How do I balance being chaste and PIV sex for KH

Some good stuff in this thread. The point above caught my eye, although I have not reached orgasm whilst caged. Often after giving my wife a lot of pleasure orally or with her G spot vibrator or both when I am caged, I find that afterwards I feel post coital bliss just the same as if I had reached orgasm myself. Giving her pleasure is in itself hugely pleasurable and satisfying.

However, I have yet to find a complete replacement for PIV, she gets a lot out of me being inside her and climaxing inside her. So we practice chastity as a short term thing between cycles where we both feel comfortable. Last night I was caged and pleasured her multiple ways and she was biting the pillow during her orgasms to stop shrieking too much. Afterward, when I thought she was really sated, she said that she wanted to say the safeword, which is her way of saying she wants to uncage me and have me inside her. I have told her she has the key, if she wants to unlock me, then that is what she just does, but it is kind of a nice way to put it.

I would like to see what longer term lock up is like never having gone beyond 2 weeks, but I have not asked for this as I would be asking her to forego some of her pleasure, and it does not sit well with me giving her the control. Perhaps over time things will slowly develop, I can not complain as she has no problems with me being caged between times and keeping me denied and frustrated and focussed on her.

 

I always find it hard to understand when people make posts assuming that everyone experiences life the same way they do. In our case I prefer to be denied. My wife finds penetrative sex uncomfortable. It still happens sometimes, but it’s rare to the degree that off the top of my head I couldn’t tell you when the last time was. We find other ways of being intimate that works for us.

You know the saying “When life gives you lemons make lemonade?”.

 

I understand what you are saying. We all are different. I am just trying to understand why a key holder would not allow their partner to have an orgasm or PIV sex ever again in his life - especially when they themself like sex and orgasms. I am not trying to be confrontational but just want to try to understand.

 

We either do pig where I do t come or I use a strap on with me staying locked. She likes the larger size of the strap on

 

if she likes the part of you cumming in her you could also try the squirting dildo with a strapon harness.

 

Ditto. My wife/KH and me have a super strong bond and if we go for any length of time with PIV, we both get wacky. Even the regular week of a period, but they end we're tearing our clothes when we can get it on again.

But, to each their own.

 

I agree with you . There is no better feeling than really making love to the one you love and being in chastity , when it does happen the feeling is even more intense.