2 + weeks since my last release I’ve never been heathy and gone this long I’m starting to get worked up and am thinking about doing something about it by myself but I’ve told her i was being “good”. I’m really working hard to focus on her needs but she’s a sex camel and can go much longer than I can Self locking has helped me get this far I’m not sure how much longer I can go I’m on a wave of thinking it’s ok just ride it out and screw this it’s just easier to rub one out I’m really trying not to push her but the wait is agonizing I’m focused on a couple of windows we have in the next few days but I’m not sure I’m going to make it
Well do what you feel most natural doing. I usually go a month between climaxes, as I self lock, but almost every time the actual release is not as pleasing as my dreams of it will be. So hold tight if you can, it will help you feel better about it all. Good luck.
I’m really trying to show her I’m better when controlled but it’s that double edge sword she hasn’t yet embraced a role in helping me be chaste I’m doing it myself for her but I’m SO TEMPTED to slip back into old habits that take me away from her and us And when I do slip it’s almost always right before she’s ready and I’m disappointing her because I’m down and out
i am in the very same boat as you. my wife is not interested in sex as much as me (went 2.5years without not too long ago) and is dead against my fetishes-Dom/sub, pvc/leather wear, she has caught me in pvc a couple of times, mainly because i let her in the hopes that she would see it’s not disgusting. our sex lives took a drastic nose dive each time. i resorted to chastity, self locked about a month ago. i still dress up in fetish wear when away from home but there is not much self pleasure as i’m not enjoying it anymore. like you i’m trying to become better for her, and live in hope that we can become intimate again, i am not pushing her to become my KH, although that would be a dream come true for me. i can willingly abstain from self pleasure, but i can’t do without intimacy between us, i have said i’d be willing for her told hold my key and when the time is right for her she can unlock me. the idea of chastity is new to her so maybe one day she will accept the key. she is not against the idea of me being locked she just doesn’t want to see it. hope things get better for you CamH,
@rxbux We’re in the range of clinical sexless we’ve gotten as low as 4 times a year and about 1 per month when we focus on being intimate tbh most of this time has been spent with me escaping into porn and self pleasure and I’ve had enough of it I want my wife back and I want to get back to better relations with her I pressed the chastity issue when I confessed to her about my addiction about 9 months ago it’s good you’re not pushing She was completely turned off by the idea of the device and still is Recently I told her I was refraining from self indulgence and focusing more on her she said she’d noticed a change over the last few weeks. I pointed out a Sunday that our schedule got messed up and confessed it was because I had jerked off and slept in. I wanted her to make a connection that I’m better when I don’t. I’m not going be bad on purpose but if I do slip up I intend to apologize and reflect on how that didn’t help us be together Long reply sorry Good news bad news last night was potential intimate window for is that got ruined because the kids had an after school cancellation. I focus on helping her deal with the fallout rather than be pissed and rub one out so I know I’m improving
Btw when I did confess she asked if I was using that “thing”. I told her the truth that I was on and off as an aide to keep me from touching myself Her response was 2 steps forward and one back I’ve resigned myself to the idea she may never take on the role of KH but I know I’m the one that strayed to porn and self pleasure and I need to fix it I just think It would be easier with her help and more fun as well But I’m using this forum as my crutch Thanks all
OMG I thought that line was funny. Sorry, I know this is a serious post, but I actually laughed out loud just now when I read this. OK serious advice now. I hardly have this all figured out, but I have some mileage and can hopefully offer some good advice. To start with you're doing the right thing. You're showing her with your actions that you believe chastity and orgasm control can lead to a better life for you both. Keep it up. You should also expand on it. Really become a romantic suitor to your wife. Marriage can bring about "understandings" that can be the death of romance. Remember when you were trying to get your first kiss? Your second or third date? Don't take anything for granted. Secondly when the opening presents itself for her to be more open to the benefits of chastity, make her involvement fun. There are many games that you can find on here and online. We used a wheel of fortune type app that you can customize on your phone. The thing is when you start you are "playing", not trying to live a lifestyle. People stick with things that are fun. Finally communicate, but don't over communicate. Early on my wife and I would exchange lists. 3 things I like and 3 things I don't like. We then discussed our lists and how to change things based on that. We did it about once a month and that worked for us. The thing is you'll be thinking about it all the time and she won't. That's just the reality of male chastity.
https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/riding-the-wave.35015/#post-360489 On the lighter side yes she’s a sex camel only she does it without a hump So opportunity 2 has come and gone and I see why I resort to my own hand. An unexpected visitor c blocked me so the cage stays on for now It was an opportunity for just us to have dinner together but we had a nice visit with a friend that needed an ear My mom is going to use up my Saturday window so I’m in for an even longer stretch than I thought working hard to stay positive and not get resentful Like a smoker giving it up I’m craving a simple release
Closing in on 3 weeks now and I’m crawling out of my skin it was 15-16 years ago when my first child came on the scene I might have gone this long due to Dr orders not to have relations with my wife To be honest that event was the beginning of my divergence into self pleasure I’m not sure after all these years if my changing to be more attentive is working. Just the other day I did a load of laundry un prompted and she apologized to me for not doing it. I explained I was trying to help out more in hopes we could be closer not to make her feel guilty She did admit to noticing me helping out more If I didn’t crave her intimacy and pleasing her I’d throw out the cage and go back to porn and my hand Each passing day has me closer to getting the key and ending this as a bad experiment Can anyone tell me how long a camel can go without a hump?
Not all camels are the same, your mileage may vary. I would urge you to stay strong, but if you falter and take things into your own hands then pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again.