chastity cage does not actually stop you from pulling out and masturbating. I think it's ultimately a pointless experience and waste of money. If I were to spend money on sexual stuff, I'd go to an actual prostitute for actual physical sexual acts, including femdom stuff. Not for anything online, whether it's porn websites, Onlyfans, or an online keyholder. I'd rather masturbate to chastity captions until I find a partner to lock me up! Alternative, maybe less realistic idea: Make a business out of it and create your own femdom/chastity-themed porn. Pay an actress, enjoy the experience, recoup your expenses by selling your videos online. (There's lots of this content sold on Onlyfans or Pornhub.) Not sure if chastity is the perfect fetish for it as obviously the whole period of being locked is not part of the video and you'd still have to "self-lock", but the interesting scenes like tease in chastity, chastity release after long lock up, serving her while locked etc can still be done. This is what I'd consider doing if I were single, horny and had some disposable income to get started.
Get a time lock and lock a key in it lock the other key in a safe place but in an emergency it is accessible