you can get a good base from some books. It can be fun reading them together as well. my wife and I both enjoyed Marissa Rudder books. She talks about chastity and living an FLR. Seeing your Queen/KH empowered can be very erotic. Every FLR is different, and there is no one way of doing it. As a couple you have to choose what aspects you want and don't want In your relationship. Some FLR the sub is a slave, as for mine my wife is the Queen and i am her knight. It is my duty to support her in all things from relationship decisions to house work chores. She decides how and when i am granted an O. She treats me with respect and it isn't really noticeable in public. She does not touch a door handle or pull out her chair, but then isn't that what a gentleman is supposed to do anyway? It is also good to have a contract that you both agree upon and sign. That way you both know your boundaries and expectations and the consequences of not meeting those expectations. Good luck to you both.