Long term wearers.

A few thoughts:
At a basic level to avoid severe discomfort from fluid build up: milking and leaking. Endure and enjoy the huge frustration that is felt when you frequently feel your penis tightly gripped in the cage. Stop thinking about your penis as the sole source of sexual expression, we all know there are many more. Move the focus from self to service.

 

You adapt and start to derive pleasure from other sources. I have learned that the build.up is.more fun than the orgasm!

 

For me, I channel my energies into service. Trying to be a better housekeeper, more respectfully of my Lday and avoid disappointing her. It helps to remember that her needs are what matters and not yours.

 

I am permitted anal stimulation, so I use that when I am feeling pent up, not a release compleatly but it feels amazing.

 

I find it much easier to cope now I've joined this site and can talk with others who understand.
For me one of the hardest parts was the isolation. Not knowing anyone else you could express your feelings with who really understands.
it's a double edged sword however. I end up getting turned on more than I would do normally.

How do you cope with long lock ups?
You just have to keep on keeping on.

 

I generally give into the frustration in small doses. Looking at porn or stories on the internet to make me hornier and swell in my cage... but without the release.

That's the best part to me, screaming with frustration, super horny, without the ability to release.

My advice. Give into the frustration, let it guide you and fill you with energy and power.

 

This, right here.

I've been able to learn to enjoy the frustration and the low-level "simmer", and I've learned to channel it into attentiveness toward Mrs Edge. It took some time to understand how to temper it, but now I can't imagine not feeling this all the time.

 

I’m been locked full-time for two years, and am currently at the forty day mark. This period of forty days has included a lot of denial.

Once past the two-week point, I seem to have a periodic cycle of “low-level simmer” broken up by a week of total insanity. In fact, it is so regular, I’m going to start tracking it. Maybe it has something to do with the moon or tides.

I get through it all by serving her. During my insanity period, things are especially in order.

 

I focus on serving, and suffering for my keyholder is serving her, and pleases her. If I didn't suffer, she would not enjoy it as much as she does. She and my wife want me chaste and locked, and that focuses me too. After years of removing the need or desire for orgasm during sex, and eventually masturbation, I now find that when I get turned on, I want to give pleasure. Most of the time, that's massage and foot-rubs, but even that gives me pleasure now. The more I struggle with it, the more I'm focused on serving my keyholder and obeying my wife.

OK...having said all that, I've been struggling this week myself. I get down somewhat when I realize that my guy parts are not for pleasure anymore, and will stay that way. I've had 5 minutes of penetration (wife) in 2 years and didn't get to move much at all. My sex/masturbation life as a regular guy is over. That's hard. As turned on as the thought makes me, it's hard. I wear a micro cage, with my dick pushed in on itself (It sits up in my pubic mound mostly) and I don't have any feeling of it while locked. Just my balls and the shaft swelling my pubic mound if I get aroused.

Neither my wife or my keyholder are highly sexual, and with my keyholder, we have little time alone to do any BDSM stuff. I have the typical low level horny and frustrated feel, but I miss intensity. It sucks to be honest. I can't get fully turned on because I'm locked, and I never let it get aroused when I clean and such. It's just a flaccid little thing that gets tucked back away, as it should. Any time unlocked, I don't get aroused because I'm not allowed, and it's not appropriate, and I can't wait to get back in my cock cage, but I still find myself feeling down, and frustrated, and it sucks.

I'm 2 months into 6 months with zero release till then, and I'm not enjoying it as much as I'd like to. I signed on for chastity, I accepted it, I will get through it, it makes the times when I do get to give pleasure or have any, extra amazing and intense. It's tough though, and a struggle, and although I'm pretty re-wired for giving pleasure, I don't get to give as much as I'd like, and I do miss the intensity of feeling that regular guys get, even if I don't want to do those things anymore!

That's the truth of it really.

 

I think really you do just get used to it. Being locked becomes the new norm as it were. And the feeling of frustration at not having an orgasm certainly helps to focus one on the only person who really matters.

 

Identifying as a rabbit, I’m nervous with all this talk about being “simmered”.

 

It gets easier as you gain experience. But, occasional feelings of frustration still happen. You adapt.

I have been locked for 29 weeks, no removal, no relief.

 

I totally agree with what you have written here but I tend to think of it as arousal rather than frustration. i'm never more than a millimeter away from being aroused.

 

It starts as arousal, and sometimes goes to frustration. Most of the time, arousal does not lead to frustration.

 

I think of it more as arousal that you can't touch or damage rather than frustration.

 

I think the way you cope is an individual experience. When you talk about frustration, what is each one's definition of it. The more interactions between the ladies makes the arousal all the better. The full belt I wear causes no issues as far as pushing away. I feel the pressure and it has become a welcome feeling, beside the fact she loves to see me that way. I do get edged which we both enjoy. I would rather enjoy that time together and for how ever long she would it to be showing her how exciting it is to please her. I would rather enjoy extended time in her' enjoyment than 10-20 seconds and have that time end. There are times that she wants me and it is usually an all day thing. It has changed in different ways over the past 7 plus years. We enjoy each other more than we ever have in our 43 plus years together. There is no more thought of any other way. It is our lifestyle .

 

I compare it to the ocean.

It is easy to swim in the bay near the shore, but it can be really hard to get past the breakers (think Tom Hanks in Castaway).

Once you get to the open ocean, it's pretty nice.

In other words, the first few days are easy, then it gets really frustrating, and most men can't get past that, but if you get past the hard phase, it does get easier, more placid.

 

Femdom hypnosis helps me accept my frustration

 

I confess,I must be a light wgt, in that at day 14.... Im ready for an orgasm. Not everybody goes into chastity for longterm. I use caging to prevent daily multiple masturbations so If Im down to once every two weeks or so... then I count myself as stronger willed than I was.
As for servitude to my wife.... Im her longterm health care taker so me doing most everything in n outside of the house is a given. I just do it with precum dripping down my leg now!

 

i find it becomes more and more difficult until after i've passed 2 months.

 

When I first locked up for an extended period of time, I was constantly reminded that my penis no longer belonged to me. All I had to do was touch the unyielding stainless steel cage, and I knew there wasn't going to be any touching. I realized I was urinating with a penis that belonged to somebody else. When it tried to get erect, there wasn't enough room to grow, so it quit trying. Also, I didn't want to cum, and I didn't want out of the device. Any thoughts of defeating it never entered my head. At around 30 days, any thoughts of pussy were long gone and the same for wanting to cum. That seemed to be the major turning point for me, because after that, it seemed easy, and time began to pass quickly. By 60 days or so, I had forgotten what a vagina felt like and didn't want to spoil my chastity by having 5 seconds of pleasure end it. I made it to 145 days without cumming, and only stopped because I developed some sore spots on the underside of my scrotum that needed to heal.