Oh,Oh…..love,wine and a long due conversation….

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    #1 Mat-Locked, Oct 21, 2022
    …led to a new idea/set-up to make my lovely wife a bit more comfortable again.
    So after realizing that she is not yet ready to just decide if or when, etc…we had put chastity aside for a while, well the belt aside and had a happy summer together.
    Fought the struggles of live but anyway. As my lovely lady is a very clever being, she noticed that I am not 100% happy which in return made her not 100% happy.
    So a little while ago it was „talking time“, we ammunitioned us with 2-3 bottles of wine, cigarettes and sat on the terrace, enjoying the night and ourselves….
    We came up with some partly hilarious ideas, but one she since then kind of insisted on. insisted in a quite consequent way making clear she likes to do that.

    The result is:
    60 chips in total
    40 are numbered from 1-40 (days)
    20 are Blanks (releases/orgasms)

    20 randoms of the numbered ones plus the 20 Os go into a box, so 40 in total.
    Either she or me draws. Is it a number then that’s the days until the next draw. Is it a blank one, lucky me will get a release, if ruined or full is up to her mood then.
    The drawn chips won’t go back in the box. It finishes with the last chip.

    When realizing that 20 Os is by far not as much as it sounded first hand, I kind of tried to sneak out of that Project…but no chance.
    Nope, tonight my little sunshine would like to know if I agree to a slight modification as that every drawn O/Release chip gets replaced by a numbered one (remember we have 20 numbered chips that are not in the box plus the drawn ones)

    Good Lord….
    From „uh,oh I like all this chastity but don’t know if it’s the right way for us“ to „Hell Yeah, that will be a wild ride with possibly a few very long stints you have to go through“ plus „and no one knows what will be the next chip“

    so yes: modify it to the even harder conditions but with the thrill of more randomness
    Or no: keep it as it is ?

    thx for any advices…
     
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    #2 IB-Chaste, Oct 21, 2022
    Sounds like she’s comfortable deciding that you won’t be having many orgasms again in your life!

    I personally think she should keep that box and the chip drawing to herself. You’ll never know when/if you’ll be due an orgasm and for any reason she may want to overrule and play her own game you won’t be any the wiser.
     
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    #3 true42, Oct 21, 2022
    Holy shit! :eek:

    You're in trouble.
     
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    #4 Crowdpleaser, Oct 21, 2022
    My husband used to be reluctant to lock me for more than a couple days. We devised games to make him more comfortable. Some of the games were agonizing because I would always get so close to unlock/cum and then all of a sudden I would draw something that delayed it by a couple days then couple more days. In the end, it was frustrating me and him to the point that we never had very long lockups and he also did not like it getting drawn out.

    Today he is more comfortable with longer lockups. We still add little games here and there but mostly earned unlocking and tied to the bed to edge or just let me get hard with no stimulation but porn... then back into the confines of the cage.
    We usually have a decided upon unlock length/ date or range of dates but I get cranky without a tease.

    One thing that governs my lockups is control, my husband is always in control and can end the lockup, give me a ruined orgasm, or let me cum during an edge session even if he planned on relocking my cock back up. When an unlock is planned, he usually has a 48 hour grace period to, where he can unlock right on the date or a couple days later. Again, he is in charge of everything that happens to my dick once the cage goes on and my giving up control is why he likes it. Whatever he decides is what happens, even if he gets to change the rules.
     
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    #5 Echo321, Oct 21, 2022
    Since she went through a phase of being unsure and now is excited, if you really want to do this now is your opportunity to give her the chance to really own the KH role. Tell her she has the key, she makes the rules and you will do it whichever way she chooses.
     
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    #6 Jay Sub, Oct 21, 2022
    What is 1 + 2 + 3 .......+40?
     
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    #7 Jay Sub, Oct 21, 2022
    Plus 1 to 20 again?
     
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    #8 IB-Chaste, Oct 21, 2022
    2 years and two months…
     
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    #9 Echo321, Oct 21, 2022
    820 long, hard (pun intended) days and nights…
     
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    #10 Mat-Locked, Oct 21, 2022
    The range goes from 210 to 610 days for the starters in her box…
    We fulfilled probably the statistics with 420 or was it 425 days for the 20 numbered chips….
     
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    #11 IB-Chaste, Oct 21, 2022
    Is that longer than it is to next year? You can take solace in this
     
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    #12 Echo321, Oct 21, 2022
    Funny IB. It is, for the time being. God only knows what audible she’ll call when this time is up.
     
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    #13 IB-Chaste, Oct 21, 2022
    On one hand I find you’re predicament amusing. On the other I feel little sorry for you… but there’s this other hand (my imaginary third hand) that holds onto the idea that you’re going to find out so much more about yourself, your sex life, your relationship in these few short months than ever before.
    Hey, I’ve gone 4 months without an orgasm and I feel better and more in love than ever before.

    If nothing else you’ll realise, like the OP on this thread, you should learn not to play with probability :eek:
     
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    #14 Headtrip, Oct 21, 2022
    A guaranteed 20 orgasms in 2.2 years? I could only dream of such fortune. Take the deal while it's still on the table!!! (Either deal sounds good to me)

    Of course all our situations are different, but I have observed that the ladies here either get bored/stop chastity play altogether (which saddens us) or they start to get confident with the control - and I read signs of the later in the OP. Let's face it: our orgasms don't really do them any good (quite the opposite, they have to put up with us while we "recover"). A confident woman in control will quickly add up how much these O's cost her in terms of your best behavior. I'm unlucky in that it takes me a full 6 weeks to get fully back to her liking. Using this game she would never get to experience me at my best (relative to her). My point is @Mat-Locked , there is a pretty good chance that your wife will learn to like your behavior after the longer lockups and will never give you such good odds again. I would take the later deal, not because it lengthens the time interval to get all 20 O's, but rather it might buy you 2.2 years before a much worse deal might be offered! (ok, worse assuming you still enjoy orgasms, a few people here do not and I am not one of them).
     
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    #15 Wanderer, Oct 21, 2022
    820 days
    Which, while unlikely, could be consecutive followed by twenty straight orgasms.
     
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    #16 Jay Sub, Oct 21, 2022
    You can't buy better advice than that. Lol
     
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    #17 King Hippo, Oct 21, 2022
    Don't over think it... just have communication & honesty on both ends.
     
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    #18 IB-Chaste, Oct 21, 2022
    :eek:
     
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    #19 Mat-Locked, Oct 22, 2022
    we didn’t decide anything yesterday night, it was a long day for both of us, so we preferred to just have dinner and then to fall asleep
     
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    #20 madams-sissysub, Oct 22, 2022
    I agree!
     
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