What rules do you have in your FLR?

She tells me what to do and I say "Yes, Mistress".

 

I don't have any rules, they're all Lady C's. Even then there's only one: "Lady C decides all". If there was a second rule it would be "if in doubt, refer to rule 1".

 

I get rules added, and she forgets about others quite frequently. But I’m currently under these rulings:

- no discussion about chastity until she brings it up.
- never touch myself even when uncaged. The only time I can is when I’m re-caging.
- if Im going to cum I have to tell her so she can ruin it
- no peeing standing up. Even if it’s possible she prefers the humiliation of me peeing like a girl (she probably actually prefers the cleaner toilet)
- no complaining about anything she does or doesn’t do.
- no extreme insertions. She needs to remain tight on case there’s a chance my cock shrinks - this does not seem to apply the other way round.


Oh, and there is no end to this unless she decides

 

Mr smallboi, the rule is to keep the dick small.. then everything else will fall into place..

 

Just like Fight Club says, the first rule of FLR is, no talking about FLR. The judgmental opinions of those with unopen minds will make you self conscious and doubt everything.

 

My wife and I had a long written agreement with numerous rules, none about specific actions - all about how I was expected to behave.

In particular there was a rule about not talking about the agreement or rules without explicit permission, and that I wasn’t allowed to ask for permission unless she was completely satisfied with how I was following the rules, and there was nothing I needed to be corrected for.

 

initially it’s the hardest one to follow. Especially when it’s all exciting and new. I’ve found though that it’s been the most beneficial for relinquishing control

 

Weekly cleaning chores
I am not allowed to bring up the subject of chastity
Spoon when sleeping
Sunday removal for cleaning, shaving and wellness check
Serial number check on seal when showering daily
All Bathing is supervised
No access to her locked toy box
She is never to touch a door
No unauthorized orgasm or touching (I think goes without saying)
Kiss leaving or arriving home.
And greeting and responses are to her title "Domina" (No exceptions)

 

Only a couple:-

1. I don’t get to ask when I am let out (it’s been 7 days - not normally much longer than 10 days)
2. She gets to fondle or tease me any time she wishes.
3. When she asks for a massage or to have an orgasm I have to use what ever method she wants (toy, mouth, piv)

 

No rules. It is best to learn fast if she is not pleased. And don’t repeat.

 

I have a safeword if I should ever need the spare key in an emergency. Otherwise no agreed rules, I just do as I'm told.

 

I am a full time cage wearer and my wife is my key holder. We do not live in a full time FLR, but one of a partnership until a certain criteria is met. When we are both wearing regular clothing or doing normal life activities, we go by our birth names. When we are both naked by the pool or hot tub, in our playroom, or her in costume and me either naked or in some outfit she had picked, she is Mistress.

 

Which rules should apply in a Female Led Relationship?

It of course differs from family to family, but for my beloved wife Larissa and my self I can say, that we were lucky enough to grow up in a small Female Led Community where both of us were raised according to the Female Supremacy principles of our leftist and feminist mothers, so when Larissa at a very young age chose me to be her male partner when she only was 19, and I was 20 years old, the rules of our marriage already were defined for us by the women who founded our Female Led Community, so we did not have to bother with defining those rules for ourselves.

Our small community had a lot of rules. Last summer I tried to describe those rules and the reasons why they were made by the women of our community and how they worked out in everyday live in some details in my posts about Life in a Female Led Community, so I will not repeat it here.

When a young woman from our community chose a young man to be her male partner, then if the lucky man said yes to her proposal, the man had to take the family name of the bride and live with her at her place, as I of course took Larissa's family name, with is Callas (she is of Greek origin) and started living with her in her mother Jacinta's house, where her one year younger sister Ophelia also lived.

Should a wife punish her husband corporally, if need be?

I know that the opinions differ greatly, but I would like to tell you something that illustrate my wife Larissa's point of view on this matter. And I agree with her:

I clearly remember, that on an early evening shortly after our wedding in the summer of 1982, Jacinta told me, in the presence of her daughters, that I should not forget, that from now on Larissa had the right and authority to scold me and punish me with a slap to my face like my mother and my little sister Ida used to do.
I nodded in approval but noticed, that Larissa looked very much surprised.
That same night, when Larissa and I were laying in our bed, Larissa told me, that she had been really upset about what her mother said to me, and that she afterwards had told her mother, that she had not married an unruly boy, who needed corporal discipline, but a well behaved young man, as she said.
I knew the rules of our community just as well as Larissa did, and if I did not want to live by them, then I would not have said yes to live with her, Larissa had said to her mother.

So I have never been face-slapped by Larissa.
She has far more subtle ways to control me, if need be.
Because naturally we over the years have disagreed from time to time.
But Larissa alway made, and still makes, the final decision, if we cannot reach an agreement.

 

do what you told is the best i think. and then there is not like what some folks have put on here thats a great big long list of thingys that you have to do and if you dont theres horrible things that happen.

 

What's a safeword? ;-)

 

I don't see why this is Important, because there ist nithing wrong beeing in a FLR.
Why should I care about what unopen people minds think?
Feels to me like censorship and also would make it difficult to be or try to be a submissive in public.
(I not talking about walking arround in a dog collar, but just showing my "Sweetness" what she means to me).
Let's be honest, If more men would live in a FLR, we would very likely live in a better world.

Feathers.sub

 

It's very unwritten with my wife. She comes up with the rules and then she tells me that I like and agree to them, and I nod.

Then the ratification

Her: You agree to these rules I am proposing?
Me: Do I?
Her: Yes you do.
Me: I do!
Her: Glad you agree.

I agree with Feathers.Sub...the world would be much less complicated!

 

It is a form of censorship but a matter of to what extent you let others influence you. There is a difference between a random acquaintance offering you an ignorant point of view and a close family member. Everyone is influenced is some way by their surroundings and it is just how you are able to respond to these influences. There is a huge difference between someone being walked around in a dog collar in the general public and at a family gathering or workplace. If that is what this person is in to.

 

Rules aren't really my wife's thing, though she does appreciate that I meet certain behavior standards:

* She is in charge
* She is non-monogamous but I will remain monogamous, at least when it comes to women.
* I take care of all laundry and nearly all of the dishes.
* Always sit to pee except sometimes in public restrooms or outdoors/camping.
* Fetch drinks and other things for her as directed.
* Plan vacations and handle our social calendar -- "the sexretary."
* She owns my cock, balls and all the cum.
* Treat her like a princess and make it look completely spontaneous.

She also doesn't really like discussing our FLR. All she wants is to know that it works. If we have an issue, we can discuss it but that rarely happens. We are nearly equals -- 51 to 49 but she gets the last call. She always listens to my advice.

 

Ours is a Master/slave relationship. I have a contract with some rules and limits, but it’s mostly she tells me, and I do it. The only real rule pertaining to chastity is that I’m required to ask before I’m allowed to masturbate or orgasm. At one time, she usually said yes, but then she didn’t.

 

Hello,

Mistress has established a new rule for me. For many weeks I have been kept chaste by her in my steel cage, but with regular unlockings every 4 days (cleaning, shaving, also for appointments with the doctor, etc.). Now I should slowly transition into a status of "permanent chastity".


Well, in the future I should first get permission to unlock my cage from an additional lady, either in real life or on the internet. Mistress promises additional fun for her and additional humiliation for me. In this way, I will no longer have the pleasure of unlocking my cage every 4 days and will have to announce my chaste status, at least on the Internet.


So I'm asking for permission from a lady here on the internet to unlock my cage. I have an appointment with the doctor next Monday and I want to clean and shave myself. If you dear ones have a mistress, please ask her for me. That would be enough. The final decision is of course up to my mistress. Many thanks

 

We don't have any rules, we're always polite and respectful with each other. I understand I wear the cage and her the strapon in the family. It isn't always easy, but it works.

 

That wasn’t the hardest one to follow. The hardest ones were around ‘feedback and correction’.

In particular, she could correct me on anything at any time and the rules for me were:

1. no defending myself trying to explain.
2. acknowledge the mistake, and the impact on her
3. prove that I understand how to avoid making it again
4. gratefully accept correction as an act of love
5. ask for correction immediately if I realize I have made a mistake
6. don’t ask for permission to share my perspective until she is fully satisfied that I have been corrected

Her side of our agreement stated that she would never allow me to escape from these steps, and that she would never temper her emotional tone or energy when correcting me.

 

Half of me feels this is a little too extreme.

The other half of me feels like it’s something I want. My wife is continually growing in her role as KH and I want to let that take her where she wants to go with it.
She gave me a pretty stern telling off for suggesting we have sex last night.
‘That won’t be happening.
I’ll say when you cum.
Don’t care how long it’s been
Don’t try and control this again’
Words to that affect anyhow.

A few days ago she was playing with my son on the floor. He’s little. He peed on the floor. She got up and said “get down and clean that up”

I really did appreciate the dominant nature of her and how that’s developed.

But as to that rule you said… that’s for me is too far. I think you should still have care and compassion in any relationship and if she’s asking you outright to just accept you are wrong in any given aspect of life she seems. Doesn’t seem balanced.
I understand how you would struggle to follow that one! Do you get punished? And if so what measures does she take?