One of the reasons given for being in chastity is you are no wasting time on pornography, etc. Cool! That would be a bonus, because I can really waste a lot of time doing that. Another reason is that it keeps you horny and focused on sex (with your partner, usually). That's totally fun! I love the feeling of being constantly aroused and excited. Wheee! Well, I'm finding this to be a massive contradiction. Not orgasming or masturbating does nothing to reduce my interest in online stimulation. It increases it as I find I am always seeking reinforcement and encouragement from places like Chastity Mansion, from Tumblr blogs, etc. When I do have sex but am denied I am not satiated, I am even more horny and obsessed. One caveat: I have never been locked up. We haven't reached that step yet. I have been on the honor system. I do not know if being in a device would change anything, although I imagine not being able to get an erection would have an effect. But mostly I imagine if I had a cage on my cock I'd just be obsessed and distracted by that. There is no device (or possibly even a person) that can create discipline in me to stay focused on other things and not fall into obsession with sexuality. Thoughts? Thanks...
porn loses its luster when your caged, at least for me. Though I do still look at chastity stuff on tumblr. Its difficult at times with a raging erection being stifled by the cage. I can only take small increments of it. While looking at the pictures are fun you realize they arent doing much for you and for me it kind of pushes me to get motivated and take my mind off of it.
Kali's Teeth or the Iron Maiden would put a damper on the porn watching as getting hard in one is very, very painfull.
If anything I think I look at it more when caged. The cage may be a reminder, and the arousal without relief may stimulate endorphins to fill the bloodstream. I look and look and look, then I just stop.
I tend to look at more chastity related kink when in my cage. When out I find that I look less because soon as I get excited I would/will masturbate and get a orgasm. Once I orgasm the interest drops of course. There is a bit of enjoyment and torment being in the device and not being able to get a orgasm only making me more aware of my situation, which I enjoy the most.
Locked or honor system, I don't masturbate anymore. I feel more attachment and devotion since I gave up masturbation (over 300 days since!). I haven't cut out porn though. It's still a draw, but not nearly as much. I used to get deeper and deeper into an obsession with porn when I masturbated. Now that's stopped. I find being locked can sometimes make me more focused on porn. I don't think a device would magically create discipline. You'll find milking and vibrators and such-like. I think the discipline is mental self control. It's possible. While I enjoy enforced chastity fantasies, and being able to "let go", I find there's a really cool power to maintain self control. That said, being locked in inescapable chastity is a awesome head-trip. What it most helps with is waking up at 3am, with only your hind brain to talk you into cheating. Wandering fingers finding warm steel instead of flesh, with no hope of pull out... It's almost comforting to be locked.
The cage on your penis is the easy, physical part and the lock that having the cage on puts on your mind is a much more powerful emotional part. When caged, I tend to think and act much more feminine and subservient. It's like my testosterone has been diminished altogether! I love my feminine side!
For all my locked dicks, there is also the addition of technology restrictions. I create a 'clean' user profile on their computer (usually the guest account), let them transfer work documents and stuff, then install qustodio internet control- deny them access to Dropbox etc and filter internet access. The same is done on smart phones and tablets using the same app. It all gets monitored remotely by me, and I get a daily email to confirm their internet use. I can also restrict which programs/apps they can access so tumble is out too. Works quite well actually.
@oakbisubmwm I think you find best answers to all your queries once you are locked & keys are handed over! What you think and what you actually experience is far different!
For me, chastity in no way reduces libido or "enables me to focus on other things". Quite the contrary, and that's also part of the reason I am drawn to it. It increases libido by elevating the "baseline erotic charge", keeping the stove hot as it were. And I guess that's also the reason why in my experience my stints can only last a couple of months - sooner or later the energy runs out, the fires die down and the chastity loses its luster. That being said, I'm always open for the possibility of the right key holder managing to keep me going through longer stints. I've also learned that for some people chastity actually helps them take their mind off sex and lets them focus on other things. Power to them for that, I guess we're all different.
I think that every body feels something different when the lock snaps and the keys are turned over. That's part of the excitement of Chastity to me. The old saying "Be careful what you wish for" is ever so true since it can be a different experience for each person - both the KH and the wearer. I started out thinking that this was just a way for Mistress to exercise control and now it has turned into more of a symbol of my inner femininity. Over time, It has served to take my mind off of sexual things and onto other more productive things and my moods more calm and relaxed.. I've had lots of different emotions along the way, but I still love it.
Thanks for the tip on Qustodio. I installed it myself and then sent my Domme the codes...that was a wonderful submissive thrill to have my computers locked up and under her control. She loved getting the alert the first time I accidentally checked Tumblr... I've just ordered my first device, Holy Trainer 2, we are finally ready to see what enforced chastity can do. I need to be more focused and productive, and if it softened my moods that would be miraculous.
I'm finding that my own femme nature is coming out the more I do this. It's making her a bit uncomfortable, frankly.
Don't ya love it when your "own femme nature is coming out the more I do this"? I agree that the longer I'm into the chastity mindset, the more and more feminine I feel. I love the calmness of my demeanor lately and the feeling of being cared for/about that comes with being a sissy and serving a powerful woman.
I used to get a lot more fragile from the lack of sleep due to cyka attached to my balls waking me up. but, Now I have more sleep and focus on the things to keep my mind off it, but I find myself sometimes to collect more porn, but not reading it. it doesn't help me just makes me frustrated, and have a hard time sleeping. sleep is much needed to preform academically and physical tasks.