I'm curious just how many other guys like me were in a FLR relationship from the start without really realizing it at first or what that term even meant back then? Did you have to willingly concede that power or did you...like me...realize early on she already wielded that power to mutual benefit? And does she even realize herself that she's the one calling the shots even while saying she's worn out from doing it all to please you? Two part question I guess geared towards the more vanilla flavored type of dynamic.
I would say that even in a 100% vanilla relationship where chastity is not a either party has heard of... there are still many many examples of FLR lifestyles. Sometimes that is just the dynamic that works for the couple.
Makes sense. She comes from an accounting background and was always the go-to in her own family for problems or advice. Now my own family depends on her for advice and her opinions. I know she knows she wields the power and I know now what a stressful place that can be balancing all of that at once. It extends far beyond the bedroom in reality in the real world and we should all be thankful our mates put up with us. Peace yall!
well said! I'm proud to be my wife's submissive husband not only in the bedroom but full time. Wearing a chastity belt enforces the WLM/FLR status. My wife loves the control.
I wrote a blog post the other day about our relationship. Essentially we have an egalitarian relationship on the day-to-day -- we each do what we're good at and what we're capable of contributing to the relationship. It works very well without either one of us feeling like someone's carrying all the weight or dragging the other one along. Sometimes she leads, sometimes I lead, the point is we're working together, not against each other. She is 100% in charge of our sexual relationship, though.
Same here, madam and I started our bdsm lifestyle/flr within months of meeting each other and have been this way for over 20 years.
My Goddess had spent her life in relationships with controlling, abusive, and even (hard to believe given how great looking she is...) neglectful guys. They called her things like "ocd", " control freak" or said she wanted to "wear the pants" and it took some time to show her with me, these were not character flaws but actually things about her that made her sexier and more desirable to someone like me. I originally pitched the idea upon her finding out that I was an ex tranny sex worker and escort (despite hiding it well under a fake masc bravado) and in learning what it was. She started at ground zero and has developed over a three year time frame. She is a very loving and giving lady and showing her that putting me over her knee, or denying sex by flexing her control are good and healthy things for her, instead of much like me in my previous relationships, trying to constantly shoehorn herself into being what she thought the men in her life needed to be, and simply pushing down her need to organize, manage, control and improve. Cultivating that in her has brought forth a delicious, wonderful, organic Domme still learning the extent of her power. A curious, well read, intelligent sort who when given a chance to flourish instead of being kept down, seized it. I guess it's different for everyone but I have fantasized about meeting someone just like her literally, since I hit puberty.
When I first convinced her to buy us a cage it was because I thought it was the ultimate bondage and she might just like some portion of the control as long as I didn't bug her about it. And then bugging her about it gave her another reason to deny me since this was my idea in the first place.
Wow, I would love to hear more about your life! I love reading the feel good stories about relationships on here, especially the ones where females blossom and get empowered, and I bet yours is right up there!
My wife is more domineering in day to day life than I am. I am far too laid back for my own good, with a strong submissive need in the bedroom department. She is the general manager of the hotel that we work in, while I am just a department (of one) manager. So I answer to her at home and at work and it's worked for us over the last 10 years. She herself has a submissive streak in her though, when it comes to sex. She needs topping in the bedroom, which I have a very limited capacity for doing. This has led to one or two relationship conundrums. We both have submissive itches that need scratching and only one is better equipped to scratch than the other, and that is why she has free reign to find somebody, with that sexually Dominant nature, beyond the marriage. So yeah, I would say that our marriage is a natural FLR sort. At least 90% of the way anyhow.
My Wife and I had been married over 15 years before we made our FLR status official. When we were married I was still hanging on to my societal held belief that the man was the head of the household, and didn't realize, or perhaps wouldn't have admitted to myself that I was submissive. Over the years it became more and more apparent that she was the dominant one and I was the submissive, and more importantly, that I enjoyed that dynamic and she did too. Finally I talked to her about it, and at first she was a little hesitant to put a label on it, but we learned exactly what a Loving FLR is, and how we both benefit, we decided to officially declare it an FLR. We agreed on a list of rules, I created a pledge to her, and we've been improving upon it ever since. Neither of us have ever been happier, and our relationship has never been stronger.
My wife and I have been married for over forty years. Our relationship has been a low key FLR for most of that time. She has always had the better job and made most of our income. I have been, for the most part, a house husband because my job allowed a flexible schedule. I seldom made any major decisions without her approval. Early on in our marriage she was a bit submissive in the bedroom but we transitioned over time to a more female lead menu of sexual activity. We were in our 60s before I came out (so to speak) about wanting to be sexually dominated. We both have been growing into that. She enjoys that I am locked and can no longer masturbate, and she discovered (as a surprise to both of us) that she enjoys dispensing corporal punishment when I am bad. Or, when I am good (smiles while typing). She also has come to realize that her toys are sometimes better than my old and sometimes soft cock. I am fine with that. So the cage stays on most of the time these days. Life is good