Is tease and denial the right message to be giving out?

Your reply doesn't answer my question.

 

I don't understand how you can be here and bas tell us all we are practicing chastity is not the right way.
Alot of us are here becuase this site provides us with an open door to sharing what we are going through as well as connecting with a community of people we don't have access to in out everyday life.
I suppose we could all say we disagree with how you use chastity.
Who decided that youre right and we are wrong.
Maybe your jelous of all the wife's that have husband to lovingly tease.
It's all about what you make it, not what other people tell you it should be about.
For mostofus this is not a buisness this is real life.

 

Personally, no; it's a joint pleasure.

Do you see it as a thing purely for your pleasure?
And if so, what form does that pleasure take?

 

Wasn't going to get into this thread, because nothing is quite as tedious as kink-policing, but IMHO if their cages have an odor anything like that, you both have much different problems than teasing.

And on the topic of kink-policing... don't we have enough people in the world trying to restrict our intimacy with each other to their notion of the right way? Why do it to each other?

 

I can only speak from my own limited experience so I'm not saying I'm right. Good luck to you men who are kept in chastity by your wife, girlfriend, partner etc that must be wonderful.
I locked myself up a couple of times for short periods, but of course could release myself anytime I wanted, which defeats the object somewhat.
I found Mistress Lucy and started to talk to her and found myself fascinated by her and knew I wanted to submit to her and serve her. I asked to be allowed to be in chastity to her.
Do I love being in chastity ? No not by itself but it is one way of showing Mistress Lucy my devotion and obedience. I found it difficult especially at the start. I have written else where how supportive and helpful Mistress Lucy has been to me.
I speak to Mistress Lucy everyday and when I have explained my frustration and said I didn't think I could go on Mistress has been very kind to me and encouraged me to go on. Mistress Lucy had given me permission to take my device off but I so want to show my devotion and obedience that I am still wearing it.
Mistress Lucy is a very kind lady and has helped and supported me with events in my life far removed from Fetlife Chastity Mansion etc, for which I will always be grateful.
What do I get out of it ? The pleasure in the knowledge I am making Mistress Lucy happy and showing my devotion and obedience. As I've reached set targets Mistress Lucy has sent me some beautiful gifts. I'm not sure I can say what they are but they are beautiful and I love and cherish them. Along with the beautiful photos Mistress Lucy has sent me they are now on the shrine I have made to Mistress Lucy.
So why do I wear it ? Because I know how lucky I am to serve Mistress Lucy and I will do all I can to make her happy and serve her the best that I can.
Believe me I get a lot out of this and consider myself very lucky.
Some of you may not agree with this, you may think we are wrong, don't do it right etc. I respect your opinions and views and hope you respect ours.
We all have our ways of doing things, let's enjoy our ways and let others enjoy there's.
We're all different. Have fun and stay safe.

 

It seems that ML is unhappy that her potential client-base often has the wrong idea about what goods/services she provides. Well, welcome to the world of commerce! My experience is that even with a large advertising budget, web pages, fact-sheets, the works you spend a significant part of your time telling people what they want is not your product/not anyone's product/a physical impossibility - frequently all three.

If you can't cope with the hassle that causes there is a simple solution - shut up shop.

 

My cock smells like a fresh cut daisy, so you're missin' out, hunny.

 

So much for live and let live

 

Try using that one on the IR and the HMRC - they enjoy a good laugh

 

So why the upset if they decide they don't want to locked by you?
It's no skin off your nose is it?

BTW; this isn't about kink-policing, it's about kink-expectation.
Your expectation seems to differ from that of most of your lockees.

 

i will say that when i started out in chastity, granted it was mere months ago (September), it was more for myself. That said, as i progressed, both i and my Wife realized that it truly was for Her.

i am locked now (was unlocked for our vacation at the end of October) since early November and have not been teased physically at all. Nor do I expect it. In fact i won't be unlocked at all until at least the new year. Thankfully i wear a device that is easily cleaned in the shower, so hygiene is not a problem.

my chastity is pure service to Her. So, no. Tease and denial is not an aspect of this arrangement (unless She decides to have fun).

She does have me do tasks and assignments, and the reward is little to nothing aside from the happiness that service provides.


Now, hypothetically if i were to approach someone at random on a site and they asked for something in return for their participation, i would either leave them alone (if i didn't like the terms) or oblige.

Heaping scorn on someone or arguing who has terms you don't agree with is futile. Respectfully decline and move on to someone else. No need for insults or abuse.

 

How do the short-term lockees know what the long term expectations are?

Could be as simple as you stating that you don't provide any tease services, simply denial.

 

i would also like to add that every Keyholder is different. Some want monetary gifts. Some simply wish to hold the key and forget the chaste. Some wish to abuse and humiliate. Some wish to tease and deny. All those (and more) are all valid methods of holding sway over the chaste. i've even read of the chaste being dominant towards the submissive Keyholder.

Everyone has different ideas and ideals.

i believe the saying goes something like... "Your kink is not my kink, but Your kink is okay." Or that's okay or something thereabouts.

In any case. If Mistress Lucy does not wish to tease (arguably She does tease in Her own way... Her photos are the bomb) and simply subscribes to the denial aspect of chastity, so be it. We can all say our piece and move on without disrespecting each other.

 

Why don't you tell them to stop browsing the internet for ideas becuase I'm sure they don't get them all from here...the internet is a big place Lucy.
And saying you don't provide a service is completely untrue. You hold thier keys...that in itself is a service..... that you supposedly get nothing out of. I have looked through your pictures and seen how many keys you have. And you do it all for nothing? You have command centre set up for goodness sakes... so you sit there for hours a day controlling these people becuase they all serve you?Maybe I smell a bit of bullshit.
It's work to be a KH.
My sub is my lover and I want him to be happy. Teasing him is a pleasure for me as well as it keeps him on edge and willing to adore me.

Good personal hygiene should be very infortant.
I would never let my man get smelly. That's gross. I think my man deserves to be clean. And if you leave your subs locked to get stinky well then I wouldn't want you holding my key.