I am enjoying the role of domme more and more. My partner and I continue to grow as we try new things. I've started being more vocal and giving him more chores and tasks. It is a learning process for both of us. I grow more comfortable with myself and what I want while learning how far he wants to be pushed and driven and how much i can push formy own liking. It is a fun, exciting and freeing experience. I am planning on keeping him locked in chastity for a much longer time than I have before. We will be coming up with different ways for him to please me. I love PIV but I am willing to go longer to see what effects it has on my partner.
Best of luck and glad to hear that you’ve decided to keep him locked in chastity for your benefit. I look forward to hearing how it all goes.
Like your focus on your pleasure - trust me he will too! If you want the PIV feeling but want to continue his denial let me suggest numbing cream (with condom or well absorbed if not) and/or a good, dual density, not ridiculously big dildo (pre-warmed, preferably strapped on over his cage). It was one of the things that helped me to truly appreciate her orgasms with all the trappings of traditional sex except I had no choice but enjoy her climax rather than my own. (Apologies if this was discussed previously a million times).
It is interesting that we both view chastity play and bdsm as a fun addition to our relationship but we will still fall into the fantasy trap once in a while. Meaning that I think about being endlessly pleasured and having acts of service preformed while he thinks of bondage and cross dressing.
After two weeks of teasing we had a bit of extra fun. I spent an hour teasing and an hour satisfying myself with his unlocked cock. He didn't get to cum but I did. Now I am tired, a bit tender and very satisfied. And I will be locking him back up after our before bed shower. Plans are for another two weeks of teasing before even the thought of unlocking. Got a few new toys to enhance my experience while he is locked. We'll see how it goes. I want him desperate and ready for anything the next time I unlock him.
The journey from very vanilla to being introduced to chastity (and more) to being a keyholder has been interesting to say the least. It hasn't been easy or always fun. It has taken alot of personal growth on both my partner's and my part. We have worked on open communication and being honest with each other and ourselves. We have learned more about each other and ourselves.
There always seems to be wrenches thrown into the works as we get a good flow going. My partner is out of chastity at the moment and will be remaining that way for a bit, at least until he passes the latest kidney stone. We had been doing so well with teasing and pleasing and I was finally able to actually feel dominant. And then this kidney stone has it all on hold. The pain is awful. The meds are stupefyingly strong and we've no idea how long it will take to pass the stone. A day or two or it could be a week or more. Yuck.
hello Mistress Tea, i too am in a relationship that's transiting from vanilla to kinky, or incorporating kinks. so am interested in knowing; how you come into the lifestyle. and was it a situation where one of you wasn't into kink at all, but the other one was.
Hello. My partner was into chastity and various kinks before we met. He started sharing some of his interests after we had a good relationship established. I was willing to explore all of it with him. We are still learning and exploring and enjoying.