Biggest hurdles of 24/7 chastity

Not getting upset and trying to top from the bottom

 

Our biggest hurdle for long term lock ups is her love and need to feel me inside her and feeling me squirt inside her

 

I was the alpha in our relationship for the better part of 45 years. Letting go and having her take charge is hard to do. Old habits die hard!

 

I would think the biggest physical hurdles you will have if you're wearing a comfortable cage is night time erections . That takes some getting used to . As far as mental problems go. I have found out by sharing with others on here it helps a lot

 

Metal detectors.

 

I'm sorry but LOL

 

Hope you got the problem worked out with his work and cage ?

 

As a self-locker the biggest hurdle is self discipline. And finding the right fit for a cage.

 

I am finding that the longer I go....and the more comfortable I am wearing the device.....It's the erections I have the hardest time adjusting to doing without.

 

This. So much this! Trying to relax and leave it totally in her hands is incredibly challenging.

 

As someone who was in law enforcement for most of my life, who was literally trained and conditioned to be in charge, this has been the toughest part for me by far.

 

My biggest hurdle is getting needy and annoying.

 

I wear one of the really short Chinese cages that's basically a metal ring, a built in lock and a small cup with some holes in it. I'm fairly big, and only bought the cage as a spare. To avoid the head of the penis sticking through the holes (which hurts) I stuff the head down on itself, bunch up the skin, and stick that in the cup part. The penile shaft is pushed up into the body, and leaves me with basically a pair of balls, and a small metal cup.

The huge plus here is that it's super low profile, and does not show under tight jeans, I'm decently mobile and I can sleep on my stomach no problem.

The downside is peeing. I can't seem to use the urethral tube, and the way I wear it probably makes this impossible. Basically, I have the perfect device.......but I have to take the cap part off to pee. I would love to just be locked and done with it, but I can't. As a result, there are times when I find myself in a bathroom stall, juggling parts like I'm defusing a bomb. Other times, I have to go un-caged, because some situations require bathroom flexibility, and stalls aren't alway available.

Chastity is enough of a ritual that it's not a huge problem, but it's frustrating that it's so near to being perfect. For some family things, some sports and such, I switch to a ring I wear behind the head, as a symbolic chastity cage for a few hours. I totally sympathise with the OP on feeling weird when out with the guys, or family. Some of my old cages were too obvious under clothes, and you didn't want anyone bumping into you in a crowd, but the small cage is great. you just have to forget it's there....which can be easier said than done!!!

 

I was kept locked once for just over a year, 24/7 with zero releases. The biggest problems were physical - having to sit to pee and sometimes soreness in various ligaments or tendons. After awhile the device became a part of me and I would rarely think about it most of the time.

 

Has she learned to punish you when you do this?

 

Boredom.

I haven't seen this mentioned, but when you're talking about longer terms - running into the months -
there will be more times than not that sex (however you define it) won't be available. Somebody gets the flu, you're in a busy period at work, you're having a disagreement about something, the kids are in a mood, you have to tend to your older parents, you're caught up planning some community event, and other things that derail even vanilla couples will also often derail you and your partner. It could be for days, it could be for weeks, but still... you're walking around with a hunk of metal or plastic on your tonker, and nothing sexual is happening.

There have been times I've had a flu, or Mrs Edge has had a flu, and neither of us is up for anything for weeks. Right now our youngest is home from school, and some bug has been going around the house. A few months ago, our church had some big event, and she was down there every night for weeks working on something, and coming home exhausted or preoccupied.

Spending a few days locked up can be a rush. Spending a week or so, well, you can talk yourself through it. But looking at possibly three or four weeks before you have a chance to reconnect, sometimes you're facing a stretch of boredom, with little or no opportunity for relief.

 

The problems change over time I 've found.

Initially my biggests problem was getting the right combination of ring size and spacer length so that the lenght of time between being unlocked was purely based on my then partner's whim and maintenance needs.

Then it was how to utilise my PA to best prevent any kind of pull-out.

Getting used to the idea that it seems to have transpired that I now desire an opportunity to be allowed an erection far more than I even think about having an orgasm

There has been a constant search for the right cage ... though this current one is doing well we'd still like to find a UK based person to make us one

More recently the new challenge is that when I am allowed out for maintenance to not have an unauthorised erection.
The last accidental but still unauthorised one was in september and I have not been allowed one since, although there is more to that but not relevant to the thread.

 

Really long term is always more rewarding than you'd imagine, and less fun than you'd think....but that's normal.

 

I'm going to agree with Mr Allen here. My wife/KH has a health issue that sometimes leaves her wiped for several weeks. Once she took pity on me after about three weeks of being locked up with less than zero sexual interaction, but most of the time I'm just left locked up with no release and told to deal with it.

Those times get difficult.

 

Haha! A true KH! She’s not concerned about his frustration, ability to sleep, or daily trials, she’s just annoyed by metal detectors ; )

 

Sometimes she punishes me (spanking, thwacking). Sometimes she will give me a climax. Sometimes the cage goes away for a week, if I’m really bad.

 

Great thread with some inspiring and relatable experiences!

 

Very well stated Tom. The appeal of chastity is the dynamic between the wearer and the keyholder. (and the wearer and himself if self-locked) If circumstances remove (not just delay, which can be a different story) the dynamic, there's not much point.

I also agree with your point that a short period where you are "forgotten" in chastity can be fun, long term without any interaction is just boring.

Viva the variety!