HI everyone Not sure where to start tbh, I’m male in his 40’s and happily married. Since lock down happened my sex life has boomed (only positive thing out of covid) and we have started to explore different things.. My wife is more open to discussing things, and I'm more shy as i don’t want to freak her out, I have no idea if I started talking about what I like she might think of me different ( she probably won’t tbh but I’m a chicken and don’t like rocking the boat!) I’ve always been interested in “different” things but haven’t had the guts to speak to the wife about them, for example I enjoy “sounding” and the feeling of it.... I have tried to find my prostrate via a vibrator as I want a Super O but never managed it.... I enjoy ruined orgasms but I have only done them on myself... would like the wife to do them on me ;-) Plus open to other stuff.... So I like the idea of my wife being the “key holder” and to tease and deny my pleasure lol, I have to stop wanking also and hoping a cage may then open a convo on the other stuff I like ;-) But I have one issue. I had a testicle removed due to cancer and didn’t have another one put in. So I am struggling to find any info on a cage that will suit me..... so i will have plenty of questions im sure lol - i don't even know if one testicle will work with a cage? will one testicle be too painful etc? Anyway enough of me jabbering on let me have a look around the site and be good to chat with like minded people.....
Welcome to CM, @Captain_UK ! I hope you find information here that will help you on your journey. It seems that open communication is the key to having a successful time with chastity and FLR's, IMHO. If I were you, I would start there working on opening up the dialogue as gently as possible.
Welcome to our community. I hope you find it helpful and enjoyable. I would think if you found the right diameter ring and one that minimizes the gap between cage and ring, you could make it work. I have one very small ball and it took me a while to find right combo. I like the Cherry Keeper for that reason, you can get rings in smaller incremental sizes which most brands don't offer.
Hi Thanks for the reply, I have no idea on what cage it's a minefield.. I see all these different cages and no idea which one i should choose.....
Hi ya, yea agree as communication is key... just need to pluck the courage up! which i am rubbish at... Love pleasing my wife in all areas but I want a little more my side etc..
Maybe, rather than storing up lots of kink ideas and dropping them on her all at once, you can just start the conversation more generally, something like "I'm wondering what you would think about spicing things up a bit by introducing some more kinky stuff to our relationship?" Of course, her first question will be "Kinky, like what?" so you will need to have at least one mild kinky idea cued up ready to go, lol. Then at some point in the conversation, assuming she appears open to new ideas, you could just say that you've been reading up on MC and it intrigues you and you're wondering what she thinks. Are you open to the idea of a PA (Prince Albert) piercing? Having one of them would open up the possibilities of non-balltrap cages.
hello @Captain_UK and welcome to here and i hope you like it here as well. please a man i knowed was like you and got a plasticy ball put in him in the hopital.