After much discussion with my partner, she's agreed to join me in chastity play. We're starting off more slowly than I would like. We need to move at the speed she is comfortable with. On Friday, I was locked at the end of the work day. My wife wore a low cut shirt and the key dangling between her boobs. She knew the sight of the key around her neck was a turn-on for me, so she would discretely play with it. This went on for a few hours as we cuddled and watched TV. She unlocked me before bed, as she's afraid of hurting me in my sleep. She had no interest in doing any locking on Saturday. But it is Sunday morning, and she put me back in the cage. She wants to watch some porn with me in a few hours, uncaged with her.. I told her I wanted to be locked up afterwards, but she's having trouble understanding why I want that. We'll see how it goes.
if you are anything like me, you're not to be trusted after watching porn so, if you are not allowed an orgasm, you definitely need to be locked up straight away.
I'm pleased to report things are going well today. We did watch some porn, I helped her achieve orgasm, and was locked up afterwards without objection. We have a virtual social event tonight and she's going to unlock me before then. Doesn't like the idea of mixing chastity and broader social interactions.
Sounds like a great start. In my opinion you are correct to go slow and not push her, just make it really fun for her. Good luck!
Keep going at Her pace, without begging or criticism. Just make sure that, when locked, you serve Her well and make Her happy. Sooner or later, She will get the relationship between your being locked and Her happiness - then look out!
So last night before bed, she asked me about what time I should be locked up Friday to start the weekend--before happy hour (online with friends) or after. And during the week, she made an offhanded comment about asking what my cock has been up to--it being uncaged and "out in the wild." I'm happy that chastity is on her mind even when it is not the weekend.
Friday was kind of a bust, but I do find myself locked today. As the padlock slammed shut, my KH told me "it's all mine now." I thought it was a very sexy thing to say.
An update, of sorts. My wife has been locking me up on the weekends, usually just for a few hours, and never overnight. We've talked a lot. She does not fully understand what I am getting out of this, but she does like wearing the key around her neck, usually with a low cut top so I have a great view of the key. In terms of progress, last night she did bring up locking me this weekend--usually I'm the one that presents it, and she agrees. I asked her last night if she wanted to wake up in the morning and find the key next to her cup of coffee. She said she would rather have a note, and go from there. So there you have it. It is our version of chastity for now, and I think we are both open to see what directions it might go from here.
As long as you make sure that whenever she puts you in chastity you do everything for her, clean the dishes, do the laundry, cook, bring her coffee and breakfast in the morning, open the doors, give her long massages, give her oral pleasure often, compliment her, worship her body, show her respect, kneel down before her, show her all your emotions and feelings, etc., you should be okay and she will automatically keep you in chastity and deny you sexually longer. Good luck and don’t forget, she makes the rules and she always comes first.
My wife takes the view that being locked up is its own reward. When I returned from grocery shopping this afternoon and was going to be home for the rest of the day, she asked "are you ready to be locked up?" After she snapped the lock into place and placed the key around her neck, she told me to ask her how long she intended to keep me locked up. I did, and got the reply "wouldn't you like to know!" It was the perfect reply. We continue to play on weekends, and she prefers to unlock me before bed and relock me the next day, if at all. I don't get to ask to be locked. I don't get to ask to be unlocked. I don't get to tell her I would prefer to remain locked for a longer period of time.
We continue to play on weekends. This morning, I was encouraged to "hurry up" and get a shower so that I could be locked for more of the day. Again, I don't ask to be locked up. It's in her hands. And it is becoming part of our weekend routine. She joined me in the shower, making sure I was good and aroused immediately ahead of locking up. She continues to wear the key to her lock around her neck, which is just sexy as hell. And when she sees me looking at her across the room, she casually runs her fingers over it. I'm living the good life.
Another weekend with chastity play. She's getting more assertive about locking me up, telling me I have 5 minutes to lock up and turn over the key. While in chastity yesterday, I wrote a short erotic story, which I include here. She read it last night. Upon finishing it, we kissed a bit. I thanked her for reading and not reacting badly. She said she needs to process it. ** Be home soon. No questions. XOXO No questions. He promised he would not ask. He didn’t believe she would, anyway. But if doubt was a door, it was open a small crack. His arousal was for naught. With the cage firmly in place, he would just have to wait for her to come home. She said soon. He wanted to ask. He wanted details. But he needed to remain silent. It is just a game, he told himself. She knows that. When he opened up about his chastity play fantasies, he also opened up about his cuckolding fantasies. He liked the idea that she would be free to be with other men when he was locked up. She was kind enough not to make him feel bad about this fantasy, but she had zero interest. Zero. They still played weekends. He in his cage, her with the key around her neck. They both enjoyed it. He remembers the day that she brought it up. Remember that cuckold fantasy of yours? There is only one way it can happen. These are my terms. They are non-negotiable. First rule. You don’t ever get to bring up your fantasy unless I ask you to. You are to never speak of it, understand? He agreed. Second rule. If I am going to do this, you are going to have to wear that chastity cage the while time. So If I’m not home and I text you to put your cage on, you better do it if this is what you want. He didn’t just like the idea, he agreed. Third rule. Once you are caged, you do not text me unless I text you. I won’t answer unsolicited texts. If you insist on texting me, we’ll never do it again. He agreed. Fourth rule. Afterwards, you don’t ask me any questions. No how was it, no what was he like, no did you kiss. Nothing. If I want you to know something, I’ll tell you. When I come home, I want your hugs and kisses. If you ever ask me a question, you won’t get an answer, and we’ll never do it again. He agreed. Fifth and final rule. I’m allowed to bluff. I might be out and text you, telling you to lock up. But that doesn’t mean I’m going to do anything. You know that I’m not into this fantasy of yours. But you never know, do you? And you—you will never know. She pulled into the driveway. She took a minute to collect her things, and made her way to the door. He was waiting for her, with a big smile on his face. I’m happy you’re home, he said. He embraced her, and gave her a gentle kiss. You want to ask me, she said. He said he wanted to, but that he wouldn’t. That’s right, she said. You will never know.
My wife is now locking me up during the week as well. When I return from work, she asks if I want to be locked. When she locks me up, I rub her shoulders, back, feet. I give her little kisses on her neck. Positive reinforcement. All is well.