Starting my journal here, to keep track of my own journey down this rabbit (well, maybe wrong animal, considering how they procreate) hole called chastity. Let's start with the story from my introduction thread: As Foreigner said, that was yesterday. Yesyerday evening I hinted to my partner (don't yet know if she wants me to call her my keyholder) that I probably won't mind extending the period. I then gave her another back massage and footrub followed by her teasing and caressing the cage and my balls. This was followed by a fitful sleep, caused by balls that felt like they were about to burst, and several painful attempted boners in the night. This morning, the pressure in my balls was so great that I decided to wear track pants instead of jeans. After my morning BM, there was a nice puddle of white goo in front of the cage, and the pressure has been greatly relieved. Discomfort and chafing are very manageable with lotion and Bepanthen for now, so I really hope we can extend this and maybe even make it permanent.
A couple days later. Been a bit busy (security kerfuffle at work and family birthday), still locked of course, as I should be. Although, as much as I would love to remain locked after the initial 7 day period, looking at a few skin patches, a couple days of rest before getting relocked would not be a bad idea. In the mean time there were more massages and footrubs for her, more teasing for me. Managing being locked for more than a few hours came surprisingly easy for me, I'm sure everyone recognises the feeling that as soon as you step out the door, everyone will see that you're wearing a chastity device and will consider you a fucking pervert for it. But in all honesty, even I no longer notice it all the time. Tonight is the time that we agreed the initial lock-up would end, and our normal sex night, so curious to see what will happen tonight after the kids go to bed. We've had a couple good talks about what we like and don't like about this, and how we would like to integrate this into our (love) lives. I haven't told her yet, but I did order a strap-on harness that has a hole for my chastity device, so I'm hoping she will like the surprise of me being able to fuck her with a decently-sized penis for once. One that doesn't come too early. On the non-sexual relationship front, I really like having the constant reminder to be nice to her and treat her right. Not tickle her when she doesn't want to, not make terrible jokes (I'm a dad, it's in my job description, come on!). As far as pampering her goes, that was already fairly well covered before the lock-up, but I have hinted that she is allowed to take more advantage of it. All in all, pretty happy, might take a few days' break because of skin issues.
It's monday afternoon, and I've been unlocked since last evening. But not because we didn't like it, nor was it because we don't see it working. But because of a skin break at the bottom of my shaft that needs to fully heal before we can lock back up. Yesterday evening was wonderful though. My partner told me that before there could be any sexy times, she would get a good massage out of me. So while she was still in the bathroom getting ready, I disrobed and knelt on the floor of the bedroom to wait for her. I then proceeded to give her a full massage, back, shoulders, neck, calves, feet. After the massage, she tied my hands and elbows behind my back with belts, and I pleasured her orally. Turns out it's a lot harder to keep your tongue on her pussy when you can't wrap your arms around her legs to steady her thrashing body... After thoroughly soaking my beard with her juices, she freed my elbows and told me to lay on my back, to which I of course complied. A teasing session for my balls followed, after which the nub was unlocked, and my penis and balls were freed in order for a sweet handjob, after which I was greeted with by far the most intense orgasm I have ever had. As far as we're both concerned, when the skin heals, the nub goes back on, and we'll go from there exploring how deep this rabbit hole goes.
Been a couple days, in which the skin has had ample time to heal. While out of the cage, there was definitely less urge to watch porn or jack off, so that part of the experience is working. On Thursday, I mentioned that I thought the skin was healed enough for the cage to go back on. She joked that there was no need, because I was still pampering her more than enough (so that part of the experience is also working, apparently), but promised to lock it up again that evening. Sadly, that afternoon she developed a severe headache (I basically told her flat out to go lay in bed and not try and tough it out, she was thankful to me for that), and told me that anything sex related was the last thing she wanted to think about, so we postponed... To a day later. She locked me up again yesterday evening, curious to see how long I can manage this time, and hopefully without any skin issues. If the issues persist, I guess there's no other option but to start looking at new cages together.
Well, the skin issues did persist. When out for cleaning, I recognised the same spots beginning to form. It seems that due to bad knockoff fitment, the cage pinches my skin at the top of the ring where the back of the cage and the back of the ring meet. So the cage never went back on after cleaning. I had looked at Cherry Keepers before, as a potential replacement for the Nub after a while, so after telling her about them, I handed her my iPad and asked her if she could pick a colour for me. She handed me back the iPad with bright orange selected... So I guess my penis will be extra Dutch when it arrives. I don't think I'll be back in the Nub, and the Cherry Keeper won't arrive for a couple weeks. Time to work on my self control for the coming weeks.
Last week was sadly spent outside of chastity, and I was having a hard time with self control after the soreness went away after a few days. We had normal sex on Sunday evening, me tying her up and getting her off, her tying me up and getting me off. Then Tuesday, a lot sooner than expected, a gentleman in a brown polo shirt handed me a box from Shapeways. So, after the kids were in bed, we opened the box and inspected everything. It is indeed very orange. We agreed to immediately lock me back up, since I had missed it very much. The texture of the cage takes some getting used to, but so far no complaints. Everything fits a lot better, so I'm certain that long-time lock-ups with this cage can be achieved. Night boners are far easier to handle in the Cherry keeper than in the Nub, mainly because the ring doesn't slide upwards like it did with the Nub. The headlock feature seems to work fairly well, although my foreskin is putting up one hell of a fight today in its attempts to turtle. Hopefully I can surprise her on Sunday with the strap-on I ordered and properly fuck her with it. I know she likes PIV every once in a while, but I generally just come way too early to get her off, so I tend to hold off on it, unless she asks for it.
i fucked my wife last weekend for the first time with a strapon (normaly she fucks me with it, somthing i can recommed because there is oure P-spot ;-) ) she liked it as far as "meat substitue" but liked the real deal still (lucky me)
Glad things are going well. Genitals are not meant to be locked, so any little flaw in the system will create some sort of abrasion eventually. Don’t be discouraged, you can usually fix the issues eventually, and sort it out. To tell you the truth, I almost miss the days that there were issues, extra time out of cage, sympathy rub downs, now she knows she doesn’t have to worry about anything, so it stays on for months at a time.
This deserves an update, it's been too long, and things have happened in the mean time. Sadly, I had to take off the cage after a day and a half due to apparently having contracted a yeast infection somewhere, the itching was too much to bear. A week later, we gave it another shot, but somehow my foreskin was a little too adept at squeezing into every available crevice, there was some awful pinching where the cage meets the base ring, and I had to take off the cage again after a little more than a day. Apart from the issues, the cage was really comfortable for the duration of both (very short) stints I spent in it, so I was really sad I had to take it off. I was able to fix the pinching issue with a small rubber band around the stem of the cage, which prevents my foreskin from squeezing into the gap by blocking off the gap. Since my skin has finally healed up, I am (self) locked back up as of yesterday, and assuming everything goes well, I will hand over the key to my partner in the coming few days. In the interim, I sadly wasn't able to surprise my partner with the strap-on, keeping fingers crossed for next Sunday. I did ask her to try the magic wand on me, and oh boy, did that work. Thinking back to that evening makes the cage tighten quite a lot, more than a week later. Now that things have started opening up, and we synchronised our vacation plans, we booked a few days away for just the two of us at a kinky bnb apartment (basically an airbnb with kinky furnishings), which we're both looking very forward to.