Fell Out With a Chastity Mistress/Mentor, What Now?

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    #26 Byrdie, Oct 27, 2022
    And this way, you get more of the attention that you’ve been craving online, so it would seem that voicing your dissatisfaction here is actually working out for you.
     
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    #27 Caro-Kann, Oct 27, 2022
    In terms of satisfying my insatiable appetite for attention, yes. In terms of getting valued female attention to a well-developed profile, not so much because this site is predominantly male membership.
     
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    #28 Byrdie, Oct 27, 2022
    According to FetLife’s event calendar there are a lot of events going on near you, including some munches. So there’s that.
     
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    #29 Caro-Kann, Oct 27, 2022
    That's no good, I had too many negative experiences with munches. Besides I did not find I relate to most of the people that attend.
     
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    #30 Byrdie, Oct 27, 2022
    New people go to munches and other events all the time.
     
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    #31 Caro-Kann, Oct 27, 2022
    Remember I said the thing that I don't automatically agree with every piece of advice? Munches aren't a desired option for me.
     
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    #32 Byrdie, Oct 27, 2022
    Good luck, then!
     
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    #33 Ms Angela’s Sub, Oct 29, 2022
    LOLOL! The boy likes drama doesn’t he…. and appears to be reasonably intelligent. Two crayons short of a box….in the common sense department though.
     
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    #34 Breathe, Oct 30, 2022
    These threads seem like exemplary displays of the "yes, but" communication style.
     
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    #35 Caro-Kann, Oct 30, 2022
    Honestly, I learn more from debate than mindless head nodding. Once in a while, I suppose I have to agree so as to avoid excessively antagonising. But I don't see what is to be gained from "yes and ..." about something I am only superficially in agreement with when truly, there's nothing to add. But by contrast, through debate I have learned so much from people because when I disagree with someone, they are forced to clarify, they are forced to correct, and I have always found that is what truly forces me to look at things from a different perspective.
     
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    #36 Living Curious, Oct 30, 2022
    Imma just leave this here.
     
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    #37 Caro-Kann, Oct 30, 2022
    I should have probably added the disclaimer "...if they choose to reply".
     
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    #38 Living Curious, Oct 30, 2022
    Nah, I think you were probably totally honest with no disclaimer necessary
     
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    #39 Caro-Kann, Oct 30, 2022
    At the moment, are you choosing to reply or not? Can you post another response to me and honestly say that it was forced in some way?
     
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    #40 Wineguy678, Nov 2, 2022
    I was going to say something then realized you’re not worth my time.
     
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    #41 Caro-Kann, Nov 2, 2022
    Alright, so if you guys writing these things, and all the ones liking the comments, dislike my style of communication so much then why are you still responding at all?
     
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    #42 Jay Sub, Nov 2, 2022
    Altruism, pity, empathy
     
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    #43 Caro-Kann, Nov 2, 2022
    But I don't want "altruism, pity, empathy".
     
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    #44 Wanderer, Nov 3, 2022
    I disagree with the last few comments, but it didn't seem you want any advice, or at least none of what has been given. So perhaps you could ask your question again in a different manner or ask additional questions. I think there majority in here would like to prove advice or help we just seem to be hitting a wall while trying so far.

    Your method of communication is fine, but it is not the common method we need to learn your style and perhaps you learn it's so that we can communicate better.

    That is if you still have questions or would like help.

    Best wishes all.
     
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    #45 Caro-Kann, Nov 3, 2022
    - I was trying to figure out at the time how to make it through the month without a relapse (ejaculation). I got through the month already.

    - Now it's more a question of how do I cope, knowing I'm not likely to ever find a compatible partner (chastity is not a necessary precursor to a relationship for me).

    - Condescending sympathy is not required, straight forward problem solving will suffice. Be prepared for the fact I may or may not reject (or may decide to debate) your proposed solutions (if you choose to post).

    - I don't care if someone thinks that is "yes but" communication style, I prefer it.

    Oh I fell out with her again by the way. Just got fed up of the fact she wouldn't own up to her part in the joke. I don't think she is likely to message me again now. I was surprised when she deleted her fetlife account immediately afterwards, she had such a large commercial following.
     
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    #46 enslavedbyc, Nov 3, 2022
    Your problems are not solvable, they equate to dividing by zero. You have chosen a path that is a möbius loop, there is no exit ramp.
     
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    #47 Wanderer, Nov 3, 2022
    First congratulations on making it through.

    As for his to go forward without a partner.

    The are sites like emlalock and charter that may help.... Not my thing.

    Timed safes could work.

    There are also a few good apps available for free. I found one a while back that had a timer start after you asked it to. Meaning you could go until you wanted it then stay the clock. It would then make you wait the skinny if tube you specified before getting the lock box combination. It also had a trick to help randomize the combination do you don't just have to forget it.

    Let us know what you find that works for you. We are all different but what works for you may also work for another.
     
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    #48 Caro-Kann, Nov 3, 2022
    No ... psychologically, how do I cope? I don't want to go into chastity without a trustworthy partner.
     
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    #49 Wanderer, Nov 3, 2022
    Ah different type of coping.
    I wish you the best, I met my wonderful wife in middle school. I don't have any good dating advice. Seriously, just ask her she'll say I was bad at dating.
     
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    #50 true42, Nov 4, 2022
    "I was surprised ..."

    Perhaps this is the clue that unlocks the mystery.
     
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