Yes I have been here before but some how this is different. This time my wife knows and approves. For the old timers here I accept your life style, to those visitors I say, your presence her is because you seek something, look and pass by if you do not approve. I pass no judgement and would appreciate the same consideration. SHOULD YOU SHARE NO INTEREST PLEASE THIS PAGE NOW For those that do read on please accept this entry as it relates some of my wife and more especially my life. I / we have been dabbling in chastity for about 3 years. With reluctance V (my wife) has humored me and to varying degrees enjoyed some of the benefits of keeping me locked. I think to a large degree us men visit sites like these for some sort of relief from our sexual fantasies and desires. I and possibly I am not alone, I explored the net looking at the many adult web sites, What was I looking for, a release from my sexual frustrations. After 18 years of marriage I still have not learnt to really listen to V until a heart to heart a few weeks ago. In the past our sex lives was driven by me, chastity was driven by me. Yes V has locked me up anything from 7 to 100 days. Her only complaint was that obsessed about sex when I was locked. Yes V enjoyed my co operative nature when locked but in retrospect she wished she had the co operation with out the bother of my obsessing aside from that she would have had me under permanent lock up. I know that I love my wife. After, I also know due to the varying terms in chastity, that I love to pleasure my wife and adore making her feel wonderful. It gives me no greater pleasure to see V in enjoying receiving pleasure and try and extend this pleasure zone. Thus far I feel it has been a very admirable indulgence of my fantasies. Her wits end was quickly reached when I was unable to stop obsessing. For the record this was normally after about a month of chastity. So in essence I was playing a game that I hoped V would take seriously. My life is very stressful and I carry the responsibility of many clients with huge amounts of money at steak. I think my game was a wish for someone to take control of those hours when I can forget the hassles of every day life. V my sole mate tried and I, regret my inability to see this and appreciate her attempts to accommodate me. TO THE PRESENT The last lockup was Dec/Jan 2010 for about 20 days but ended in mutual failure due to a faulty device. Discomfort levels were to high. I had not reached "critical mass" but we called it off. V was in no way frustrated and quiet frankly she was more / very willing participant and was, (in my assessment) frustrate by the shortness of the lock up. I corresponded with the manufacture about the problems experienced. The apologies offered were accepted and a full refund was made. Any how Jan passed to Feb to March. The device supplier contacted us and offered a revised device for trial at no charge, provided the device was tested for at least 3 months. V and I discussed it and she said that if the offer was on the table we must accept. Frankly this was a new revelation. V has medical problems and has severe bad mass problems,(which has been a little problem in my life due to V's self consciousness as a result),so with the arrival of the device we agreed that she would adhere to an approved weight loss program and for so long as she did, and lost 45 KG, at at least 3Kg per month, I would not ask for a release. She accepted on the spot. Another revelation. With another device failure V said I must re - create a full metal belt, ( if any one is interested please ask) and now April has passed in lockup with V and I both agree,it is desirable. So here we are 28 days, this time V appears to want it. V and I are in a comfort zone. if any one read this far I will post more if interested.