Morning! I'm curious if there is a section on this site, or a forum that anyone is aware of that is for keyholders only and requires an invite and verification. My wife and I have been off and on with chastity for 5 years, but just recently really started to commit to the lifestyle, both on my end as her sub and her end as my key holder. She has been reading books and researching more and more and has really been taking off and getting comfortable in her role (which has been an amazing experience for both of us!).... anyways, she's at a point to where it would be really helpful to have a private community to discuss thoughts, feelings, ideas etc that is for the key holders only. Thanks in advance for you help!
Very happy to help, David. A few of us Chastity Wives and Girlfriends as I've called us, have started up a private Slack community (kinda like a clever facebook group but lets you be anonymous - literally only 7 of us, and I don't plan on making it much bigger). It's been great so far, although it's early days - just chatting about where we're at, encouraging each other, no drama, nice and friendly. We really don't take any of it too seriously, just share what works for each of us, and encourage each other to relax and have fun with this amazing kink. Even unknowingly you guys put a lot of pressure on us and it's been so nice just to have a safe space to work it all through and get inspiration from others in the same boat. I also use it for testing out ideas for my tumblr blog so I get some personal feedback from people I trust and can improve things like roleplays and stories there, which is really handy (got some awesome ones written recently!) @Thatgirl is our newest member and I think/hope she's found it useful so far. Most of the 7 are women I know personally from blog though. If I don't know you, and aren't convinced someone asking join is for real then I'd come up with some kind of verification as it really is important it's ladies only. Just PM me on here or email me at keephimcaged@gmail.com and we can talk about it more if she's interested. I should add, we're very focused on monogamous chastity. If you're hoping to encourage her to try anything like cuckolding, she will find active discouragement from us (fantasies of anything are welcome though, we have just been testing an amazing gloryhole text roleplay - but it's all for fantasies only).
I am so happy I reached out and this sounds pretty much exactly what we were hoping for. Thank you for taking the time to respond and the details. To answer your last question - we are very monogamous and have no interest in taking this outside of our relationship. This is something for us and to bring us closer and enjoy all the fun that comes with that. Let me run this by her today and I'll have her reach out to your email if she is interested in seeing if your group would be a good fit and outlet. We're both in our mid-30's, family and business oriented people. We've been very vanilla up to this point and her having a group to reach out to and bounce ideas off of and discuss the things you've outlined would certainly help the both of us progress. Side note... It's true that the pressure we subconsciously put on you can be intense and I think that is a big part of why we failed when we were younger and is something I try to remain very conscious of. Thanks again, I really do appreciate it!
My pleasure, David. It sounds like she'll feel very comfortable with us. Only one of us identifies as naturally domme, the majority of us are from vanilla and/or submissive natural orientations. Have a look at my blog and go back to the early stuff using the archive to get an idea of where we're coming from if that's useful. We're mid 30s too, have two kids and run a business so very alike there too!
Ahhh I just got your name. Was trying to figure out the letters and numbers standing or sounding like something, like figuring out a personalized plate. Sub David...very clever
Having such a Forum has been mooted from time to time, including on the Mod board. Thing is: it needs Admin to set up and he's been a bit short of postings recently. But there is such a thing on chastityforums.com - is called the Keyholders Hangout. However that site, though covering similar ground to CM is else nowhere near as good, and also has bugs in it need sorted.
I think the only way it could happen is if all the ladies were verified, much like keephimcaged 's group.
I don't know how the verification would work on CM, or works in that group. On chastityforums the group works OK, except that there aren't that many posts on it. Admission is by application and considered on a case by case basis. I think on this site it would need to be for established members only. I raised it with Admin some time ago when he was planning all sorts of new things for CM but it (and other ideas) seem to be somewhat on the back burner till Admin can have the time to do the needful.
Many members (including me) don't and won't post personal photos of themselves for all sorts of (mainly vanilla) reasons.
They can still be risky. I'd be very uneasy indeed. And I know another Member put up on CM an 'anonymous' pic of herself (removed since) and regretted it. We had PM about it.
I would love to chat with more ladies on here. I haven't had much luck finding women on here. (Or ones I can remotely relate to). I quite enjoyed seeing multiple people on this thread posting about their monogamous relationship and using chastity as a way to be closer to one another. That is exactly what my husband and I have found to be true of chastity. We are in a committed loving relationship and chastity has been the cherry on top
Well I cannot see it anywhere not even as a Mod. I did hear somewhere way way backalong that there might have been one. Can you tell me where it is/was?
She lurked for a couple of weeks, not sure if she ever posted. It was Mixture of too many men posting fantasies and the most active thread at the time was one of yours that had ended up a mud slinging match about something (can't remember what the specifics were). I think it just felt a bit cliquey for her. If there had been a female area to keep the testosterone out I think she'd have engaged a bit more with it.