While I realize it is a strong fantasy for a lot of us (myself included), I see a lot of honest accounts of those who never want to have an orgasm again. Ever. Permanent denial. I'm sure most people fall short of that steep goal but so many implement cages with rivets, glue, locks with keys thrown in the ocean... I can think of worse things but why never again?
Different strokes for different folks, but for me it's knowing if I was free, I could. The parts are still there, still work, but they're trapped just out of reach. That makes it tantalizing, as opposed to cutting it off or damaging it beyond use.
As much as I enjoy giving up control, I still enjoy orgasms, so I still need the hope of one. I am no where near permanent denial, but even if it got very long term, I would need to know that it still might happen. I never understood castration either. Giving up the desire to orgasm seems counterintuitive to what all this chastity seems to bring out.
Some refer to permanent lockup. Some refer to permanent orgasm denial. For my wife and I it would not work. With no hope of an orgasm my pleasure in anticipating an orgasm will be gone and chastity will then not be fun for me. My wife quickly realized that if she never gave me an orgasm, she has no more control over me. She cannot threaten to lengthen my denial period plus I would lose interest in sex and not look forward to sex at all. As it stands now, every time we have sex there can be an orgasm for me. My wife mixes it up. She could deny me for 4 months or 4 weeks. I never know. I thought I was going to get an orgasm for xmas but did not. Maybe on New Year's Eve but maybe on Valentine's Day. I have incentive to be well behaved and something to look forward too. I can never give up my orgasms forever. While I do not like short chastity periods because I do not like to start over again so soon. But as with all fetishes, people do them all different ways. Funny that when I started fetish sex 47 years ago, there was no internet or cable TV. Porn required an 8mm projector so I never saw a porn film. There was Penthouse's Variations but I thought they are all phony stories until I started doing some of them in real life. I had nothing to go on at all and even after the internet I never visited a sex site. Only last year did I learn the names for what we did. I was in a Poly Triad and to us it was just our normal life. Same with all the BDSM stuff we did over the years. There is no right or wrong way.
For some I am sure they have issues with being a boy and hate their lives being governed by their testosterone . As such locking on a permanent basis especially with full belts and almost total concealment is a good solution . Just stopping short of chemical or surgical castration. For others getting so out of the habit of climaxing and the post climax blues , permanent is a good choice. Likely having worked up to that over several long lock ups. For others it's the ultimate sacrifice to who ever holds their keys. For most blokes what is between their legs is the most important thing in their lives. I guess others will come up with some other reasons. Xx Wendy
When I was allowed to have as many orgasms as I liked I had most through masturbation. The orgasms became too easy, I did it through boredom, a sense of well I might as well, nothing else to do. Sex with my Wife happened a few times a month and wasn't always successful. Since I gave up orgasms I get almost nightly sexual or at least sensual interaction with my Wife. She has become much more sexually confident and we are trying out all sorts of different new things. Why would I want to go back to the way things were when I got to cum whenever I wanted? My Wife has gone from having maybe two orgasms a month to having had 72 so far this year, with a few days left. I am hoping she will ask for at least one more. From about 24 a year to 72, and that in a year where life, business and illness has stopped any sex for at least three months. She could have had close to 100 orgasms, four times as many as normal, and this is only our first full year keeping me chaste. My response to her electrifies her, turns her on more than anything I have ever done to her in the past. Her attention to me feeds my resolve, keeps me going. Permanent is a definite possibility, we don't know, we are seeing how things go. It is still early days yet. I had five orgasms this year and I would imagine I won't have as many next year. All of those orgasms were before August and four of them were in the first half of the year. My Wife is getting used to her level of control and it only appears to be going in one direction. By the way, if it isn't clear, I absolutely love it!