So how do you spoil your Keyholder?

Well said and a great example. You sound very committed.

How you describe your relationship is very close to my own. There are no lists, no contracts, no points. Those are too much work for her to manage. Your approach imposes no extra work upon her. It is your commitment that makes it work for you both. Nice.

 

Same. Although there are a few rules. Nothing written, just understood. And obviously never questioned.

But it's obvious that chastity "as the guy imagines it" can be a lot of work for the wife. And that's probably why it fails a big percentage of the time for a lot of men, because they're pushing their view of how it should be while pretending to be taking leadership from her. (Yeah, guilty here, too.)

Let go. Just fucking let go. No, really, just let the fuck go already.

 

Yes.

If male chastity is part of kinky play agreed to by all parties, then everything goes. It is just for fun.

If it is an agreed upon add-on to an FLR as a lifestyle, then it is a different mindset. It should become more about her and less about the guy. If that is what she wants. I think in the beginning, it is wise to error toward "it is about her" as she may not have enough experience to know otherwise. Start her off right so the new FLR lasts and grows.

 

On cool mornings I warm her towels while she is in the shower.
Make breakfast.
Make her an Ice cream Sundae
Open the car door for her if we go out.
I always thank her any time she allows me to do things for her.