hi all, I’ve watched and read the forums for some time and decided it’s time to share a bit more. Here’s a summary of me from my profile: I am self locked whenever possible because I don’t deserve orgasm, and when I do it’s always ruined. I am trying to reach orgasm from anal stimulation only. I practice self cbt, and sometimes wear a nappy. My wife has no idea that I wear a cage, even in bed next to her.
Thank you, no she’s not at all interested in anything in bed, I’m often caged and plugged and once I even wore a pair of her panties in bed. She’s usually asleep before I get to bed
Without wishing to pry into your personal life and relationship, this doesn’t sound like your in a happy place. All can’t be lost on this front?
Well it’s been a long while since any activity really we kind of drifted into this place. Anyhow I like it in chastity, but like to get her to play a part in it. I’ll look into one of the forum topics here see if anyone in the same boat
I think many of us have been and many still are... It’s very difficult to give unsolicited advice, especially with out knowing any details and offending. With the best intentions: communication is everything. You both might be unsatisfied! Also, if your wife doesn’t know about any of your kinks, it’s not going to go down well if she finds them by accident one night... or just as bad, if she did make an advance only for you to pull alway (so she doesn't find out) with no explanation.
I was lucky, since my wife discovered my interests in an unintended way, we had a big blowup, potentially ending our relationship. Luckily, through much talking we are now at a better understanding of everything. She is currently trying to understand her own needs as well as mine and we are trying to fit some kinks in. A hard but rewarding journey. Don't keep it to yourself. Admit to it and start communicating or be prepared to face the consequences.