Who introduced or suggested you consider Male Chastity?

I have always liked being tied up and was looking for ideas on line. I stumbled on a site about male chastity and men wearing cages. I did some research on wearing a cage. I guess I read up on it for about a month before I mentioned it to my Wife. She loved the idea right away and we ordered a cage that day. When it got here, she couldn't get it on me fast enough. That was 4 years ago and 8 cages later. My Wife(KH) has told me she had never heard of MC and men being denied orgasms. And if she knew about it, I would have been caged right from the start of our relationship.

 

A youthful relationship with an older woman that was into 'kinky stuff', light bondage and some orgasm 'control' from time to time where she would 'play with my bits' while I was bound, keep me 'begging for release'... Later I learned she was trying to train me, or more like show me, how she liked receiving 'it'... At some point after that relationship I wound up getting into selfbondage and always enjoyed the prize from getting free, quite horny and having an explosive orgasm that I had worked myself up to. Sometimes I would 'accidentally' have an orgasm while still bound. Without knowing much about 'chastity' or devices, I set out to create a 'padded cage' that would prevent the stimulation that was leading to the accidental orgasms so I would have to wait until free to 'play'.. I looked for 'ideas' on how to enhance this, and stumbled across chastity cages/belts and did my best to 'make' one but never quite got it right... Anyway, wound up purchasing a CB6Ks for use during my selfbondage scenes. Eventually I started dabbling with 'what if even when I free myself, I'm still stuck in chastity and don't get that prize of an orgasm'. This prompted a 'chance to cum' or be denied for 'a while'. That lead to looking online for 'chastity concepts' and eventually lead to my 'realizing I'm not all that strange' in wanting to experience being denied, at least for a while.. and also realizing that I had always been addicted to compulsive masturbation and started to learn more about how to get the most out of my orgasms, when I had them, by experimenting with staying locked longer. Eventually, that led to discovering keyholding, online virtual at first, which was a great tool for selfbondage as well as my early times of chastity 'play'. Very soon after that, I accidentally exposed my chastity to a lady friend that was also into it herself. Intrigued and interested in being supportive, she quickly became my keyholder, in real life. It was still mostly just my 'getting into it' but she made it quite real. Through her encouragement, she 'suggested' that I give up control to her and 'we' found better devices along the way, but from very early on, it was about chastity, not just 'play', and I guess you could say it was her idea to make it 'real'....

 

That said, it probably would have worked on me ...

 

Looking back, probably not a big surprise that I ended up here. In my much younger days, I would play sports video games with a self imposed “bet” that if I won, I could Jack off. If I lost, I wasn’t allowed to cum. Sometimes I would artificially change the difficulty to “sway” things one way or the other.

I’m not exactly sure where I first saw or learned about male chastity or caged. Maybe femdom related porn, maybe just browsing the local naughty store.

Fast forward many years later, and after the birth of first kid, I opened my big mouth that I would deny myself orgasm for the 6 weeks that she had to refrain from sex until cleared by the doc. That then set us on what seems to be an irreversible course to make chastity.

It has ebb and flowed since then over the past several years. Cages were first introduced about a year and half agog did we are still learning and growing.

 

You are right.. the internet was just budding in my younger years and femdom used to be a recurring theme for me.. throw in male chastity and i was hooked.. trying to live out such lifestyle and i find that a reversal of role suits me well… later i would be in charged of construction sites where ugly men swear from dawn to dusk for just about anything.. i just loved being a naked slave at home being locked up by a dominant woman… she is my wife.

 

I first came upon chastity devices on the website of Tammad Rimilia, also known as the "Gentleman Barbarian”. He maintained an incredible amateur website with all kinds of practical resources including how to build homemade chastity devices. A trip to the hardware shop, a bit of fabricating and I was off.
He documented his own journey into chastity as belt manufacturers started to sell online like Walter Goethals (now Carrara I believe) and Tollyboy etc. Sadly he died in a car crash in 2000 and for a few years a dedicated bunch of fans kept his website and legacy alive. Unfortunately there is no trace of his site anymore.
Then one day I saw the clear acrylic cage (I think it was the CB 2000), eagerly bought one and it was the start of my 20+ years journey to where I am today, locked in my metal cage.

RIP Tammad. An inspiration and pioneer.

 

You’re telling your age. Tammad’s is a name I haven’t heard in decades.

 

My journey started in 2014 when my girlfriend (now wife) and I were living together in an apartment. We worked very different schedules and had very different sex drives. I would masturbate constantly, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day. I just couldn't stop and I was always so horny. We had a pretty big argument about how I was ignoring her sexually, I was being selfish, and it hurt her that I would rather masturbate than want to have sex with her. Well, I told all of that to my (female) best friend and she suggested trying out this thing she had read about and seen on some forums. We spent the afternoon talking about what chastity was, how I might feel about it, looking up cages, and watching chastity porn. I found all of it pretty exciting and before she left, I had ordered a cheap Chinese steel cage. When it came in, I tried it on and talked to her about it. She agreed to support me and hold me accountable to actually wear it and not masturbate. After a couple weeks of being held accountable to someone, I felt a lot better about myself and I told my girlfriend what I had been doing and how it had helped. Ever since then, my wife has been on again, off again with chastity, using it as a tool whenever she thinks my masturbating has gotten out of hand again.

Lately though, I've developed a bit of social anxiety around unwanted erections (thanks in no small part to a high stress new job) and I've been using my chastity to regain some bodily control and lessen any anxiety.

 

I was curious about chastity for awhile after leaving a relationship thst I went from being sexual a top to a hung submissive piggy bottom n cuckold wanna be. Yes I am gay but also becoming more open to my bisexual side. My ex boyfriend was my bottom. Over the years together he wanted to try n get me into trying bring submissive n a bottom for him. No lies it was probably about 9 years into the relationship that one night while taking his fat veiny curved uncut cock. I felt this amazing feeling of bliss and pure eroticism imploded throughout my bottom. I was really enjoying his juicy n meaty cock. Here I am extremely rock hard leaking tons of precum. I knew I never had any of these hot orgasmic feels before this. Here I am hung over 9” and super thick discovering that I’m not a top but a sub bottom. I wanted his cock all the time through the rest of the year we were together and plus a year apart. I was his CumDump. In return for his help in transforming me, I started to feel like i wanted to reward him by finally admitting that I love the idea of watching him with other hung men and or women mmmm. Never happened but still it turns me on till this day especially when I am locked in a cock cage. I told a friend of my submission to my ex boyfriend n also about wanting to be his cuckold. My friend suggested I try chastity self locking. He sent me out an older cage of his and I loved it from the start mmmmm. I’ve had 4 different cages so far from a larger one to a smaller one. I’m looking forward to actually having someone lock my big cock up and control it someday mmmmm still I fantasize about being his cuck

 

What a waste that a hung cock like yours is not used to pleasure others be them male or female..? Only small dicklets need to be locked up as they are good for nothing other than peeing. But all subbies need to be caged.. ok you are one of them. Good that you can allay your envy and possessiveness for you bf to fuck someone else..

 

Referring to @Cagedxlcock ….

 

I never see chastity as a waste of my huge cock. It’s something I have accepted and embraced. I can only be my true and authentic self. I also do not have any envy nor do I feel possessive over an ex boyfriend. As I became more n more submissive to him he would love teasing me about him taking another huge cock like mine or bigger. Or he would talk about him fucking a hungry bottom or sexy wet pussy on a woman. He say I know you love it.mmm. I know your super hard n leaking precum thinking of it mmmm. He was right n I did admit to him how much it turns me on. He also was turned on by it too. Mmmmm. He would then say something like oh I’m really gonna do this and we all will love it but the first few times I wouldn’t get to watch. He said he would just tell me n show a bit of evidence. Fuck that still makes me super hard

 

@Cagedxlcock well i think you are very very brave cos to be lock up in a cage and have a great huge one like you it must hurt lots when you get a bit excite. and cos i am teeny it dont bother me.

 

Thank you for fhe compliment xox. I always get turned on by that mmmm. @jemima i do get a great deal of discomfortment when I get excited while I’m locked . I try to mentally handle it n physically I do try cold towels n or ice water to help me relax my cock

 

It's wonderful to learn about sex and pleasure from an older woman. I didn't find out about chastity until much later, but when I was 26 I met a women who was 49. When I told her I was still a virgin she took me by the hand and I had intercourse for the first time with her. We had a relationship for many years after that and we had a lot of fun. She found me wearing her lingerie and stockings one day and said she liked me wearing them. We moved away after several years and she left me her lingerie. I still wear it from time to time and have my own collection now. I wear women's panties every day now. I discovered chastity myself and usually self lock as my wife is not that interested, but she likes my panties.

 

It is fortunate to find someone that is able to show you things. I enjoyed and still do enjoy chastity. I am actually on a beta blocker for elevated blood pressure and it is hard for me to get and erecation which make wearing the chastity cage even more enjoyable

 

After two months of dating my girlfriend had Frank discussion with me about how her boyfriends committing to chastity cages while not having sex with her is a need for her. I'd never heard of them before but she showed me all about them and explained, after a lot of conversation I agreed to it.

 

Same for me. I got the idea to apply it to a weight loss program. I searched Google for "chastity weight loss" and found several stories here and on other sites. I bought my first cage after that.

I discovered tease and denial quite by accident and decided I needed to apply chastity to avoid masturbation so I could try to revive my dead sex life in my marriage. Everything changed dramatically when she agreed to be my KH.