The reality of ruined orgasm (one of many I am sure)

I would have been super happy to have that experience! My Wife is just beginning to talk about perhaps having a go at ruining my orgasms and that has taken her four months to get to that point. She has started enjoying rubbing my bottom but certainly hasn't gone as far as inserting anything or massaging my prostate.

 

Cogman I know how you feel. I'm experiencing the same thing right now. Mistress and I were playing the other night and she decided I needed a ruined orgasm after almost 2 months since any type of orgasm. I felt really bummed and depressed right afterwards and even days later still trying to snap out of this funk. I'm thinking I'll be back to my old self in a few more days I'm hoping. The more she T&Ds me the better I feel though.

 

So you got ruined............lucky stiff!

Next time read the fine print - it's not about your pleasure!

 

I agree with Stevepie, its not all about you, its about her controlling your orgasms....and that she seems to be doing very well.

 

My Wife/Mistress seems to be determined that I be completely "Docile" (Her term) most all of the time, so I get frequent prostate milkings to keep my tank on empty. No orgasms/ejaculation is ever involved; I just can feel the seminal fluid moving through my ducts, but never the pleasure of an orgasm. It's a really rare occasion when I am permitted an O, but I have come to look forward to being milked.... its just so humiliating to be controlled in that way.

 

I love having my orgasms ruined. It's actually what I secretly hope for every time I'm unlocked. This week I had 3 ruined orgasms and felt great after each one. Eagerly cleaned up and was at peace. I then had a proper one and instantly I felt detached and numb. My key holder noticed it too, she thought she was being nice to me, I had to remind her that when I cum like that I slip back into the old me and lose focus.

 

@Steviepie ...oh the fine print, I must have missed that part

 

Is a ruined orgasm an orgasm or just ruined?

 

I actually think it's very natural to feel like that after a ruined orgasm. I would think after years of conditioning that you have gotten use to feeling a certain (different) way after orgasming and when it's ruined that feeling is totally different. I like that my boy feels disappointed after ruined orgasms, that's half the fun for me. I suggest writing a journal entry about it instead of complaining next time. See if that helps!

 

My last ruined orgasm, not very long ago, was interesting. I had some of the usual pleasurable "ramp-up", for sure, but the actual ejaculation was barely felt. She used a very strong vibrator, directly on my cage, and after a little teasing, she just went "brute force" on me and it took me to the edge so damn fast, I barely was ready and it ended all so fast as well. If that was edging... it was like someone visiting the Grand Canyon, when they're afraid of heights... they could see the edge, and it was crazy close for them... but man, it was so not close in reality. With only a few drops coming out before the whole experience ended... abruptly... I was left, this time, with a huge feeling of, well, it's hard to say other than "Dammit... keep going!!!!". Other times it's been still a little fulfilling, and at least there'd be a meal of my own cum, and maybe a sniff of her wet pussy from time to time, when it ended and I went back into the cage, but maybe this time because I was locked at the time, it was quicker to come on and so much more of a mind-f**k and I only got to taste a few drops... I can literally feel the rest of the cum sitting in there, going "WTF?". lol . I'm still sitting here wishing for the feeling again... even the tiny, small drops of cum coming out felt better than this, aftermath of "dammit". I hope she doesn't do that again... Actually, I hope she does do that again. Sigh.

 

Ruined orgasms are exciting for me. But that is because I want to be dissatisfied. I find them uncomfortable, dissatisfying, and disappointing. Uncomfortable because I desperately want stimulation just at that point and can do nothing about it. Dissatisfying because I didn't get stimulation to make the climax feel fully satisfying, and disappointing because I find I do loose some of the edge of excitement with out the satisfaction of full climax. So the idea is exciting but only because it is demonstration of M's ability to do something to me that I don't want at the time.

I do find that some sessions end with a sense of let down. I attribute that to my own anticipation of a certain experience and the actual session not quite measuring up to that. Regardless, I'm always very appreciative. There is no way that M can predict exactly what I want or will respond.

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Ruined orgasms are perfect for controlling the submissive. I myself find as much as I really want a full orgasm I do enjoy being kept on that horny summit. Queen doesn't like my 'cocky cum down'. The most frustrating one is when she just knocks the top off so to speak and a little bit of semen comes out. I remain horny as hell.