Not sure where we fit in here ! We have always had an ultra vanilla sexual relationship and marriage, absolutely nothing other than straight intercourse (always missionary) without any contraception since we have been married and mutual masturbation - by hand never oral or anything else. I am now just past my menopause and we have agreed to limit our sex lives to my relieving my husband (hand job) two or three times a month, always in our night clothes (so no actual contact). I am forbidden any sexual activity of any kind and he is not allowed anything other than that time, which is entirely at my gift, so he often goes for several weeks completely without release.
Interesting story. May I ask why you are forbidden? Indeed, use of male chastity as a facilitator of your new chapter would work beautifully. One need not think in terms of "kink". Simply a subtle reminder that his release is to be limited and only when deemed appropriate. I find it loving and respectful.
I don't have much interest in doing anything - maybe just occasionally but am forbidden because he likes that I am very feminine, asexual and virginal.
Ah yes, perhaps even MORE appropriate then that your husband adopt a chaste outlook. There are similar characteristics in my marriage. There's a purity of her that I should not sully by my own selfish desires. She's too precious.
The both of you are very encouraging to me. Male chastity is not "just a kink". It's a way to honor a precious woman in her amazing beauty. I have much more to say on the topic, but I don't wish to "hi jack" your thread. Happy to share more commentary off line if it helps.
Hello Tradwife. This sounds very much like how Me and my wife are. Except she loves me giving her oral.
We have never done oral or anything else like that, I am completely celibate now and will be for the future. My husband is not caged or anything but he is also completely celibate accept for my relieving him when I choose.
I think if he has forbidden you from have any further sexual experiences, the very least he can do is be locked in a cage, with you holding the key.
Even so, it would be a constant reminder to him that he has given that up for you. I have enough self control that I can be uncaged without masturbating, but I still prefer to be caged. And it would be a way that he can prove to you that he isn't self-pleasuring behind your back. As you would be the keyholder, you would need to unlock him in order for you to relieve him, which would further emphasize that you are in charge of that.
Erm.. both of you seem to be asexual.. neither need sexual gratification.. and your husband is not suggesting anything…other than occasional handjob which he could do without.. erm… will he masturbate in your absence..? Are you ok with that..? If not.. you can lock him up in a cage and only you will remove it for a quick handjob by you too… Erm.. are you a dominating person..? Will you insist celibracy on his part since you are not getting it too…?
I have done oral once with my wife. I think it frustrats her, because if I lose the spot then she has to start over. Practice should make you perfect, I say
When we have sex, it always starts with me giving her oral. I made it a goal for myself when we got married 7 years ago that she will cum before I do, if I even cum. This has forced me to up my oral game and I can 95% of the time make her cum before I even penetrate. Sometimes when she comes she will just roll over and want to cuddle. I am sexually stressed then, but have a huge feeling of being content having made her feel good. So satisfying either way, and I'm so glad I pushed myself to make her happy from the start so it was only habit once I was caged
To me this seems that he is very controlling, would you like sex any more or are you just going along with his wishes...why does he get all the pleasure and you none ! Life is short and you should enjoy everything you can...just my opinion
In the mansion full of penis; locked and only used for the pleasure of the KH. The irony of this comment has made my day!
It seems controlling to me too, but then it is easy to judge without knowing more. I am curious why @TradWife ? I think it goes much deeper than "he wants me this way". Why do you not consider sex as a good thing for pleasure, not just for procreation?
Late to this thread, but I’m confused by the original post. I thought “vanilla” meant “no kinks” or having “ordinary” sexual relations. I don’t consider positions other than missionary or oral sex “kink”. They are mainstream these days aren’t they? Seems to me being asexual is the outlier here.