I've been posting a few times since my intro, so thought I'd get started with my journal. My experience started last Fall, so I'll try to catchup without being too lengthly. My spouse/KH and I are fiftyish and live a fairly normal lifestyle, I guess. We are openminded and willing to try different things in the sexual arena. During the last year, she & I have noticed that our sex life has been on the decline. She wondered if it was her, but I knew it was my fault. I travel a lot for work, and masturbate way too much when I'm away from home. So much so that, sometimes, I have been unable to perform with her at home. This worried both of us, but I still didn't talk honestly to her about it. I came upon the idea of a CD while surfing online and decide that, maybe this would help with my problem, and also spice up our sex life a bit. However, I did everything wrong in introducing her to the idea. First, I ordered a CB 6000 online without telling her. She discovered it when it was delivered, so I was busted and had to come clean. I spilled my guts about masturbating too much and everything. She was curious about the device and we experimented with it a few times but it took quite a few weeks to find the right ring/spacer combination for me. Then the Holiday period rolled around and things kind of came to a halt. While reading online I found out about "Chastity, A Keyholder's Guide", and decide to order it, again, without telling her. We already had some toys and a vibrator/massager, which we play with on occasion. To cut to the chase, seems every time I sprung a new purchase on her, it irritated her that much worse. Not necessarily the purchase, but the not telling her what I was doing. However, she read the book and other articles I gave her. When we did have a talk about it, she said he would be my KH, but this would be on her terms & her timetable. She was still uncomfortable going out in public with me wearing the CD and the possibility that friends and family would discover it. What would have been the right way to do it? I think I should have included her in on the idea of chastity from the start, consulted her on the CD purchase, and surfed the web together to learn more about the lifestyle. Why do us males aways screw things up? Bottom line is that she has agreed to be my KH, and is interested in exploring this lifestyle, despite all my screwups. This is a testament to what a great lady she is and how much she loves me. I am a very lucky man. I'll close this post before I put everyone to sleep. I'll post again soon about my first locked up period.