Getting back into chastity after having a baby

I think right now is an ideal time for you to be locked. She is going without so you should too. Also, you will be motivated to help more and you will be READY if there is a spare moment and she decides to take advantage of it with you. Just don't be expecting anything and let her set the pace.

 

As kids get older they run and jump onto your lap. Follow you into the toilet, want to watch you pee, follow you into the shower.

Def a part time thing with kids!

 

Read Baby Whisperer.

As for getting back into chastity, I couldn’t possibly speak to your situation and dynamics. Be honest and open in discussions.

 

there was a keyholder who recently wrote about having a baby. I'll try to find it.

 

https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...-now-very-long-sorry.33502/page-3#post-359521

 

totally agree with this!

 

From my own experience, trying to keep a sex life going thought pregnancy and small babies is very difficult. Anything you can do to make it easier for your wife has to be a winner

 

I agree - babies and sex don't mix well. Things do get easier as kids grow and become (a bit) more independent but it's going to be quite a few years before you can go all spontaneous on sex. Forward planning is your friend.

You had a book recommended here (Baby Whisperer). I would also recommend 'Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child' - it got us through a whole lot of bumps on the road.

 

So i am a dad of a 2 and a half year old in fulltime chastity. Actualy our chastity fun really started to be more serious after she was born. I have never had a problem concealing my device from my daughter. I do have to be aware of it all times tho. Part of the deal.

Our sex life somehow amazingly increased after childbirth. When she falls asleep a war can begin and she doesnt wake up. So pretty easy for us responsible parents to still have fun. Takes a while to get used to tho.

 

Hard to say, It just started to grow again. You have to get past the broken nights first tho. But it will happen eventualy.

 

It isn’t just difficult because you are in chastity. After childbirth all couples struggle with sex of any kind. If you are locked on your wife’s order that is sex in a way.
If your wife is nursing, you can enjoy your turn also. This is a chastity forum, not an Adult Nursing Relationship (ANR) forum, but just saying. .
As your baby grows older you as a couple will have to set limits. With us, even now with grandchildren she is the pushover and I am the hard ass. The softer she is the more stern I gravitate towards and vice versa. Nobody said it was all easy. It isn’t all easy but it is your family.
Ask The Divine One for help. It works.
Hang in there!
Ss

 

I would suggest a home sleep school, paw approach or something else. It is suggested earliest from 6 month old. We did it around when baby was 10 month old, who is now 15 months and has slept in own room since start of home sleep school. It took few weeks of relentless following of rules and not giving up. Now the baby can be taken to sleep in own room where it will fall asleep happily without issues. And mostly sleeps through night. It was a game changer. I know some people are not willing to see this trouble to learn the baby to sleep in their own, and it usually leads to point where the child still sleeps in parents bedroom when 5 yo or more.

After few months when we got our baby, I got locked back to chastity and it has been again a serious part of our life ever since. During the last phases of pregnancy we took a ”break” as my wife/mistress wasn’t in mood of dominating, but needeed tenderness and more vanilla like relationship. Probably because of the wild mood swings brought by hormones.

 

good choice!

 

My wife left me locked for a while. Then decided to just let me free because she has no desire for anything sexual. Our daughter is 7 1/2 months old now and there hasn’t been anything sexual since conception. At least our baby sleeps like a champ!

I hope everything gets back to normal for you soon!

 

She never really had much of a sex drive. She did get into her magic wand for a while but she hasn’t touched that either. Is what it is.

She decided that she felt bad for me being pent up while she has no desire to do anything with it. My cage is very small and tough to wear for being active so that’s really why she feels bad. I ride a bike for transportation and the cage isn’t comfortable while riding.

 

Our first child wanted to eat or nurse every 2 hours or so. My mom came when he was born and came back when he was 5 or 6 months old. After the first night she asked my wife, "Did you get up and feed that baby last night?" My wife said, Yes he eats about every 2 hours. My mom said he should be sleeping through the night by now. If he wakes up tonight I'll take care of it you stay in bed. He woke up as always, my mom went in and comforted him, patted his back but didn't let him sit up. He resisted a little then went back to sleep. He slept through the night every night after that night.

Our kids were grown before we discovered the benefits of chastity. Our sex life is a thousand times better now then ever before.

 

I start my chastity life when my wife is pregnant with our 1st kid , since then our sex life is always affected by baby

 

My son is now 16 months old. Our sex life for sure took a major hit when he was born. I think it is somewhat unrealistic to expect to have anything like a normal.sex life shortly after the birth of a child.

We tried chastity not too long after he was born. Inhave a long thread the chastity in vanilla life area you might wanna check out. Being locked up was helpful for me, but it wasn't helping my wife as she is quite vanilla and the whole thing was just one more stressor / thing for her to worry about. Maybe if she was a natural dom it would be different, but it wasnt working for us and we took a break for many months.

Bottom line for me is that the whole being locked up thing is all gravy and extra credit. There are more important things in a marriage, especially with kids. If I never get locked up again, I'll be fine. Perspective is so key with this kink.

 

Keep in mind that as long as she is breastfeeding, her libido will be low or nonexistent because of high prolactin hormone levels. To get an idea how prolactin can affect libido, when a male has an orgasm he gets a small surge of prolactin which almost instantly causes the man to lose erection and desire for sex.

She may desire intimacy but be repulsed by the idea of sex so chastity could work well for her. Being a new mom she may also feel overly stimulated and not want additional touch as she has already shared so much with the child.

 

This quote is spot on. As someone with a kid and light chastity experience I don't think people telling you to be locked up right now are aware of all the added work and stress a baby brings. If you insist on being locked up your wife will probably feel more stressed from thinking she has to perform for you and it could drive her away from you and chastity. We had to put everything sexual on hold like many others are saying. If you are having vanilla sex I'd say you are doing fine and on track to get your kinks back eventually, but no one has the energy to change 6 diapers, pump breast milk while cleaning bottles every two hours, repeatedly feed a baby, lose sleep, keep up with normal house work and then perform dom at the end of the day.

Be patient and wait for the responsibilities to die down or volunteer for as much as you can to help relieve the stress, just don't add to the workload by reminding her you want special treatment.