Who introduced or suggested you consider Male Chastity?

Don't now realy.
Long time agoo in my teenage years i made a cock tube outnof pvc plumbing.
It never worked because i had no clue on how to attach it .
It was also the time i discoverd anal play and lesbian porn with strapons.

Whe the world wide web went burger and sites as pornhub and redtube went bigger the femdom/strapon play came in play.

and with aliexpress/dealextreme/dhgate i found a chastity cage (the cb6000s) and ordered it rigjt away but that never worked out (maybe a day but never over night).
So and now we are here locked almost 24/7 since feb-2021

So where did it come from i Don't now but i was always intreged by locking my cock....

 

My best friend (female), we since ever had a kind of friendship with benefits, lots of bondage, light sm, discovering, experimenting and I don‘t remember how one day we discovered Chastity Cages.
After a short hesitation about comfort, wearability, first cages I ordered a custom Steelworxx one and was trapped in an 3 months „experiment“…
It was a very intense and interesting time, she even made me write a daily journal and we every now and then restarted chastity time/tasks…
When she knew I had found the person of my life and even befriended my wife quite well…she told my love about the chastity secrets…
Well…and now I spend more and more time in my belt….
(And yes it still feels very strange when they both start talking or joking about „their“ man in chastity…very weird)

 

I was introduced to male chastity by my partner/ sub. It was his kink but I became interested right away. We've been playing since shortly after introducing it to me and loving it.

 

I have good stamina, and sometimes I last too long and she would get tired. So I agreed to stop when she was done. That turned into denial. Which turned into tease and denial. Which turned into chastity. Which turned into FLR.

Which turned into…

 

I had good stamina as well. My 2015 involved a lot of fucking. But I lasted too long. My wife trained the stamina out of me with ruined orgasms from gentler and gentler stimulation.

Our story is a little different but my cock-proud self may have been the reason she embraced the orgasm denial.

My wife introduced me to the concept of male chastity before we married. We were in college. She sent me an erotic story from Usenet called “The Chastity Belt” by Glenn Arthur. It’s online on his webpage.

We browsed Mr S catalogues together. The devices were “dungeon only” back then, or very expensive full belts. I might have benefited from male chastity in college if devices had been as prevalent as they are today.

The idea latched onto my brain and never left.

But until I got pierced and then fitted into a custom steel cage by MaleChastityNow, she didn’t really consider chastity more than a game, or a scene based thing. She found she enjoyed my demeanor and asked me to wear the cage.

 

Porn

 

My madam introduced me to it. We were already in a bdsm relationship, and one day while I was at work madam was looking at some bdsm porn on the net and she saw a clip of a slave wearing a cage.
She googled male chastity, found the CBX website and when I got home she showed me the video and told me she wanted me to be locked up like that, I told her I would know where to get one from. Then she clicked open the browser with the site on and told me I had to order one!

 

I discovered male chastity by chance, a long time ago, when read a letter in the spanking magazine Janus. The first device I used was a small leather strap fastened immediately behind his knob just as described in the magazine.
Rita

 

My introduction to chastity & orgasm control/denial was in the Penthouse Forum letters back in the 1970s. I was surprised it turned me on and provided good wank fodder for my fantasies.

I saw a prodomme in the early 1990s a number of times. She liked the idea of orgasm control, but at the time it was difficult to find good chastity devices, so we never did much with the idea.

Forward 10 years, I met Mistress Kat9. She introduced orgasm control and then complete denial for long periods of time. Chastity enforcement ebbed and flowed over the years until late 2019 when she said lock it up and keep it locked. When I got a MCN Contender, long lockups became easier regarding hygiene.

A few comments she made a few months ago indicate that this is how she wants things from now on.

So, while actual chastity has always been enacted by a Mistress for me, there is no doubt that some aspect of me also goes for this.....even though another part of me desperately wants to cum.

 

So, when my now wife and I were dating, we got to the "getting to know you sexually" stage and we both admitted that we watched porn and found that we both liked bondage porn. We started incorporating watching porn into foreplay sometimes. Well, we both found that we enjoyed Riley Reid and I did some solo homework and saw some incredibly sexy Riley Reid porn where she teases guys with cages.

Before that point, I hadn't seen a chastity cage, so this surprised me and I was pretty quickly turned on by it. I did some googling to see if you could buy one online and found all kinds of forums and stories and so on.

I was a little apprehensive but decided to tell my wife about it and show her the Riley Reid stuff I found. Needless to say she was pretty into it. We tried it out a while just finding the right cage and settled on the Queen's Keep from Mature Metal.

We still aren't really into the whole FLR aspect, but I enjoy the T&D and so does she, and gets super turned on when we watch porn and I'm caged while she toys herself or I toy her or go down on her. Needless to say it was a shot of sexual energy into our relationship and we still do short term play and stuff.

 

Hey,

For me there are two different trends that came together.

First up, I think I've always been fairly submissive to C in the bedroom (together 20+ years, married 15+, 3 kids), though I don't think I ever was with previous women. Then, about 10 years ago, prostate cancer and a prostatectomy. One of the side effects is ED, and I didn't get hard for months (still sometimes a problem). This was a rough time, as the lack of sexual intimacy hurt our relationship. I had to learn that intimacy didn't have to be about PiV, and got adept with oral and toys, which hadn't been a big thing for us before. So I sort of learned that my sexual satisfaction was all about serving C.

Second, porn. About 5 years ago surfing around, I was searching on female bondage, but ran across male bondage instead. That was hot and intriguing - it flipped the script on what I was expecting and went along with my growing (or maybe always there but more recognizing) submissive side. Male bondage/submissive husband/male chastity became my go-to fantasy life. I also started reading more "real life" flr stuff as opposed to porn dominatix stuff. For instance, there used to be a blog called "I'm hers" (that has since been taken down - anyone remember that one). The guy there just documented his life in an FLR as a married couple that, aside from the power dynamic, was pretty much the same as mine, so I began to see this as not some crazy thing from porn sites. Our local adult toy store had some cages, and finally I took the plunge and bought one. While C was away on a trip for work I spent a few days trying it out.

When she came back, I had "the talk" with C about this. Long story short, she's not super into it, but sort of puts up with my stuff. Sometimes she'll be a little more "domme-y" and other times we are more vanilla - no B/D or S/M, but there's a mild D/s dynamic running through our marriage.

Bruce

 

Perhaps just giving her time. “Just putting up with it” is a pretty big step in the right direction.

Try not to whine or bug her for release. Go the extra mile helping out. She will notice, but may not make the connection right away. She may also notice your increased desperation when being intimate. After a bit of time, she may start connecting the dots.

Be sure to acknowledge the things she does that you enjoy. You are in a delicate period while she sorts all of this out. After all, this is a bit of a change from the man she married.

 

It was (still is) a journey for us as a couple. My better half and I were both quite innocent when we met. We began experimenting, we've always looked for fun things to do together (in and out of the bedroom).

Through mutual discussion we stated trying some sex toys, but it was probably more prompted by me (I've always had a playful mind).

We started with play handcuffs and reading about sex and kinks. We moved to more serious tying up and edging, taking it in turns to be the Dom.

We discovered when playing she was more comfortable being the Dom and I was happy playing either role. That lead to more reading and discovering chastity as a form of male submission, which seemed like an extension of edging.

That lead to more reading and discovering Female Led Relationships. It's now been a very long time since I've played a Dom role.

Be careful what you read. The biggest sex organ is the mind. The printed word is an aphrodisiac.

 

The Centurians bondage catalog back in the early 80's.

 

Lovehoney. Yes, the online sex shop, years back in 2015! I saw the chastity cages whilst fantasising that my wife would be more experimental in our sex life (she was so very very vanilla, still is in a few ways). I was intrigued, it seemed like a kink I could try out at least privately to start with. So I ordered a knockoff CB6000 off Ebay (because £60-70 was huge back then) and tried it out. The sensations of not being able to access my dick were strange and erotically charged in a way I never expected. I kept trying it, eventually deciding through experience to tell my wife, who had noticed some changes in my demeanour - she's pretty sharp on that.

Initially she thought it was weird, but accepted it. We stopped and started many times as I tried to get used to cages, never quite finding the right size but learning all the more each time. I eventually went custom and got the measurements all wrong, and it wasn't until I got my ultra-sleek and minimalist Steelheart that I really began to make progress.

Now I'm in an FLR, getting spankings for discipline, and that vanilla wife? Now way more dominant, and considering bondage options so I can have a 'normal' orgasm on special occasions and be re-caged without fear of 'losing the vibe' of how chastity works for us.

 

I’ve posted this before but I’ll repeat as it’s been awhile.

Around 1999 or 2000 when the CB2000 came out I was at a CFnm tea party. The hosting couple had him in one. It was the first time I’d seen such a thing. My thoughts were that it was nuts. But like all crazy things it grew on me quickly. So much so that I bought one. From there chastity has been a fetish of mine since.

 

I've been interested in cuckolding for the longest time. As I was reading cuckolding forums and stories, the subject of male chastity would come up but I would dismiss it or skip it from my readings.
I brought up the subject of cuckolding/ hotwife to my wife but she has never taken an interest in it. She is very vanilla.
Also, over the last few years, her interest in sex diminished to the point that we were having sex about 3 or 4 times a year almost turning in to a Pussy-Free-Marriage or no PIV.
As an effort of eroticizing our denial I brought up the subject of chastity and she was not opposed to it. She is not very active in it at all but is happy to hold the keys for me.
I've been locked for the last couple of months .

 

• WOW what a wonderful question. I was introduced to Chastity by an older woman I was 27 she was 52. It started with just her wanting me to masturbate to her. Then she wanted me to use her panties and then she had me doing things like cumming in my own mouth. butt plugs, dildos and making myself cum with a dildo only then she used a strap-on on me which I am a fan of now. I don't get that anymore. then use strings and ropes then one day she got me my first CB 6000 and said if I want to continue to play with her this was the deal. I did. Then 5 years later she died. I was and have been hooked ever since. I tried to let it go but it is always there. My second wife caught me watching chastity porn wearing my chastity device and freaked out. Things did not go well and she left me. My current wife I told her while we dated and she did not mind but 3 years ago she just lost the thrill of it. She doesn't mind me wearing it but it is not her thing any more I still lock up but it is no fun. She keeps telling my I just want your cock in me when I want it you do what you want until I want your cock. Just don't see any other women or I will divorce you. She said she doesn't want another man just me So there is that.

 

I started masturbating at 11… it bcom chronic during college years.. yes.. admitedly too much porn eventualy led me to stumble on such device to prevent erection in d 1st place… tat has bcom a source of intrique to me.. the idea of (in)voluntarily restricting aces n freedom of manhood… n i explore..goten a few cheapskate device to try out but chastity idea drop out of my radar during my dating years with my wife..
but d chronic masturbation nvr stops.. until it ruins our sex life.. which i was ald suck at.. So i gifted her total control of my dick with a device on her birthday.. saying “mayb tis wil help our bed stories..” when d initiation of intimacy belongs to her instead… we did progress on chastity to power xchg to FLR… while i stil suck at sex.. which has bcom non existent to me

 

You must be the last person to still be using a Blackberry ...

 

My brother-in-law is a porn addict and I want to suggest him to try chastity cage, hope is helps. I do not have such problem, but I need to let my woman control me so this is the good way, I guess. So nobody told me to lock myself, it was my idea... I've read some messages here and see that guys are happy to have this cage and how is saved their relationships. Now I like the idea of wearing the cage more and more

 

More often than not, you need a solid relationship to make a FLR or chastity work. If a relationship is struggling, adding a kink may not help.

 

Pretty sure the first mention of chastity was from reading sex stories. Wifey stories hot wife etc...
Light femdom. Female-led relationships. Tease and denial. Cuckolding.

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Stories about using a strap-on on the wife while the husband is in chastity are a big turn-on for me.
Giving pleasure while I am denied. HOT!

 

You are right.. a relationship has to be on solid rock before attempting any kinks. A reasonable amount of trust being established. No marriage cousellor would recommend a straying husband to be placed in a chastity device and the wife start whipping her husband into submission