Why do you have to wear the cage?

You asked :why do you wear a cage. I was nice and did nice things for her before she wanted me in a cage. I was and still am a natural submissive . 1. So I can not touch or play with myself . 2. She does not trust other ladies . (Due to what happened to me at work one day) . Matter of fact her first cage arrived in the mail a few days later .3. She made it very clear that I was hers and I was now owed .4. It keeps me from thinking about sex ALL the time and watching porn.

 

i wear my cage cos i have got use to it and it feel funny not having it on but a lot of men on here have got one lock on them cos they keep making a mess if they dont have it on them and the Ladys dont like them doing that cos it make a nasty mess and its all sticky as well.

 

The short answer is....because Mistress said so.

The longer answer.....because that's what Mistress wants. She brought up that she wants me locked all the time. It is about power and control, is my guess. While I have been trained pretty well not to cum without her permission, perhaps she doesn't want me playing with her property. We don't live together and she lives farther away now than before, so this is a good way for her to manage her property.

That's my guess. Basically...because that's what Mistress wants.

 

Yes, Jemima, we do feel funny when we don't have our cages on. I feel lost or somethings not right.

 

I bet it seems like we don't do as many things uncaged as we do caged. I know I feel better in my cage and I do as much as possible for my wife. For me. it's like pushing my submissive button!

 

"Because!"


Then after the pain wears off from the slapping, I'd actually turn into a discussion around the chemical and hormonal changes that come from not cumming (pun intended) for long periods of time, and how that "energy" that's created is what gets redirected towards thinking of her more.

Sure, training without the cage is possible but it's a lot harder (puns a plenty today!).

 

Good questions. If she truly doesn't enjoy caging you, then try being what she wants without it. If you can. For me, wearing a cage helps me bond with my submissive and feminine parts of my personality. In a way, divorcing my masculine and control behaviors from my everyday personality. I imagine for many here, each has their own reasons.

 

Well put!

 

Well to be honest, it was my idea but once Mrs Chaste had me locked there really wasn't a way back. It all comes down to being cheated on by her first husband! Whilst she trusts me about 98%, there is always that little bit of doubt. She understands that it's "her problem", very much a case of once bitten twice shy. So the chastity cage helped with that remaining 2% of doubt. And as time went by she found that she enjoyed the "game" of teasing me and keeping me locked. The other thing she discovered is that I have got "even better" with my tongue and also that a strapon is so much more fun than my penis! I mean it's a minimum of three orgasms for her everytime now. Not bad for a 60 year old. So my reason for wearing a chastity cage is because we both enjoy it!

 

She would never ask those questions.

 

It's a very fair question and there isn't an answer to it in which men appear in a good light.

 

Well I asked Madame Vanilla to lock me up because otherwise I think of other women and masturbate uncontrollably, resulting in low libido, no interest in sex with her and guilty feelings.

She knew I did that and hated it, but had no solution.

When I showed her the cage, she didnt like the it at all, but disliked my asshole behavior far more.

So 9 months later, shes gotten used to the cage and keeps the key hidden from me.

She enjoys the change in me. Shes very stubborn.

Lastly she was worried 4 years ago that Id dipped the cock inside an old flame...well I tried to reassure her that I hadnt but she didnt fully believe me.

 

So many of us asked to be put into chastity at first. Like you said, there's no going back now! My wife at first was like OK, whatever, we'll try it out. Now? You'll stay in that until I decide to let you out. Yes, oral skills got better and my submissive nature really came out. She loves it. No more vanilla here ever.

 

Also, being 100% honest, I don't remember why I wanted to try male chastity in the first place! Best thing that has ever happened to me!

 

I wear the cage because my madam wants me to, she was the one who discovered male chastity and as soon as she saw it, she knew she wanted me caged and locked, and to have total control over me.

 

Exactly this for us. It's no longer a choice as my wife prefers me locked up.

To OP's questions though, chastity doesn't have much affect on me doing nice things for her. If anything, it can sometimes be a distraction that causes me to be less attentive to her and less productive around the house. It just depends on the day really. Honestly, I think the idea that chastity gives the wearer a genuine one-track-mind of doing anything and everything to please his keyholder in order to escape is a little overblown.

 

Ive worn a cage off-n-on for the last three years. Its stayed as my kink as I enjoy being locked to control masturbation. When I rec’d my PA piercing a yr n half ago I couldn't wear the cages what with stretches n soreness n all so I relied on a SS cockNball ring to help retain that feeling of containment. It helps keep the heightened sense of anxiety up there while I heal without getting in the way. I always look forward to my weekly release, down from 1/2daily. I couldnt have done it without the cages to help train. Once fully healed (soon) I will go on full lockdowns with actual cages with increasing times in between releases. Time will tell.
Ahhh as for taking care of my KH wife. I am her full time caretaker as she deals with a terminal disease. She is seen to with constant attention and care. She hardly has to lift a finger and Im there. Ive been without PIV physical contact going on 7yrs now so my Tinder ad will read Fully chastity trained, locked, n obedient slave ready for his next mistress. Curious as to if there’d be any takers.

 

Because I don't have key...

 

Weil ich meine Herrin darum gebeten habe.

 

Masturbation control. First day of lockup was my idea. After that totally hers. She doesn't trust me to not play with myself. That was almost 3 in a half years ago.
She has told me several times over the years that it will never be unlocked again and she has been true to her word.

 

Started of as a fun thing to spice our sex life up fast forward many many years and my wife loves it more than me I think it is a life style now part of our lives
Couldn't be happier

 

My wife wants me to.
I masturbate too much so it's needed to prevent me.
My wife knows I'm nicer when I don't cum too. We'd played tease and deny games and that's when she discovered I'm far nicer when Im frustrated.
She has been the keyholder since March 2016.

 

i do nice things for my wife when i am not caged as well. The cage is a symbol of the total control my wife has over me. It is also to stop me masturbating which was a bad habit i used to hve especially if my wife was out on a date. No self control.

 

"The cage is a symbol of the total control my wife has over me. It is also to stop me masturbating"
Jennifer_sissy

Couldnt put it better myself.