Is tease and denial the right message to be giving out?

This year has seen several periods of no tease and denial. My Wife has been ill and both of us have travelled for business. She just had three weeks in England working and almost as soon as she got back I was away for a week. Earlier in the year she had an operation and there was several weeks where she wasn't in the mood or able to engage in any fun of any sort let alone sexual.

The thing I struggle with is when we go through periods of me not being able to give her pleasure such as oral or the wonderful intimate yoni massage. Even when we go through these times I am still interested because of the deeper, more intense, more loving relationship that we have gained through my chastity.

 

Maybe not to you but to my husband I am. I would rather be one man's QUEEN then a bunch of slaves goddess. I have unconditional love and adoration. I have someone to wake up to everyday who respects me. Like I have said previously, to me you are no goddess.
and what do you have?
Nothing, you actually have nothing.
Will these slaves actually take care of you in life? Probably not.... even though I'm sure you think they will.

We are here for our real lives.
Not because we have a job to do.

 

@LQsLady - you know you can change what your well known status says? I am "well-known" as well but chose to put something else

 

Oh yes I know.

 

I'm sure you're only describing your own feelings about yourself Lucy, though you may not see the wood for trees.
I can see that you have very rewarding relationships with some of your locked boys, and gain some sense of emotional security from their long devotion to you, and really, that is very heartening to see.

But none of us see you the way you have described yourself - that is your own description of yourself, no-one else's.
I wish you thought more of yourself.

 

I thought your OP was about those who didn't show devotion to you.

 

I wouldn't say 'on trial', but I am extremely curious about how your non-service service works and what gratification you personally are deriving from it.

 

I'd not go as far as to say put on trial - but questioned on some of your statements, certainly.

For instance, there's the statements about services, there's the idea you have that you don't tease at all when every image you post is so strongly sexualised.
So you must forgive us for questioning that - some do get a bit outraged by some of your statements it's true, but I think it's all meant as general questioning rather than meaning to put you on a pillory in any way.

 

Really? Come on...you make videos of you taking of knee high boots and stocking becuase it's fun? Who are you trying to kid?
Obveously know know those are kinks for men.

 

Curious doesn't mean bothered.

It seems strange to me that someone as well versed as yourself in male chastity would be surprised that some of your lockees become frustrated and drop out relatively early when it becomes apparent to them that all they have to look forward to when interacting with you is a further period of lockup.
That you have gathered a small collection of men who are satisfied with that alone is quite remarkable.
The picture your profile includes of the 'failures' all seem to wearing plastic tube type CB-series devices. Again, someone as knowledgeable as yourself should know it would be impossible to wear one of these for weeks on end.
I'm also curious about what satisfaction you derive from this. I posed a few questions earlier in the thread which have gone unanswered.

 

But it is certainly what attracts them. I'm not sure you can separate the two actually.

You choose to dress in an overtly sexual manner, with massive nods to pre-conceived notions of femininity. You could if you chose pose in sack-cloth and paint stained workboots, with a crew-cut and no make-up - but this is not what you like. Your own sense of how you like to dress for you are informed by a sexualised notion of femininity, and if you cannot see it then that is down to a lack of self-awareness on your part.

 

I've been visiting the Mansion a lot less frequently in the light of recent events, and thought I would drop in today. This discussion is a reminder of why I stopped visiting regularly. From the outside, what I can see is a group of 'school bullies' who have all decided to take the same position, then 'ganging up' to explain to someone else how they are living their life wrong. Isn't this supposed to be a place for interaction and discussion, for learning from the experiences of others? How has it ended up a kangaroo court again instead? I'm not joining in the argument, just felt the need to show my disappointment at those looking to criticise for no reason other than to pick fault and try to look superior.

 

I think Mistress Lucy could dress in a sack cloth and gum boots and look absolutely stunning. She would discover a way of making it work. She has an inventive mind.

Why does everybody need to know what it is that she gets out of her arrangements with her boys? Isn't it sufficient to know that she loves what she does and, seemingly, others do too?

The pics that she posts are gorgeous. Does anybody seriously want them to stop? She is a woman who is so obviously comfortable with the power of her femininity and beauty that she has decided to have some fun ... More power to her! My only complaint is that I can't find the Bumble Bee pics ... removing them, now that IS a tease!!

 

I don't think that's what is is at all. I think Lucy opened up a conversation. She asked a question that insinuated we were giving everyone the wrong inpression of what chastity is. We are clearly asking our own questions in return.
Lots that Lucy has decided to just ignore.
No one has called her any names or really put her down in any way. Are we all not as entitled to our own assumptions as she is?
She is the one putting herself down. Saying the nasty things about women in her position, not anyone else.


AND NOW FOR MY QUESTION?..
I would like to know where Lucy decided that chastity should not have T&D? WHO told you that men are not allowed to expect anything?
And if they do why does it matter where it came from?
If you don't like what people are learning from this site why did you come back?

 

Sorry that was more than one

 

Those of us males who like being controlled by women do not share the ancient opinions of the jerks who treat women badly.

 

Recent events have definitely made me be very careful joining in with this thread. I am therefore hoping that, if you go carefully through each of my posts, you will see that in no way have I been bullying @Mistress Lucy. Despite her objection it was Lucy who opined that anyone who included tease and denial in their practice of chastity was giving the wrong message. I have been careful to say that neither version of chastity is wrong, they are so different they cannot be compared.

If you start a conversation with the opinion that people are doing something wrong then you have to expect that those accused are going to defend their position. Some have been more forceful than others and it has to be said that Lucy has forcefully stood her corner as well.

And @frankie teardrop please could you remind me where someone has told Lucy to stop posting her pictures? As far as I have read the only thing said in reference to her images is they are a form of teasing. I can't think of anyone who has told her to stop. Well, apart from Lucy herself that is.