Often fetishes manifest as a way of chasing feelings. The feeling I want from chastity is one of helplessness. I don't know why that is something I desire, but we don't really need to understand the why in order to play with it. There are other ways to get that feeling such as bondage, blackmail, or masochism. On the top side of things a feeling of control is commonly mentioned. I've also heard of feeling loved through sacrifice. What feeling to you chase with chastity? What are the other ways you can experience that feeling?
I want to feel that I have given my keyholder ownership and because of that hand over control. My orgasms belong to her and releases are her choice. It never makes me feel helpless, but very secure and loved.
Joy. Once I gave over control to her, to watch her emerge as a sexual woman. She denied this aspect of her life for so long. She is gaining confidence and enjoying herself. She constantly surprises me. There is more, but that is what I most strongly feel.
The constant high of worshipping my love and kh. The utter peace of coming home from work to lie down at her feet. To be teased and loved. To know I am hers and she accepts me. The subspace after whippings and paddling. Those are a few.
A couple of feelings tied to my long-term desires. First a bit of surrender, a sort of submission. Locking up what has always been a primary part of my manhood and giving away control feels like submission. The absence of a free cock also feeds into my feminine desires. Being incapable of an erection makes me feel less masculine and more feminine. The last feeling is just an overall sexual rush, even tho being caged prevents me from utilizing my cock in sex, I feel more elated and sexy than when its not bound.
I’d like periods of denial to bring a return of that primal, guttural moan that used to escape me at orgasm. The kind that was so deep and so intense it literally bruised my throat and vocal chords and gave me a really raspy voice for a couple days. That. Hurt. So. Good.
I'm seeking a feeling of submissive intimacy, giving up the erections that feed my toxic alpha male ego and masturbation habit in order to allow my wife to grow and deepen her control.
I desire a feeling of contentment and peace that comes with giving up my right to anything sexual, for the benefit of my wife who suffers from chromic illnesses that have made intimacy nonexistent in our marriage. She is asexual in mind as well as body. I am self locked, and it is permanent. I am in my third year. I do not have orgasms, and I desire that I can continue indefinitely. When you go this long, it can be very sensitive, making just being in a cage feel good. I continue to enjoy that while it is there, but hoped that impotence was achievable by some means in the long term. Ultimately, caged and impotent would be the perfect scenario for me going forward.
I also just want to feel that I am pleasing my madam, and making her happy every way I can. It’s all about my madams happiness!